The Diary of a Happiness Coach

Submitted Question

“How do I unfreeze and start living.? I'm feeling really stuck right now. Five years ago, I had all these goals - finish college, get a job, get my license. But here I am at 27, and I haven't accomplished any of them. I spend most days at home overthinking and worrying, and I'm scared to even start. I know I want to change things, but the fear is holding me back. Any advice on how to overcome this and finally start working towards my goals?”

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Submitted Question

“Is having more responsibility in life a good thing? I wish I lived a softer life. I loved it when I had no responsibilities. I am leaving a job with minimal responsibilities for a better opportunity and pay, but it's way more hectic with more responsibilities. Everyone is telling me it's better and that more responsibility in life is better. Besides, I don't really have a choice as I can't afford to live on the pay I currently get. But is it better? Why is more opportunity better? Does it really lead to a more fulfilling life? Is more responsibility a good thing?”

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Submitted Question

“How do I push myself without beating myself up?

I have a very important exam to take in a month, but these days I just feel so lazy and procrastinate a lot. I used to be a very anxious person and would always try to finish every single assignment ahead of the deadline. Nowadays, I feel much less stressed out, but at the same time, I don't know how I could work more efficiently without being extremely pressured. I've tried writing it down, I've tried encouraging myself, I've tried determining my goals, what I am capable of achieving...

I honestly don't know what's wrong with me. How do I gain momentum again without burning myself out? I think part of this is because I used to feel things so intensely. I cry a lot (still do sometimes), I feel sad intensely, I feel worried intensely, I feel motivated intensely. I was a very emotional person, which today I've tried to control, but at the same time, it was also my fuel and it kept me going. These days I try to worry a lot less, I care a lot less, I try not to overthink things by not caring about them, which honestly sounds stupid. Any advice? I don't know what I'm doing. I really wish I could punch myself and force myself to do what I have to do and should do.”

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“How do I stay calm in situations where people are being disrespectful? For instance, when someone shows obvious disrespect by mocking you, calling you derogatory names, or making offensive comments about your loved ones.

I take pride in myself and certain things that are disrespected, but when I try to defend myself, I never succeed because the situation keeps escalating. Unfortunately, I can't resort to physical actions because it's against the law. The logical solution would be to simply walk away, but the negative emotions still linger, making me feel frustrated towards that person.”

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Submitted Request:

“How do you find motivation to exercise?

I have always hated working out and can never seem to develop that desire to do it. I’d like to get into lifting weights but whenever I go to the gym it’s just so boring and I feel like I’m not even doing the lifts right. Being you’re into fitness, what do you do for motivation?” 

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Submitted Question: “How do I stop basing my self-worth/personality on how many friends or conversations I have? Currently, it's like none. I understand that I should do things that make me happy, but I keep looking and I don't know what to do to make myself happy. I really want to change this. It's been a week of really painful pain in my stomach. Sometimes I feel happy because I fought hard against my negative thoughts and tried to find things I'm good at and be grateful for being alive, but the next minute, negative thoughts come back about how I have no friends, can't hold conversations, and can't make friends. I have sent multiple texts to people saying "hey, how are you" and stuff, but I get no responses. Maybe I bore others because I'm bored. I'm trying really hard to find hobbies, but I can't. I know I can't be looking for people to fill the void and trying to use them as a source of happiness. I'm tired of chasing others while no one chases me.” This Podcast channel is a place for me to articulate what it's like being a happiness coach and discuss experiences in my own life, thoughts, feelings and answer inbound questions of how to have a happier more fulfilling life.. 

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“My husband wants to “start living more”… without me

My husband has expressed his desire to have a more vibrant social life this year. He wishes to engage in social activities such as going out for drinks with his friends. His group of friends includes one married individual who is quite wild, another married person who is respectable, and one single person. They plan to meet up and enjoy drinks together around 2-3 times a month.

The problem is that he doesn't want to be concerned about the time he returns home. He explains that my criticism of him for coming home late or beyond the time he mentioned makes him feel submissive, possessed, and manipulated. He is an adult and not engaging in any wrongdoing, so he should not have to feel afraid if the evening is going smoothly and he wishes to stay out late.

I am feeling stressed about this, but I am having difficulty fully comprehending it. I am unsure if I am being overly strict and controlling. It is important to note that we have two young children. It is challenging for me to grasp because I lack any desire to engage in this activity. I would appreciate advice and a different perspective on this matter.”

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“How do I make a decision that will be best for me and my happiness?”

For example, I may soon be presented with a few different job offers, and I'm not sure which one I will choose and why. I want to make a decision that I feel good about, that is aligned with myself and my goals, and also with the expansion of myself. Sometimes, I want to choose what feels safe, comfortable, and easy. Other times, I want the best opportunity for professional growth and income, even if it pushes me outside of my comfort zone. I don't want to make a decision out of fear or urgency, where I just need to pick something and start earning an income as soon as possible. I worry about burnout, and it's hard to tell which position has the greatest chance of that.”

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This is now the fifth year in a row of a forgotten or no effort birthday. I told him a week ago that I wanted to go out to this nice steak restaurant I took him to for his birthday. I asked him yesterday if he made reservations or got the sitter. He said he would. I asked today what time we were going out. He said he didn't know yet. I wasn't feeling that great and said we could do lunch tomorrow while the kids were in school, saving us from needing a sitter. He took my oldest out at 7:30 to buy me a gift (because my son is a sweetheart and asked his dad to take him). I texted him and asked if he could pick up a bottle of wine. He said sure thing! My oldest sits at the table and writes me a lovely card. At 9 pm, I get handed a new sun hat by my son. Nothing from my husband. No wine. No cake. No card. No dinner. Nothing. I'm so heartbroken. It hurts so bad to be worth nothing in his eyes.

I go above and beyond for his birthdays. For my kids birthdays. I’ve told him how important it is to me. I just don’t seem to matter.

He did the same thing for our anniversary last year. And the year before. I tell him weeks ahead of time that I want to exchange gifts. I tell him I got him a gift. I send him links of gifts that I want with choices. He bought nothing. Drove myself to the store to buy my own cake. I’m eating it in the driveway in my car.”

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“I give up on Relationships, I have decided to stop pursuing romantic relationships, feeling defeated and emotionally exhausted at the age of 25. My heart can’t take it anymore. No matter what I attempt, it fails to work. I am consistently ignored, stood up, and ghosted. Whether it is in person or online, I am only met with rejection. There must be something inherently wrong with me that prevents me from getting a date. I try to be authentic, but apparently, that is not sufficient. Even when I do manage to secure a date, I am consistently ghosted and stood up. I listen, engage in playful banter, make jokes, and flirt, but none of it seems to matter. I take pride in my fashion choices and maintaining a good appearance. I once believed that having more money would make a difference, but it does not. I have come to accept that I am undesirable and destined to be alone. I used to have hope, but life has extinguished that notion from my heart. I am unsure of what to do now, as I cannot manage without someone's love.”

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“This might be a phase in our marriage, but I feel compelled to take action, even though I know deep down that there is nothing I should do. I can sense that I still love my husband deeply because he is a part of me. I don't plan on ever leaving as I know the grass is never greener on the other side.

I find myself reminiscing about the past, recalling how we used to be when we were younger and deeply in love. However, as I observe him now, it seems like he has lost interest in taking care of his health and really letting himself go. This realization is difficult for me to accept because I know he has expressed his unwillingness to change in previous conversations. Perhaps the reason I am entertaining this thought is because he doesn't engage in physical activities like I do and I feel like he should too. I tend to compare myself to him. I can physically observe the positive effects on myself when I put in the effort and wish he understood that. It's frustrating that we seem to have little in common, especially now that the kids are becoming more self-reliant. I am now looking at my husband with concern. I simply wanted to convey these thoughts to my husband without creating a fight. How do I do that?”

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Submitted Question

People who seem to hate you from the moment they meet you. I've had a handful of these kinds of people throughout my life - people who are just very unfriendly from almost the first conversation you ever have with them. It feels like they've formed a negative opinion about you before they've ever gotten to know you, and there's nothing you can do or say that will change that opinion. Right now, I'm going through this with somebody I know through a hobby organization I belong to. They make lots of really mean/nasty comments that they try to frame as a "joke," but they never seem to be targeted towards anybody but me. I also notice facial expressions or eye rolls out of the corner of my eye when I'm talking, etc. Have you ever dealt with people like this? How do you handle it?”

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"How do you deal with negativity on social media??

Is it normal to get a fair amount of anxiety when they are roasted on social media? Especially when you haven’t said anything controversial, rude, or inappropriate? It happens to me kind of often, and I just end up getting embarrassed, frustrated and deleting the entire comment itself because I feel I said something wrong. I was just wondering if anyone reacts in a similar way and how do you deal with it? Any advice for not letting it get to you?”

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Submitted Question 

“How does one learn how to get self-discipline?

I struggle a lot with continuing or finishing something. For example, exercise. I might start for a few days, maybe even for a couple of weeks, and not continue afterward until months or even a year later. Even something easier like my hobbies, I will not continue. Even if I do want to, I end up talking myself into doing something else, even if that something else is something that I've done countless times and I don't need to do it again.”

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Submitted Question

“Going on a date with someone who's too pretty for me. I'm really bad at dating. I've had a few, so I'm getting better at it but I still don't feel like I'm ready for this, and I'm scared it won't work out this time because I'm a little more invested than previous dates. 

She is way too pretty for me. I mean in the past I used only good pictures of myself so I understand why someone would match with me. I also understand how they might be disappointed when they see me in person, which is why I changed to more natural/worse photos of myself. It's really puzzling that she'd match with me of all people lol.

Anyway, how do I not mess this up? I understand like "show genuine interest," "ask her questions," but I feel like these are baseline requirements for a date. How do I make her interested in me enough to want to go out again, especially when she can get with someone much more attractive than me?”

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“Do you have that one friend who just likes to complain and sulk about every little thing, despite your efforts to change the conversation?

How do you deal with it?

For example I have this really good friend I have known most my life. We get along great and have a lot of common interests. But the problem is that a lot of the time, he just likes to complain about mundane stuff. For example, why are things getting so expensive, man? What is this country doing? Why are the gas prices so high? Why are people so rude and antisocial? I just find it always broadcasted in a negative light, and it's not fun in my opinion. Yes, there are serious things we need to talk about in the world, but can't we do it in a positive way and try to focus more on the bright side of life? I don't know what to do or say to those who seem to be like Eeyore.”

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"My co-workers exclude me. I'm currently on a business trip with about 12 co-workers. They all know me pretty well. They know I'm outdoorsy and like to explore local cuisine. Yet, they'll make plans in front of me for going out to eat without inviting me. It hurts.

And yes, sometimes I'll ask if I can join or I'll invite them to whatever I have in mind, but they usually snub my invites or try to make themselves less available to me joining them.

I feel so alone and unwanted. I just want to explore like they do. I'm pretty good at doing my own thing, but that's out of necessity. I don't have the option of having people to hang out with. How do I fit in with my co-workers?”

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"The media is such a black hole.

I get sucked into it every single day, and it's impossible to escape from it. It's not possible to uninstall every single app or deactivate all my accounts since I do need it to study, so really the only thing I could do is to tell myself "stop scrolling." It's so damn hard.

My brain wants more dopamine rather than doing a relatively boring task such as studying. I'm in my first year studying engineering, and the amount of workload has made me realize that I must concentrate on my school work now.

I'm so addicted to scrolling and I'm so screwed. I'm falling behind on my courses and my brain does not realize this is a problem once I click on a video or open a reel. It often happens too fast, I click on the clickbait and get dragged into the hole again. It's ruining my life and distracting me from my studies.

How do I quit scrolling 24/7?”

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"What do I do about my trust issues?

As I have gotten older I have realized how many people have lied to me in my life. I don't really feel like getting into the gory details but I have been burned by people many times. I put my trust in people and they ended up being completely untrustworthy. Even close family members lied to me. I am not talking about small white lies either, but big lies.

Now I have a seriously hard time trusting people and I am feeling like I am becoming paranoid. I used to be very trusting when I was younger but now that is starting to fade. It hurts because now I feel wary of so many people, including people I used to trust and love.”

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"How do I turn down my co-worker’s homemade food around the holidays?

I have a coworker who loves to bake and share with the office, I think it's their language of love or something. Last week they were very excited about their cupcakes and wanted everyone to try it. I refused.

My response was polite: "I appreciate the offer, but no thanks."

Another co-worker later told me I hurt their feelings and I should apologize. I said I was polite and is an adult, who should be able to take rejection, especially when it is not meant in a hurtful way…..”

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"Why is it hard to change my thoughts? I know my irrational thoughts can be calmed down by changing the perspective of the situation, but it's hard and difficult for my brain to think of other alternatives. What am I doing wrong?”

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Submitted question

"How do you stay positive?

I am a very negative person about myself, I try and do things but I expect most of them to fail or achieve nothing, when I meet someone I don't expect the people to take an interest in what I have to say or to build a friendship or relationship even if I would like to (I don't really know how to socialize), I admit I don't really know how to handle negative emotions. I have been told that I need to change my attitude because that way I'm not really searching for good things to happen to me.

That being the case I would like to ask tips on how do you stay positive? How are you supposed to do so when life just keep giving you slaps in the face? Do you just not give up until it finally comes?” 

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"When you have reached the point of trying to make a relationship with your boyfriend work, because you have been trying for 1 year now, we broke up and got back together to make it work, but he has not done anything to make it work. He's not trying, and nothing has changed. I have tried everything, done everything, understood everything, and now I am so exhausted that I don't care if we break up... I have no energy left. What does that say about my relationship?" 

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Submitted Question

"My husband is constantly annoyed with me. We have a mortgage, cars, and two young kids. Since our son was born, my husband has become distant and irritated. He tunes me out, falls asleep when putting the kids to bed, and shows no interest in spending time together. Our sex life is non-existent and we feel like roommates. 

Lately I find myself wanting to withdraw from the relationship. I’ve started listening to my own podcasts, planning to be out of the house more often and generally keeping communication to a minimum. I’m not doing it out of spite, I just realize that it’s not serving me to have my feelings hurt on a daily basis, so I might as well expend energy in spaces that bring me joy etc. I also just wonder if this is a season for us.

I’m wondering if this is not the right way to go about things. I just feel like I’m feeling so much better but guilty at the same time. How do I turn my marriage around?"

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"How can I improve a habit of thinking that feels like social anxiety?

I often notice my thoughts are overrun by the potential perception of others, both in the moment and after the fact. For example, it's uncomfortable for me to speak up in a group or in a zoom meeting where there are many people present. I'm concerned with how people are perceiving what I'm saying or how I'm saying it, or even how I look. And then I'll think about what I said or how it could've been better even hours afterward. I'll hope that I came across likable.. and respected.

Also I find this anxious thinking habit especially limiting when I'm at the gym. Every moment I'm there I'm wondering who might be looking at me and what they're thinking. I really don't logically consciously care that much what any person might be thinking and it could all be very positive for all I know. I just want to stop giving thought to any perceptions and just focus on myself feeling good and what I want and showing up as my full self that I can be comfortable in any given situation.

I'm not sure if this is people pleasing and wanting everyone to like me and how that pertains to safety or what it stems from. I am not one to judge others and I don't often receive a lot of judgment, nor am I sensitive to feedback. It's just hyper-perceiving.

I want to regain and redirect those thoughts to ones that serve me better so I can feel more present and connected with myself, then able to enjoy social situations more."

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"How to deal with a relationship where the partner is toxic? I am in need of some guidance as I have been in a relationship for a few years and am now faced with the issue of how to react when I feel as though my partner is frequently being toxic. My partner is very standoffish and not one to admit when they are wrong. I am frequently critiqued and complained to that I don't do enough and that they want me to be more like characters from movies and such. Additionally, they are very selfish and visibly unsupportive of my newer lifestyle and dreams.

I admittedly have plenty of faults of my own but knowing myself and coming to terms with who I am, I don’t believe that I deserve the way I am treated and constantly be the one blamed as wrong.

How can I approach and try to improve this situation?"

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"I am unsure if I did the right thing. I think I messed up today. My friends and I went out to eat. As I approached the washroom, I saw these two kids who were a little younger than me. They put out their hands for a handshake, but I walked past them because my hands were dirty and I didn't know them. After I returned, one of the kids came to our table and asked again for a handshake or threatened to pour his soda over my head. Once again, I refused because I didn't want to give power to someone like him. Then, he weirdly poked at where I was sitting and I was just surprised about what to do. After that, he kept trying to provoke me by slurping his drink incredibly loud while staring at me. Meanwhile, I stayed calm, just going on my phone and not reacting. While I'm happy I didn't fight, I can't help but feel a bit emasculated. Any thoughts or advice?"

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"He is my only sibling, when he rejects all efforts to connect and instead harbors anger and ill will toward me? 

My brother has severe mental health issues and is an alcoholic. He won't seek counseling or treatment and blames me for his unhappiness. We are as different as brothers can be. I have told him I'm sorry for past conversations and that I was no more at fault than he, but he would rather be angry. He pushed our father out of his life for nothing my dad ever did to him, and my dad dies never having reconciled. My brother doesn't date, nor does he have any close friends. He has alienated everyone and believes he's perfect. Everyone else is wrong. He is an angry man. It's all very sad. I have offered repeatedly to help him however I can, and he has refused my overtures. He believes he's perfect. I'm not the problem. He cries out for help on social media, and it's sad. How can I be at peace with my brother?"

"How do I best attract my ideal partner for a wonderful, committed relationship? I have been dating consistently for many years and haven't yet been in a relationship that felt really compatible to me, with the connection I find fulfilling. Maybe I am unknowingly sabotaging or focusing on things that affect my energy and it's keeping love away? I mostly meet men online, but I'd really like to meet more in real life, so I can gauge that connection and attraction sooner. I want to have fun while attracting him, and feel open, approachable, calm, and ready for partnership." 

"How can I be consistent with strength training...when I don't currently enjoy it or want to put in the effort? I have a desire to build muscle, for strength, longevity, posture, and overall health and confidence. I want to have the toned body and be a "fit" person, but when I think about lifting weights it feels daunting. My thoughts around it is that it will be hard, require effort and energy that I don't have for it, maybe get injured or too sore, and that it will take a longgg time to even see any changes. I want to change this perspective and maybe even enjoy it."

"How do I know which job to choose that will be most satisfying to me?

I'm currently unemployed, and before that was in a job for 8 years that really burned me out and at times felt soul-sucking. Part of that was from the company culture, and maybe partly because I felt I couldn't be my true self. I believe there's a way I could allow myself to show up more fully (regardless of being in a persuasive sales position), but I'm not sure how to stay connected to my authentic self when a culture or position is forcing a different expectation. Maybe I would be more fulfilled in a different position or industry, but a mid-life career change can also be daunting. I would appreciate your perspective on how to know when your talents, values, and priorities are in alignment with who you are and what you want - and if they're not, then where to start. I hesitate on taking action on the job search because I'm not sure what fulfilling work looks like for me and worried I will end up miserable again. Thank you!"

"How can I create the habits of taking care of my body and home?" each day in a way that is enjoyable and sustainable?

For a long time, I have struggled with doing basic things that many people find easy to do, (or they do it regardless because they're in the habit or have discipline, etc). I will put off washing my face, flossing my teeth, shaving, washing my hair, taking care of my skin, and all the hygiene things until it's absolutely necessary, (like I'll be kissing someone or in a swimsuit). I don't know why I don't want to do these things. Sure, they're not "fun", but I want to have nice skin and feel clean. I also struggle with cleaning my home. Since I don't want to do dishes, I'll waste paper plates and plastic forks. I'd really like to be a person that takes great pride in their body and home."

"I need help with discipline. How do I stay calm and not get angry?

I've been trying now for a while to become a more disciplined person.

I am a person who has never been super disciplined, and it is kind of that I need some fuel to start doing something seriously or maybe try not to fall into this old habit.

For example, I've been trying to improve my anger. Still, I always find myself coming back to a point where I was before, like if I was not trying at all, or even maybe when I do my little exercise of thinking about what I've done in the day, I realize that moments of anger that I had I didn't even think of any quote or try to calm my anger.

Therefore, I would like to know how I could be a more disciplined person to be a better person."

"My workaholic husband said that he'd feel cared for if I didn't disturb him for six days a week.

My husband is a workaholic. …. He wants me to care for him. When I asked him how I could make him feel cared for, he said by supporting his schedule by giving him space to work……. My husband and I are disconnected, how do we rekindle our love?"

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"I'm currently struggling with a difficult breakup that I didn't initiate, but I know it's for the best. Unfortunately, my ex-girlfriend and I share the same hobby and will be seeing each other every day at our small club gatherings. Although I don't have to engage in conversation, it will be challenging to be in such close proximity with her, especially since we have mutual friends. I'm not sure how to handle my emotions in this situation. Any advice?" 

"I'm starting to accept that my negative thoughts are making my life a lot harder than it is.

I don't praise myself for my efforts. If the results aren't great or perfect.

On the other hand, when I fail I tear myself apart and it really brings me down. To make matters worse I start to ruminate about all my other failures in life and I just start heading down a endless spiral of negativity.

I meditate and I have a gratitude journal but those aren't really helping right now. My rest schedule these past couple of days haven't been the best so I've been more irritated than usual.

I want to change my mindset. I want to develop a positive mindset."

"I often struggle with overthinking and anxious worry thoughts. I tell myself over and over again not to obsess over that which I can’t control but I struggle to truly free myself from the burden of worrying. Usually I worry about whether someone I care about is alright, whether they are safe, and how they are feeling. Sometimes, I struggle with feelings of inadequacy and jealousy when I think someone else is better at caring for and providing for the people I love. Can you suggest ways to help me manage this anxiety? "

"I feel myself failing both myself, life at home, and as an employee. I'm letting things go at home as well as myself, I'm doing the bare minimum and dragging my feet at work now and loathe the idea of coming in to work know ill be there until 3am….my higher ups are telling me too chill. I don't know if I'm trying hard enough or trying too hard. Again. The money is nice, but take away the overtime and it's paycheck to paycheck and I'm just feeling so negative anymore. I practically live at work at this point.  Just need guidance.”