Physician Assistant Burnout: Tips, Tools, and Interviews with PA and Life Coach Hope Cook
By Hope Cook, Physician Assistant (PA) Burnout Life Coach
I created this podcast because I’ve been there, which is also why I became a life coach. I now help other PAs like you get off the struggle bus of burnout. The tips, tools, and talks in this podcast are exactly what I needed when I was burned out!
Physician Assistant Burnout: Tips, Tools, and Interviews with PA and Life Coach Hope Cook Sep 07, 2022
#190: Do you want things to change but feel overwhelmed when you look at the big picture? Try these micro-changes.
This episode is full of small, almost too-simple changes I've made over the years to help me still like seeing patients and shift the way I think about my "have to" list.
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Want more Words of Hope? My burnout book will be coming out later this year and I'd love for you to be a beta reader or on my list for first-readers. Sign up on my website (in the comments, let me know if you'd like to be a reader). www.coachhopecook.com
If you or someone you know is a PA with an inspiring story or words of wisdom to share, please reach out via my website.
If you're interested in working together, please reach out!
#189: YouTuber Michele Cambron became a PA in her late 40's, only to realize clinical medicine wasn't a great fit. Now she makes YouTube videos to help other PAs find their path
Michele knew nothing about YouTube, but she knew there was a gap in the PA world. Cool and unique PA careers exist, but no one seems to know about them. Thus began her journey to educate PAs and NPs about all the options out there by interviewing PAs doing interesting jobs. Her Youtube channel is The Medicine Couch and here's her LinkedIn profile.
Take home points:
- If a job is a "bad fit" use it as valuable information about what to steer away from rather than beating yourself up
- If what you seek isn't out there, consider creating it yourself
- Notice what piques your interest, then investigate it with books, podcasts, blogs, or other PAs
- Be okay with imperfection; it will help you grow into a better version of you
- There's no reason to be stuck when it comes to medicine; the options are plentiful. Don't give up, keep exploring options
- Consider niching down in your practice. Figure out what interests you and make that your "thing."
- The sunk cost principle is a fallacy. You never waste the time, energy, and money you've put into your job, it will serve you in some capacity at some point.
- Support each other; we're all on the same team.
Enjoy today's episode> Share with a friend and subscribe to my podcast. Want to discuss speaking engagements with me? Reach out via my website or email, hope.cook@gmail.com
Remember dear listseners, there is always Hope.
#188: Making Bona Fide Changes to Your Job. Should You Stay and Job Craft or Leave and Start Over?
After spending time dreaming and getting to know the new you, post burnout, you'll get to a point where you're ready to make big changes. Maybe you change specialities or maybe you stay put and work part-time or change your duties. How do you know what to do? Because this is a frequent question, I decided to put all my answers in an episode to help you navigate the changes and decisions that lie ahead.
If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend and leave a review on Apple iTunes so others can find it!
Want more Words of Hope? My burnout book will be coming out later this year and I'd love for you to be a beta reader or on my list for first-readers. Sign up on my website (in the comments, let me know if you'd like to be a reader). www.coachhopecook.com
If you or someone you know is a PA with an inspiring story or words of wisdom to share, please reach out via my website.
If you're interested in working together, please reach out!
#187: Post-Burnout 2.0 Version of You, the Physician Assistant; How to Figure Out Who You Are/Who You Want to Be After The Smoke of Burnout Clears
The good news is that you won't stay in the "barely surviving" stage of burnout forever. At some point, the smoke clears, and you rise from the ashes. But you're a different version of yourself. How do you decide who you'll be going forward? What will be different?
You may be surprised at the answer!
If you found this episode helpful, share it with a friend and leave a review on Apple iTunes so others can find it!
Want more Words of Hope? My burnout book will be coming out later this year and I'd love for you to be a beta reader or on my list for first-readers. Sign up on my website (in the comments, let me know if you'd like to be a reader). www.coachhopecook.com
If you or someone you know is a PA with an inspiring story or words of wisdom to share, please reach out via my website.
If you're interested in working together, please reach out!
#186: How Physician Assistants Can Grow Stronger After Burnout and What You Need to Do BEFORE Burnout Starts
Get ready for some ah-ha moments with these powerful questions. I've noticed a pattern when I ask PAs these magic questions, and I've included them in this episode. Sit and listen when you're free of distractions so you can see what bubbles to the surface as I ask them.
Being married to a forester, we talk about controlled burns, what measures need to be taken beforehand and what they do to prevent the fire from getting out of control. Listen and reflect on your own work life and burnout.
Want more Words of Hope? My burnout book will be coming out later this year and I'd love for you to be a beta reader or on my list for first-readers. Sign up on my website (in the comments, let me know if you'd like to be a reader). www.coachhopecook.com
If you or someone you know is a PA with an inspiring story or words of wisdom to share, please reach out via my website.
If you're interested in working together, please reach out!
#185: Terry Arnold, Physician Assistant and VP (!) of Medical Affairs for a Pharma Company Shares His Career Journey and Advice For PAs Interested in Life Beyond Clinical Medicine
Did you enjoy today's podcast? Share it with another PA and subscribe! If you want more information about healing from burnout or want more resources and information (including my free mini book on recovering from burnout), come on over to my site. Find out more about coaching or upcoming events. I'd love for every one of you to pop over and say hello!
Take home points:
- Be intentional about relationships and invest in them early on and throughout your career.
- PAs have a remarkable skill set that transcends the practice of medicine. We can literally work in any industry (sales, communication, tech, publications, research, leadership, etc.)
- Always look for a sense of joy in what you do. Misery is not an option. If you're miserable, stop doing what you're doing and find something else as soon as possible.
- Prioritize balance in your life. Know what you want in your center. Live with intention and purpose
- Figure out WHAT you want, HOW you're going to achieve it, WHY it matters to you, and WHEN you want to do it.
- Time is finite. Allocate the time and resources you have in order of your priorities.
- Forgetting your core priorities or who you are as a person can lead to burnout. Invest time in contemplating who you are and what matters to you.
- Life favors the specific ask and punishes the vague wish (quote by Tim Ferris)
For Terry's LinkedIn link, click here
Podcasts mentioned: Smart Less, Tim Ferris Show, Huberman Lab, The Drive with Dr. Peter Attia
#184: Could Co-dependency Be Leading You Down the Path of Burnout?
Have you noticed that you're hypervigilant when it comes to "making" other people happy? Do you scan everyone else's emotions but rarely think about what YOU need? Does the term "self care" make you mad because you don't have time for that when you're too busy taking care of everyone and everything?
If you answered yes to any of these, you might be mixing up the perfect recipe for burnout. You might be codependent.
I've been there and I still struggle with it. Let's talk about ways to reverse it! Listen to today's episode for tips and tools to combat codependency and burnout.
For those of you who'd like to learn more about healing from burnout or who want more resources and info, come on over to my site. Find out more about coaching or hiring me for a speaking engagement, or pop over to say hello!
#183: Using a Whole Body Yes or a Whole Body No As a Clue To Help You Decide Your Next Move
Have you ever felt everything inside you say "YES!"? Or maybe "NOOO!" These are huge clues from your subconscious (also known as your gut, your spirit, your intuition, or your essential self). I'll share times in my life when I've had this whole-body knowing and give you tips on how you can access this same knowing in your body.
If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my website and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the actual book will be published later this year!)
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#182: MSL and past president of the largest PA speciality organization gives amazing tips on how to keep your medical career magical and meaningful despite times of burnout
In this episode, I interview my friend and fellow dermatology PA, Archana Sangha. Archana is a past president of SDPA and is currently working as a Medical Science Liaison. Not only does she share how she landed her job, but she also talks about her path to get there and how she managed two little ones, a full-time dermatology job, and held PA leadership positions during the pandemic.
Archana and I met on a Kenya medical mission trip when we were new dermatology PAs, and our most recent escapade was dressing as Tina Turner and Dolly Parton at a Nashville conference. This woman is amazing; you won't regret listening to her interview!
If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my website and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)
If you'd like to try Magic Mind, click here for a 20% discount!
#181: Why you can't seem to stop the cycle of stress and overwhelm and tips to change that
Do you ever feel like you're bashing your head against a wall? You know what you're doing isn't working out so well, but the idea of making change feels like too much? You end up following the same pattern again and again, blaming everyone around you, and nothing changes?
If this is you, give yourself the gift of 20 minutes to listen to this episode. This episode will help you break that pattern.
If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!) and share it with a friend!
If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my website and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)
If you'd like to try Magic Mind, click here for a 20% discount!
#180: How To Convince Your Brain to Make Big Career Changes Even When You're Terrified
Did you know there are ways to trick your brain into thinking it's safe to take action even when you're scared out of your mind? Nobody wants to make a choice they regret, and we don't want to take a leap without knowing how it'll all turn out. You can't blame the brain for wanting to keep you safe, right? But it can also keep you stuck for YEARS (trust me, I know!)
Listen to this episode to ensure you don't live in Stuckville for the rest of your years.
If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!) and share with a friend!
If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my website and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)
#179: Tricks to Deciphering and Dissolving Your Bad Energy (with a confession about my own jealousy)
I recorded an entirely different episode, but the energy was definitely off. It took a walk around the block to decipher why. I was having a hard time with jealousy. Not something I'm proud of, but I decided if I'm struggling with it, maybe some of you are, too.
Here's how I shook it off, used it as good information, and reversed the effects.
If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!) and share it with a friend!
If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my website and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)
#178: My Huge Burnout Ah-Ha it Took Me 10 Years to Get
I can't believe it took a parenting coach to help me see this. As she was talking about why kids react the way they do, I had a light bulb moment. OMG, that's why I reacted the way I did; that's why I felt the way I did.
If you're a) beating yourself up for feeling the way you feel, b) baffled about why you can't "snap out of it," or c) wondering why your burnout doesn't look like someone else's, this episode is for you!
If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!) and share with a friend!
If you'd like more "words of Hope," head to my website and find out how we can work together, or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout (the real book will be published later this year!)
#177: What To Do When You Don't Know What To Do
It can be maddening when you're "off" or "out of alignment," but you don't know your next move. We want action, and we want it NOW, but if we skip the cocoon/inner work stage of healing, we'll have to repeat this lesson at a future date.
This episode is all about what you CAN do while you're waiting and trying to figure things out. This tool can be used immediately and will improve not only your career, but also your relationships. I'll talk about how it helped when I had intrusive thoughts about bosses and my husband, as well as how I see it has helped clients.
If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!)
If you'd like more "words of Hope" head to my website and find out how we can work together or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout.
#176: How to Stop Managing Everyone and Everything Around You So You Can Focus on Your Own Stuff
Burnout is like a clogged pipe; it's an ugly mass of hair, toothpaste, dental floss, and who knows what else. It starts months before you realize it with stress and overwhelm. If the stress goes unchecked, you find yourself with a major problem. The funny thing is how we're the ones taking on everyone else's issues--essentially taking on more grossness to create our clog in the first place. What if you were able to Let Go and Let Them (manage their own dang issues)?
If you found this episode helpful, consider leaving an iTunes review (if you didn't, no need to leave a review!)
If you'd like more "words of Hope" head to my website and find out how we can work together or just check out the free resources and my mini book on overcoming burnout.
#175: How to Banish Your Disappointment with Life and Go After What You Want
Are you frequently disappointed with your job, your luck, or whatever life hands you? The next 25 minutes will change all that! Get back in the driver's seat of your life. Only one person can make the kind of changes in your life you desire (hint: it's you!)
My book will be out later this year, so limited coaching slots are available; email me if interested, hope.cook@gmail.com
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#174: Is Your Online Cart Full of Wants? Have You Ever Gotten Exactly What You Wanted and Wondered Why You Weren't Happy? Wants vs. Yearnings
I woke up at 38 and realized I'd checked all the boxes on my wish list. A boy, a girl, a house, a good job, a cute husband, a degree, and money in the bank. But I'd never felt more lost and bewildered. Why wasn't I happy? I'd gotten exactly what I wanted.
Reading Sue Monk Kidd's When the Heart Waits and Martha Beck's Way of Integrity opened my eyes about why I didn't feel good despite getting what I wanted. In this episode, we talk about wantings vs yearnings. What the brain thinks you want vs what the heart wants.
If you feel empty this Thanksgiving, this discussion will give you a lot to chew on. Reach out if you'd like to discuss coaching, speaking or anything else! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website, www.coachhopecook.com
#173: Story Fondling, How to Quit Needlessly Caressing Your Past and Move On
Some of us have experienced painful job situations, awful bosses or coworkers, or had terrible things happen in the past. These aren't the problem. In fact, these can all help us grow into more evolved versions of ourselves The problem occurs when we continue to "fondle" the story over and over, which renders us helpless victims of our circumstances. How to let go of old hurts and get back behind the wheel of your life.
Be sure and subscribe so you'll know when Season 5 starts in January.
Reach out if you'd like to connect! hope.cook@gmail.com or visit my website, www.coachhopecook.com
#172: Why you might be getting your self care all wrong and 3 tools to figure out what you really need
If you do all the self-care "things" and still feel crappy, this episode will explain why. I'll also give you 3 tools you can use to get reoriented on your path to purpose and joy. This is an episode you might need to save and listen to every few months as a reminder of what your Self really needs.
Here's a link to your free tool card as mentioned in the episode!
If you're a Physician Assistant and feeling burned out and directionless, you might be interested in group coaching starting in January 2024. We'll meet weekly for 6 weeks. I'm screening applicants now, so shoot me an email!
hope.cook@gmail.com
# 171: What One Magical Night of Being Dolly Parton Taught Me About Life
If you ever get the chance to sit down with Dolly, do it! If that's not an option, I highly recommend BEING Dolly. Buy the wig, a sparkly outfit, do your makeup and BE Dolly. Stepping outside yourself and into a beloved icon's story will give you a drastic perspective shift. Don't wait until next Halloween to try this out! Listen to these 10 lessons I learned after getting all "dolled" up at a conference theme night event.
I'm also opening up applications for group coaching in January: PA Burnout Group Mastermind: Should I Resign or Revive?
Email me if interested hope.cook@gmail.com
#170: Soul Food! Not collards and BBQ, but the deep, Figure out what your soul food is and you'll figure out your north star (aka your life's purpose)
Think about it. If you're starved or depleted from life, maybe you're not getting soul food. Honestly, how much of your life makes you feel excited, happy, giddy and joyful? What abou the reverse--what makes you feel flat-out awful, drained, and heavy? Here's a shocker--this isn't the direction you want to keep going.
My Body Compass video link mentioned on the podcast
I'm also opening up applications for group coaching in January: Burnout Coaching: Should I Resign or Revive?
Email me if interested hope.cook@gmail.com
#169: Planning Ahead: How Habits and Framework Will Support You Next Time You Get Knocked Down
None of us are immune to down moments, dips in mood, catastrophes and disasters. They're part of life, right? What can you do now (assuming you're not in the throes of a cataclysmic event) to help the Future You get back up when she gets knocked down? Don't worry, these are pretty simple, yet powerful concepts. If you implement even one suggestion, you'll be better prepared the next time sh$% hits the fan.
If you want to meet up for 1:1 life coaching, reach out! Alternatively, if the idea of group coaching appeals to you, my next group starts in January, reach out now so we can see if you'd be a good fit!
See you next week,
Hope
#169: When Life Knocks You Down, Do THIS! For anyone who's on the floor professionally or emotionally and can't seem to get back up.
My clients are burned-out working women, namely healthcare providers. It makes sense that many reach out when they're at their lowest point professionally and emotionally. Like the Chumbawamba song, they're "knocked down" and don't know how to get back up again. They've been hit hard because of a job loss, the disappointment of a new job not being what it seemed, a boss who's awful, or just emotional burnout from years of prioritizing everyone besides themselves. I hear the hopelessness and despair in their voices on that first call. They're knocked down and convinced they'll never bounce back. They'll never get hired again, they'll never find purpose in their career, and they'll never feel valued at their work. Here's what I tell them and I invite you to listen along. If you'd like a private session with me, check out my website.
#168: Job Crafting, How to Turn Your Meaningless Job into Your Calling
We spend 1/3 of our waking hours at our jobs. How happy are you with your job? How much meaning do you feel around your work? Does what you do for a living matter?
These are some of the questions I tackle in this episode. Most of my thoughts and words on this subject come from reading Shawn Achor's book, The Happiness Advantage, a book I highly recommend.
I also discuss Shawn's quick habits you can implement to boost your happiness, plus I add a few of my own.
Let me know if you're struggling with work happiness, we can schedule a complimentary session to talk about your specific issues.
#167: The Secret Behind Why You're Not Going After Your Dreams, Plus, 11 Hacks to Win the War with Resistance
Do you get mad at yourself for not going after your dreams or not even dipping a toe into whatever it is you're curious about? Do you blame yourself, your busy life, lack of money, age, etc.? You're not alone. Resistance isn't unique to you. I'll describe what it looks like and how to win the war. This podcast is loosely based on Steven Pressfield's amazing book, The War of Art as well as Gay Hendrick's Zone of Genius.
If you'd like to meet up on zoom and talk about your dreams and why you can't seem to make progress, reach out!
#166: Are you constantly anxious and overwhelmed? Wish you could make career changes or simply feel happy with where you are in life, but anxiety is keeping you stuck?
Today, we're diving into the topic of anxiety and how to effectively manage it.
- Anxiety affects a significant portion of us, but understanding and addressing it is essential for a fulfilling life.
- I'll share insights from my own experiences, clients, and experts, so you can conquer anxiety and regain control of your life.
- 11 anxiety hacks you can immediately implement to help you gain control of your life again.
Understanding Anxiety:
- Anxiety is a common experience; nearly 80-90% of us encounter it in various forms.
- It can manifest physically and mentally, impacting careers, relationships, and overall well-being.
- Recognizing anxiety is the first step toward overcoming it.
My Personal Journey:
- I personally dealt with anxiety for years without realizing it.
- Awareness came when a therapist casually mentioned my anxiety during a marriage therapy session.
- It's not uncommon for people to be unaware of their anxiety, as I was for the first three decades of my life.
Anxiety's Impact on Health:
- Anxiety triggers the release of cortisol, a stress hormone that can hinder progress in various aspects of life.
- From career advancement to relationships and even weight management, anxiety can put everything on hold.
Physical Manifestations:
- As a dermatology Physician Assistant, I see anxiety manifest in skin conditions like acne, psoriasis, or eczema.
- Stress hormones exacerbate these issues and can be a significant factor in their development.
- Healthcare professionals and individuals working in high-stress environments often experience anxiety, impacting their well-being and decision-making.
Types of Anxiety Responses:
- Anxiety can manifest in different ways. For some, it leads to hyper-focus on areas they can control like micromanaging their food or exercise.
- Others may resort to coping mechanisms like overeating, excessive spending, or numbing out with Netflix or alcohol.
The Life-Altering Power of Anxiety:
- Anxiety can drastically alter the course of our lives.
- Imagine it as a path diverging in two directions. Managing anxiety gives you the choice to follow a different path.
Understanding Emotions:
- No emotion is inherently bad; they all serve as clues about what's happening in our minds.
- Anxiety is a natural response, but unchecked, it can dictate the story of our lives, limiting our agency.
Rewiring Your Brain:
- Anxiety rewires our brains, creating neural pathways that perpetuate anxious thoughts.
- The key is catching yourself in these thought patterns and rewriting the script to form new neural pathways.
Common Anxious Thoughts:
- Anxious thoughts often include feelings of inadequacy, fear of failure, or playing the victim.
- Identifying and challenging these thoughts is essential to regain control.
Anxiety and Safety:
- Anxiety stems from a primal instinct for survival.
- In ancient times, it kept us alert to potential dangers. Today, it's a response to feeling unsafe in our environment.
Using Anxiety as a Clue:
- View anxiety as a clue, not an enemy.
- Ask yourself what your anxiety is trying to communicate and how it's trying to help.
I'll review 11 tricks you can use to tame your anxiety and keep it from steamrolling your life.
- If someone you know is dealing with anxiety, share this episode to offer them guidance and support.
- Reach out if you're interested in coaching or have questions. You can contact me via at hope.cook@gmail.com or go to my website to schedule a complimentary discovery call at www.coachhopecook.com
#165: Why You Shouldn't Jump Off the Struggle Bus into Oncoming Traffic (yet). How to make burnout and other struggles work in your favor.
Show notes:
1. The Journey Begins: Understanding the Struggle Bus:
- We kick things off by talking about the notorious "struggle bus." We've all been there, right? Feeling stuck and overwhelmed in your career, your relationships, or with another person. Today, we're going to break it down.
2. What if you saw your struggles as tests in the classroom of life?
- Life presents us with tests, and passing the tests helps you move to the next level. I'll share a few tests I've faced and we'll explore how we can look at life through the lens of "earth school"
4. Embracing Imperfection:
- Perfection? Not our goal here. Let's discuss the importance of embracing imperfections and understanding that they're all part of our journey.
5. Unpacking the Purpose:
- Time for some introspection. What's the point of your current struggle? How can you learn and grow from it? We'll uncover the wisdom hidden within challenges.
6. Stay in Your Lane:
- Comparison is a tricky game. I'll teach you why it's crucial to focus on your unique path and not get caught up in comparing your struggles to others.
7. Self-Reflection and Journaling:
- Grab your pen and paper, folks. We're diving into self-reflection and journaling. These tools are essential for processing emotions and finding clarity during challenging times.
8. Emotional Intelligence and Coping Strategies:
- Let's explore emotional responses and healthier ways to cope with life's challenges. Building emotional resilience is a key lesson.
9. Rewrite Your Story: Shifting Self-Labels:
- What if you could change how you see yourself? I'll show you how envisioning a different narrative for yourself can lead to personal growth and transformation.
10. Paying It Forward: Inspiring Others:
- Lastly, we'll talk about the ripple effect. Sharing your experiences and wisdom with others is a powerful way to inspire personal growth in yourself and those around you.
Conclusion:
- Remember to embrace your unique journey, accept life's tests, and keep your focus on the big picture. What is this teaching you or what could it teach you if you let it?
If you've found value in this episode, I'd love to hear from you or meet with you on zoom to explore whether life coaching might help you with your ride on the struggle bus.
#164: What's Wrong With Me? Why can't I just be happy with life? How to identify what's really at the root of your unhappiness and how to change it
Show notes:
Introduction:
- Who do you want to be vs. who you really are
- How your unhappiness has everything to do with how you see yourself, others, and the world.
Segment 1: What is Dissonance? (00:02:15)
- Understand dissonance as a feeling of being out of alignment with your ideal self.
- Relate dissonance to beliefs, actions, and thoughts.
- Listen to specific examples to grasp the concept better.
Segment 2: Recognizing Dissonance (00:04:00)
- Honestly assess your alignment with your desired self.
- Reflect on whether you genuinely like yourself and whether you match up your past aspirations.
Segment 3: Choosing Your Thoughts (00:06:30)
- Contemplate past moments of unhappiness and self-questioning.
- Recognize the tendency to blame external factors when feeling out of alignment.
- Grasp the significance of the term "dissonance."
Segment 4: The Impact of Our Thoughts (00:09:45)
- Learn from Viktor Frankl's experiences during the Holocaust.
- Understand how thoughts influence your perception and response to circumstances.
- Understand that suffering is often a result of your thoughts.
Segment 5: Getting Out of the Box (00:13:30)
- Comprehend the concept of being "in the box" and its effects on emotions and physical well-being.
- Realize that staying in the box, even if you're right, is a choice and will lead to suffering 100% of the time
- Create an alternate story to shift your perspective and observe how it affects your feelings and reactions.
Segment 6: Self-Reflection and Accountability (00:16:45)
- Commit to daily reflection, journaling, or seeking support from others to acknowledge the times you're in the box
- Understand that no one else can put you in the box; you are responsible for your thoughts and reactions. You put yourself in the box
If you'd like help recognizing when you're in the box or how you might be out of alignment, reach out! My website has lots of resources and ways to schedule a call (www.coachhopecook.comwww.coachhopecook.com) or email me, hope.cook@gmail.com
#163: How a marriage retreat changed my life. My retreat insights include how you can climb out of your career rut and choose to become a stronger version of you despite burnout or hardship
Chase and I went on our first-ever marriage retreat after finding ourselves in a relationship rut for the past year or two. As I learned new ways of thinking about things and how to shift my perspective, I realized the information would also help my wonderful podcast listeners with their career struggles.
Reach out if you're struggling and schedule a complimentary discovery call with me. We'll see if we're a good fit for life coaching. My email is hope.cook@gmail.com or go to my website, www.coachhopecook.com
#162: How to predict with 93% accuracy whether or not your job is doomed
I've done a lot of therapy and reading to make sure my marriage is able to survive, but when I read John Gottman's book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, I started seeing parallels with work relationships. Dr. Gottman talks about the "Four Horsemen" of marriage. These are things like contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling, and criticism. If present when a couple is interacting, Dr. Gottman says their relationship has a high likelihood of collapsing. The same could be true with your workplace relationships. If you're shutting down or filled with contempt for your boss, guess what? You might need to start job searching. Or, you can work on turning it around. I'll go through the 4 horsemen and how they might show up in your workplace and what to do about it to try and salvage your job.
Want to meet me and talk about how I can help you with your own career burnout or overwhelm? Let's do it! Reach out by email at hope.cook@gmail.com or go to my website to schedule a time to talk!
#161: Decluttering Time and Energy Suckers (and this includes humans). Why do I feel so drained and exhausted, plus, what do I do about it?
It's time, people! You finally get to nail what's sucking your energy and wasting your time. I'll teach you how to figure out who or what needs to go bye-bye and how to carry this out. If you like this episode, listen to 159 and 160 for decluttering your space and decluttering your emotions.
Body compass exercise video I mentioned in this episode and my interview with Patty, an example of a high-energy yoga friend.
Reach out if you'd like to hear more about working with me hope.cook@gmail.com or visit my site, www.coachhopecook.com
#160: Emotional decluttering: Why can't I "get over" my fear, anxiety, or self-criticism? How your emotions are keeping you stuck and what to do about it
In this episode I review the most common emotions I encounter in my life coaching. I'll give you steps to figure out which emotions are "body snatching" you, how to be a thought detective, how to do a thought audit, and finally, what to do about those BIG emotions keeping you stuck.
Have your own big emotions you'd like help with? Reach out and schedule a complimentary discovery call! No pressure if it's not for you, share the podcast episode with someone you care about!
#159: What's one of the fastest ways to get clarity (and lose the chaotic thinking) around your job future? This tool can be used immediately to move you past burnout or stucknes!
Today I share a powerful tool that can help you clear out the clutter in your life and create space for meaningful change. In order to move forward on your career journey, you'll have to clear out the space to become (whatever that means for you).
Who Can Use This Tool: Are you ready to embrace change but find yourself overwhelmed by where to start? This episode is for anyone who's feeling stuck and yearning for a new direction, whether it's a career shift or a fresh perspective on life. If you often get lost in the details or struggle to imagine your next steps, this tool is designed just for you.
Who This Isn't For: If you're currently in survival mode or immobilized by the thought of change, this episode might not be the right fit for you. This tool is best suited for those who are ready to dream and take action.
Introducing the Declutter Decoy: The Declutter Decoy, is a game-changer that helps you create order and clarity in your life. This tool was taught to me as the "living space tool" by Martha Beck, but I like calling it the Declutter Decoy because it can shift your mindset without you even realizing it.
How It Works: Our lives often become cluttered, hindering our ability to see the bigger picture. Imagine zip-lining through a forest – you see the tops of trees and bald spots that are invisible from the ground. The same applies to our lives. We're going to explore four types of clutter: physical, emotional, human, and time clutter over the next few episodes.
Step 1: Physical Clutter: Physical clutter is present in everyone's life – from messy drawers to chaotic closets. The disorder distracts you from focusing on your dreams. Establishing order and discipline in your environment is essential for growth.
Examples of Physical Decluttering: We delve into practical examples of decluttering, from cleaning out your purse, and getting a haircut, to tidying up your car. Physical clutter affects decision-making and drains our energy.
The Declutter Decoy Technique:
- Select a small, stress-inducing area in your space.
- Describe it in detail – how it looks and makes you feel.
- Contrast it with a clutter-free area that brings you calm.
- Analyze the feelings and sensations each space evokes.
- Identify parallels between cluttered spaces and areas of your life.
- Make cluttered spaces feel more like the calm ones.
- Break down the process into the simplest steps.
Personal Example: I share my experience using the Declutter Decoy technique to tackle my purse clutter, and how it relates to my social media posting habits. By taking small, manageable steps, I'm working to bring the calm and purpose I feel in coaching to this aspect of my life.
Applying the Technique: You're encouraged to take the lessons learned and apply them to your own cluttered spaces – whether physical, emotional, human, or time-related. By taking even the tiniest steps, you can create significant shifts in your life.
Conclusion: Remember, making even the smallest changes can lead to significant results. Just like a ship adjusting its course by a single degree, you can chart a new path and arrive at an entirely different destination. Embrace the Declutter Decoy and start recharting your life with hope.
If you found this tool valuable, don't forget to subscribe, share, and leave a review. Until next time, keep decluttering and keep believing in the power of change.
Reach out via email at hope.cook@gmail.com if you'd like a complimentary discovery call or click here for my website and scheduling info.
#158: How do I overcome fear of making a big change? Practical steps for dealing with the F-word as it relates to job changes.
Everyone has fear to some degree. But how do some people keep doing scary things and others get stuck for years (or a lifetime)? What do you do about fear of making a mistake or fear of failure?
If fear is keeping you stuck, reach out, and let's talk! I schedule complimentary discovery calls (go to www.coachhopecook.comwww.coachhopecook.com) or shoot me an email at hope.cook@gmail.com
#157: Have you been super self-critical with your burnout and overwhelm? Here's 5 surprisingly effective ways of healing burnout with self-compassion instead instead of self-criticism
🗣️ In this thought-provoking episode, we'll dive deep into the world of self-compassion and its profound impact on healing burnout. You may have heard Kristen Neff's remarkable TED talk on the subject, but get ready for even more eye-opening revelations!
🚀 Discover how fostering radical self-compassion can transform your life, boost resilience, and dissolve the chains of self-criticism.
If you're on the struggle bus with burnout and overwhelm, it might be time to hire a coach to help you navigate. Reach out and we'll schedule a complimentary discovery call. I'll ask you lots of questions about where you are now and what you think needs to change. Email hope.cook@gmail.com or go to my website for more info www.coachhopecook.com
#156: How to cut back to part-time especially if you think it's impossible. 3 tools to get you there. And why cutting back may not be the magic solution you've imagined it to be.
After reading dozens of Facebooks posts and comments from people who say they'd love to cut back to part-time but can't, I decided to share 3 tools to give you the shift you need to make it happen. If you've longed for a change in your schedule but a part of you says it'll never happen, this episode is for you.
If you still don't feel ready, reach out and I'll walk you through the steps to get you there.
Hope.cook@gmail.com or check out www.coachopecook.comwww.coachopecook.com
#153: Burnout Step #3, Should you resign your job or can it be revived? How to know whether to stay or go
Will you be terrified? Yes! Can you afford not to decide? No, not if you want to live a life filled with purpose and joy again. You may not be ready for this step, maybe you're still in the freaked out paralyzed Step #1, maybe you're in the planning and dreaming phase of Step #2, or, maybe you're finally ready for the action of this step!
Not sure which step you're in? Or, maybe you need help navigating this whole burnout thing. Let's talk! Schedule a complimentary discovery call by reaching out, hope.cook@gmail.com or find more info on www.coachhopecook.com
#155: Are you stuck in your current job situation? Burned out? Does your situation feel impossible? Giving yourself permission to change your mind and take brave steps!
Want to know a trick to determine if you're resisting change because of fear? Tell yourself you have to stay put and see how that feels in your body. If it feels bad, you need to make changes. Likewise, if you tell yourself you can have a do-over and change your mind, and if your body feels free, relieved, or expansive, this is a sign you need to make a change.
Plus, how to talk to fear in a way that'll calm it down and allow you to choose the right path going forward.
Now, your turn: Are you stuck and afraid to make a change? Are you terrified you'll disappoint someone if you choose a different path? Why aren't you allowing yourself to make a change? You're not reading this by accident. You were meant to listen to this episode and read this. Wherever you are in your journey, now is the time. Now. Is. The. Time. Reach out and we'll talk. Don't worry, I'm friendly and I won't force you to do anything drastic. hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my site www.coachhopecook.com
#154: What do you need to get unstuck? MORE (money, time, benefits, bonuses)? or LESS (energy drains, hard tasks, and time sucks)
After I listened to this episode on the Hidden Brain podcast I had an ah-ha about how this fits into burnout. We often think we need MORE of something. More help, more money, more vacation time. But what we really need is LESS. We need to find our friction points and minimize them. For example, what if you're a working mom and you have zero time or zero patience after work? Getting a big fat bonus check won't make you get unstuck. But, if you work fewer, but more efficient hours, you'll have more time. What if you didn't have to help the kids with homework and cook supper every night? Identifying your pain points and then brainstorming how to let them be easier will change your life.
Also referenced is this book, The Human Element: Overcoming the Resistance that Awaits New Ideas. Loran Nordgren and David Schonthal, Wiley, October 2021.
#152: Burnout Step #2: How to figure out your career options. How to dream of new possiblities, brainstorm solutions, and get unstuck!
Step 1 was all about inner work: admitting you're lost, confused, and stuck. This step is all about dreaming and giving yourself permission to do so without rules or restrictions. Have you ever noticed how, when you first experience an "I'm stuck and don't have a clue what to do next" type situation, you become paralyzed for a while? Then, you eventually start seeing glimmers of hope, you start brainstorming and thinking "what if" type thoughts. This is step 2!
Most of my clients start out in step 1 (see prev episode)--they might be burned out with their work, momming, or both. Or, maybe your job isn't so bad, but you get the nagging sense you're being pulled in a new direction. Both of these types of clients eventually progress to the 2nd step. Regardless of which stage you're in, reach out and I'll help you navigate in the dark forest and along the rocky cliffs. Schedule a complimentary discovery call by reaching out, either by DM or old-school email (hope.cook@gmail.com). For more resources, my website is www.coachopecook.com
See ya next week,
Hope
#151: Burnout Step 1: What to do when you find yourself lost and confused about your work situation with no clue what comes next or how to feel better again.
Every single time life throws us a curve ball (aka CHANGE), we go through the 4 stages of change according to Martha Beck. When you first experience a big change, you might feel completely lost, angry, or have total disbelief. Listen to find out more about stage 1 of the change cycle and how it relates to your career.
If you'd like to explore life coaching, reach out! You can email me at hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website and scheduling link at www.coachhopecook.com
#150: How to get yourself out of career messes and crappy work situations without losing yourself in the process.
Did you hear the story last summer about the lady who fell head-first into the porta-potty while trying to retrieve her cell phone using her dog leash? I use this fascinating story of (attempted) resilience and failure to illustrate what we can do when we find ourselves in situations involving shi%$y work situations.
If you're curious about whether life coaching can help you get unstuck or make your next career move, let's talk! We'll meet up on zoom and chat.
I'd love to meet you, so stop thinking about it and take action! Remember, you can't think your way to clarity, but taking action will lead you there.
I like old-school emails better than anything! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website www.coachhopecook.com
#149: NO! Learning when to say no and how to say no will immediately drop your stress and overhwhelm. If you're burned out, whittling down your yes's and ramping up your no's is an easy first step!
The day I recorded this episode I said YES to bringing my son's computer to school when he forgot it. I wanted to say no, but mom guilt and people-pleasing made me say yes. 20 minutes later I was pulled over and given a ticket. I've learned that lesson and tried to share my insights and tips with you!
If you're curious about whether life coaching can help you get unstuck or make your next career move, let's talk! We'll meet up on zoom and chat.
I'd love to meet you, so stop thinking about it and take action! Remember, you can't think your way to clarity, but taking action will lead you there.
I like old-school emails better than anything! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website www.coachhopecook.com
#148: Health and lifestyle hacks you can implement immediately to help your burnout and overwhelm. As an added bonus, you'll feel better physically and emotionally
When I was asked to write an article on burnout and how lifestyle medicine can help, I dragged my heels, thinking I wasn't perfect enough to offer tips or advice. But, it turns out I already do many of the things lifestyle medicine promotes, and you can, too. They're not complicated and don't require enormous change. And I can promise you'll feel better if you try these on for a week.
Let me know if you tried any of the tips or if you'd like to discuss your own overwhelm, burnout, or stuckness! hope.cook@gmail.com or go to my website, www.coachhopecook.com
#147: Perfectionism can drain your battery quickly, leaving you depleted and miserable. Can you allow yourself to be a B- instead of A+? Plus, how to identify energy drains and energy chargers.
For years I held myself to such high standards I made myself miserable. I walked around on Empty. But I wasn't able to see that I was the problem. Instead, I blamed others and my job. Learn to assess which things fill you up and which things drain you, then give yourself permission to let go.
If you're curious about whether life coaching can help you get unstuck or make your next career move, let's talk! We'll meet up on zoom and chat. I'd love to meet you, so stop thinking about it and take action! Remember, you can't think your way to clarity, but taking action will lead you there.
I like old-school emails better than anything! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website www.coachhopecook.com
#146: How to deal with ANGER at your job, boss, coworkers or family and how to look underneath the anger for the hidden message.
Y'all know I share too much sometimes, including arguments with my husband, yelling at my kids, and being mad at whatever injustice I think I've suffered. Today's episode takes a look at what the anger is all about using examples from my own life. I'll give you a few tools to use the next time you feel angry. Don't let anger cause you to "burn down" your life or your marriage. Instead, look underneath it and get curious about why it's there.
If you're curious about whether life coaching can help you get unstuck or make your next career move, let's talk! We'll meet up on zoom and chat. I'd love to meet you, so stop thinking about it and take action! Remember, you can't think your way to clarity, but taking action will lead you there.
I like old-school emails better than anything! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website www.coachhopecook.com
#145: How to handle career disappointments and how to make decisions with your eyes wide open.
In this episode I share a vulnerable truth about not getting to do the Mastercoach program I applied to, I talk about the mistakes I've made when I squeeze my eyes shut and hope for the best, and I tell about a relative who ate poison by accident.
If you'd like to explore life coaching, reach out! You can email me at hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website and scheduling link at www.coachhopecook.com
#144: How do you know when to quit vs when to stay? This huge career decision is broken down into bite size chunks of wisdom from a world-champion poker player
I was so blown away by Annie Duke, cognitive psychologist and world champion poker player. Her ideas around quitting are beyond helpful if you're struggling with this decision. As I was listening to an interview with her and I pulled over, grabbed a sheet of paper, and started taking notes. I haven't read the book yet, so this is sort of the Cliff Note version, but if you're on the fence about quitting, please invest the next 15 minutes in listening to this!
And, if you decide you definitely need to make a change, I'm your girl! Well, maybe. Maybe not. Not if you're psycho, ridiculously needy, or have stalker-ish tendencies. Otherwise, reach out if you're a semi-sane person struggling with career stuckness. Let's schedule a complimentary discovery call and you can check me out, too! hope.cook@gmail.com or check out my website, www.coachhopecook.com
#143: What should your next career move be? How to use distance to get a wide-lens view of the situation even if you can't escape to Italy
After 20 years of marriage, we thought it was time to celebrate with a childless trip to Italy! Listen for tips on how you can get the same perspective shift without leaving your home!
If you're interested in life coaching, reach out! I'm not scary, and I won't guilt you into signing up if it's not right, I promise. My personal email is hope.cook@gmail.com or visit my website at www.coachhopecook.com
#142: Should you quit your job, keep going, or pivot? How to use your body as a tool to know the right decision for you.
This is the last episode of Season 3, so click the subscribe button so you'll receive new episodes when Season 4 starts.
In the meantime, why not get coached?
Who I coach: burned-out working women who can't imagine staying in their jobs for another 10 years, but they a) feel a lot of GUILT for not loving their job b) aren't sure WHAT they'd do next c) aren't sure HOW do leave or pivot.
Why use me? You know life is too precious to waste years being in a job you dread. I've been there and came out stronger on the other side. You can, too! I've got tools that I'll teach you so you can make life adjustments going forward.
When do I coach? When my kiddos are in school from 7:45-3:00
How do you reach me? Schedule a complimentary session on my site or shoot me an email hope.cook@gmail.com