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At their core affirmations are good things they help us frame our minds to see things differently and so much more.

At their core affirmations are good things they help us frame our minds to see things differently and so much more.More times than not, I have seen that affirmations do not work for me. And there is a good reason for it. The structure of an affirmation follows this:

• How you say it
• When you say it
• What you say

There is so many different ways that this practice is taught. For instance some say you need to say it 3x a day and others say once is enough. And then there is the How and What you say. You must act as if it has already happened with the energy of elation. There is nothing wrong with affirmations. They are simply a tool like anything else.  But if it's not working for you like me, then I have a good idea to why that might be. It's that you are not believing what you say.

I tell a personal story about how I learned to write affirmations from a gifted spiritual mentor.  Every time I would offer my own created affirmation she would critique it and say that my words were throwing off the energetics. I created a belief that "I am no good at writing affirmations." I internalized this and as you can probably see that this underlying belief sabotaged my affirmations NOT because I was using the wrong words.

As I mention, these critiques from my mentor was triggering my PERFECTIONIST. Once this lovely block is activated well, no matter what words I write were going to help this. There is another part to why affirmations weren't working and that is not enough emphasis was being made on the Energetics of the affirmations. What is the energy behind what I am saying?

My Mentor would make tweaks and edits to my affirmations. I could read it of course but I never truly believe it because the words she came up with weren't my own. As Empaths, we must believe what we say. "Fake it 'til you make it" is an idea that is lost on us because deep in our hearts we DON'T believe it. Even if we truly want it.

Later I met another coach who had a beautiful way through this debacle of not believing your affirmations but how you can make them work for you. She offered this simple phrasing that you can attach to it: A part of me wants to believe ...(add your desired outcome).This feels so much better than trying to "trick" myself that I already HAVE it when I know I don't. As I reveal in this podcast I still hold tightly to the belief that I am not a good affirmation writer! And that brings me to the point that I believe firmly, if it doesn't work for you then you don't have to keep trying to make it work.

With an overactive perfectionist at play I know that no matter what this won't work for me, or maybe I am not getting it in the way I thought. The thing that is really important to note is that you can use other ways of creating magic that are beyond a well written affirmations. Nowadays, I use my oracle cards and psychic abilities, follow my intuition as my primary tools for manifesting whatever it is want to call in, experience, or feel in this life. I really believe in them and I know that is why they work.

The bottom line of this episode is here to tell you to:

"Use your intuition, feel into what tools will work for you, and know that if you don't believe 'em, then they'll never gonna work anyway."

What really gets in the way of your intuition?

Introduction:

As a part of this audience of Seekers I bet you already know what your intuition is all about! We know it is a beautiful wonderful gift we all have that can feel extremely magical.

Segment 1 - Not trusting our intuition.

There are many reasons why we don't trust it. The main and collectively held reason for us not to trust our intuitive senses is because we were indoctrinated to hold intellect at a higher esteem than our intuition. We believe only evidence based thinking rather than gut feelings and the like. I hope that in the future that we see more of a marriage of the two. We don't have classes on this in our schools. That is when we will know that it's made its way back into society as being an integral part of the human condition rather than a gift that some have and others don't.

Segment 2 - If not trust then what is it that gets in the way.

BELIEF! I tell you about how I experienced this in my own life. Every time I would try to "trick" myself out of accepting that I have intuitive and psychic abilities, they would come back anyways. What I realize is this: I had a deeply held belief that in fact I do have intuitive abilities. But I can also believe that they don't work or that it doesn't exist. But when you discover what you deeply hold true that is what takes precedence.

Segment 3 - Mentally stable.

I trained myself to believe that I didn't have them. It is a story I shared before on this podcast here: This topic of mental illness and psychic abilities is a tricky space to navigate. I made the decision to shut them off because I needed to preserve myself. I wanted my life back without losing myself by way of being diagnosed with a severe mental illness that meant I would need medication and supervision for the rest of my life. I make a bold statement by saying that in this modern age we don't hang or burn people we diagnose them. Of course, this was my single experience of being institutionalized in a time when things weren't readily accepted such as psychic abilities and the like. I do not wish to undermine anyone else's experience or any legitimate diagnosis.

Segment 4 - Your Values.

A deeply held truth or in other words a Value. This is why trying to hold a different belief for the benefit of survival or to escape being labeled or diagnosed did not ever work in my case. And the value that I think that would not let me do it is Loyalty to myself. I could not betray who I am in totality. The Truth of who you are will always rise up. It will find a way to be seen. Limiting beliefs can allow us to choose what we want to believe. But eventually our Inner Wisdom (intuition) will show us what we truly believe. So the #1 thing that can get in the way of you accessing your intuition is if you believe you don't have it.

What do you believe? Do you believe you have intuitive abilities? Let me know in the comments.

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What are the 3 things?  They are blocks or limiting beliefs. 

And the top 3 that I believe that get in the way of healers and coaches are: Not feeling good enough, Imposter Syndrome, and  People pleasing.

 At honorable mention are: Perfectionism & Comparisonitis. These two blocks can easily be a close cousin to any of these 3.  In this episode, I explore further on beliefs and tell a story about how I found one particular email from a fellow healer/coach not correct in the way we should perceive blocks. Their assessment was: they don't REALLY exist and you don't need to remove them because you are whole. This is partially true. I believe it's not the full story.  

What do you believe? And how have you seen these 3 blocks get in the way of your success?  

A lot of spiritual teachings I have seen, both online and off, have been really seriously boring. I mean by being so serious has made spiritual stuff boring. Does it have to be that way?

I feel like as teachers of intuition, magic, and spiritualism, we feel a huge responsibility to make sure those learning from us, learn the “right” way, have reverence for the energies that they play with and learn how to be safe & protected. I know from my own experience, I intend that anyone that works with me not ever to experience what I went through when I came out of sleeping, aka, awakening. It was a rough opening to this world. You can listen to that story here.

And now I realize, there is no way I can protect any one from anything. I can’t prevent something that your soul designed to experience. I’ve been SO serious about this that I shut off my FUN valve. I’m a pretty fun person when you meet me. So a few months back I started asking myself,

If there was ever time to really expand into our fun it is when we decide to truly engage with our intuition, psychic abilities, and the like. It is suppose to be FUN.

Why FUN?

You might have a different approach to this or another word that gets you there. I choose FUN because it frees us from any rules. And it’s a word that I associate with mostly from my childhood.

Remember back when you were a kid? Remember how everything you did was in service of FUN? We could create fun out of any thing, any one, at any time.

As a kid, you might’ve decided to knock over a freshly built Lego tower…why? FOR FUN!  You jumped off the top of the couch because you wanted to see if you could fly because…IT’s FUN!

This is precisely where we can find our magic if we think we lost it. Tapping into those fun times as kids. Think about the kind of things you did as a kid and start there.

Here in the Netherlands we have a comedy theater, Boom Chicago (named after Second City in Chicago), offers classes to intro of improvisation. So I dragged a good American friend with me and we went. IT WAS SO MUCH FUN! I had my first class last week and I have never laughed so hard in my life. It connects back to when I was a kid in a youth theatre program. We played these improv games for a few weeks before getting selected into a play. Finding the fun in your life, taking things less seriously will bring you to a place that is high vibe. This will open you up creatively and intuitively. You are letting go, feeling free and exploring what you are capable of by having fun.

I know as adults we get so serious and into our responsibilities. I believe we can find fun in any part of our lives. Of course not all things are fun. What I suggest here is by asking:

Where can I find the FUN in (this) ?

When you do, you are opening yourself up to more joy, ease and potentially laughter when you let go of those rules around the way things should be done.

When you think of spirituality what word do you associate with it?  Could fun work here?

And if you need a pump up in life then use this question:

Where can in my life or business could use an infusion of FUN?

Share with me in the comments.

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OCTOBER 25 - JOIN THE MASTERCLASS - How to be Visible in a way that feels good, doesn't drain your energy & without losing your mind!

It is essential for sensitive & intuitive business owners that we recognize how we "do" things. Which actually is to say how we FEEL things. In the last episode I brought up the fact that a lot of us Highly Sensitives have learned to shut off our feelings to fit in (or that we were shamed out of them) and that has hindered us on many levels. We have become so habitual in this that now we may have made it a standard operating process. However when embarking on such lofty goals as being online business owners and being visible or launching a new product, authenticity must be at the center of it. We are heart led and that comes from a feeling place. 

You will hear in this episode how I "headed" my way through the recent launch I had. All through it my intuition and sensitives were lighting the way, OUT of it. I shine a light on them because if we are in the space of being habitual we may miss the signs in service of "Making It Happen".  This old way of running a business is something we must unlearn. A new way is emerging and I believe it is us who are heart led sensitives can help create it. I share a story here my intuition made one more attempt to get through to me by using a fellow entrepreneur to show me that even the PLANETS weren't aligned. Another thing we can very much feel without looking it up. And what did I do?  

GUIDED is coming back refreshed and new!

My perfectionism is my BEAST who constantly drills me on how I should do things... 

Uh is that why I went into business for myself? 

In this new season I'm doing things with more ease, maybe a little more messy and I'm not gonna apologize for it! Returning as a Visibility coach for Hsp Intuitive Empaths who want to come out of hiding and shine their LIGHT unapologetically, bravely and boldly so they can serve their clients too! 

And the only way we can get those clients is to Be visible.

Season 4 Episode 3 - Creating Space & Ritual

This episode is about how once you identify a place in your life that you want change, growth or transformation the next step is to create space for it and ritual to keep you focused in claiming it in your life. 

This episode I talk about:

• how trusting the process has shown up in the very act of creating this series. 
• what creating space can look like: active moment during your day, or give yourself more time to reflect on what you want and it also can mean decluttering your physical space. 
• my personal story of being a new mom looking for a career and share how I creating space for it after I realized this was not the only thing I want to be. 
• How ritual can support that thing you are calling in. As I define it as, "A moment in your day that you are connecting with yourself." 
• I give an example of my morning ritual which I discovered is my most optimal time to give space for ritual. 
• I also share how being sensitive or an Empath ritual is very supportive because we are always exchanging energy with others (as many people do) but how we filter it is different. 
• Devoting time and space to what you want to change you are saying on an energetic level that you are ready and open to new opportunities.

Some time has passed since this interview. If you haven’t heard the first part please go back to it here. We jump right in talking about a few things:

• How working with another psychic amplifies your own abilities

• Deja Vu - she gives a deeper understanding on how it can be perceived

• We talk about unity consciousness, oneness and

• Dimensions and parallel lives

• Her service as an Akashic Records reader. Though we do not define what it is you can find that here. She shares how it works when she is giving a reading.

Sabrina is currently offering her books for free when you book coaching or an Akashic Record Reading.  These books are:

“Moving the World” was published last summer,

Ever feel like you are feeling so much but you don’t know how or WHO to talk to about it? You might be experiencing your gifts in a powerful new way but you know if you say something about what you are experiencing, well, you might be looked at funny. 

In this episode, I first reintroduce myself, the work I do and I talk a lot about the journey of being Woo. It is definitely not a straight path.

I also talk about what I have been experiencing in these last few months while I've been away getting better and how it may support you!

" And [being] intuitive, you know, you're in touch with something what other people can't see or feel the way you do, and sometimes there isn't words for it. Until we meet more people like us. And that's the funny thing about this, having these gifts is we often hold them inside so deeply because we're so afraid of being rejected that we think no one else experiences these things."

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Season 1 Episode 1 - Interview with Pauline Siebers 

Originally published on February 14, 2018.

The maiden launch of this podcast, started with interviews with talented women who followed their hearts, passion and intuition that changed their lives and took them down new paths. Pauline was the first interview of this podcast.

In this interview you will hear from Pauline:

• Talk about her unique business that combines her talents in social media, translating techy talk, coaching and consciousness

• The inspired idea while shopping at a Southern town in France that changed everything.

• How a plumbing problem in an apartment she was selling turned into a fortunate situation for her.

• The way Pauline uses set-backs to propel her forward.

• Shares about her burn-out, depression and remembering who she truly is - a joyful soul who affects others with her happiness.

Pauline is an inspiration not only how she listens to her intuition but how she translates it and makes it happen. Since knowing her I’ve seen how this continues to be a central way of living for her. This interview represents the very essence of her. It is my hope that inspires you to find your own intuition in the most unsuspecting places.

The topic of Alignment is a hot topic and can be found all over the internet. But what does it mean to align? And what are you aligning with?

In this episode I talk about 2 places that alignment occurs: energetically and in your life's fulfillment.  At the first half I complete our journey on energy that has been discussed recently on the podcast. I talk about the C.A.P. Method: Clearing, Anchoring, & Protecting. Giving this episode more time on a protecting then I have in past episodes. I share with you a few tips for protecting.  A few examples:

• pink bubble
• ring of flowers
• Archangel Michael (my personal go-to) 

On the second half of the episode I talk more about life fulfillment. This is something widely talked about in coaching. As a coach, myself, I will focus in on life purpose and values with my clients. Especially if they are stuck in one life area. In this episode I talk more about values and why you need to know them. Life purpose is a bigger topic that is something very personal to the individual. 

When you know your purpose, values and energetically align everyday there is less chance you will fall off your path. Of course we all need reminders and nudges from time to time. Perhaps you need to take a deeper look at your purpose. As I mention in the episode that work is extremely rewarding but not often handled well on your own. My recommendation: Work with a coach, of course. :-) 

Tell me how you find this information. Will you start a CAP practice? How are you fit with your life purpose?  

Anchoring your energy into your body is the topic of this episode. As sensitive empathic women who run businesses this practice is essential in keeping in your own energy. In the episode:

• I review last episode of Matching someone's energy. How energy is e-motion which is energy in motion. When someone is denying or suppressing their emotion it is very easily picked up by a nearby sensitive. So someone like us, gulp!
• I open this topic of Anchoring in your own energy. I use the metaphor of a ship and what happens when it's not anchored the currents take it out to sea. This is the same way it can feel in your body. You are being taken over and directed by energy of others. When you are anchored in you notice other people's energy but it doesn't take you over. 
• The importance of anchoring. Most sensitives' essences are not fully in their body. This is because we connect via the auric field with others and sense other information in this space. When a sensitive woman doesn't anchor in her energy then she is more susceptible to other's energy. 
• I also talk about what it feels like when you are not in your energy.  

“As sensitive business women we can take care of our own power and hold our own energy without feeling lost in other people’s [energy].”

How can you be an effective leader of your business and life if you are constantly matching another person’s energy? And maybe you don’t even know you are doing it?

This episode gives a few examples of how this shows up by telling two stories. One is about discovering my ability to match (aka, absorb) people’s energy through a life coaching session I had with a fellow coach. The other story recounts a time where I was leading a meeting in a collaboration I started with a group of women. One woman was not quite herself and I felt it every minute of our meeting.

These examples were before I knew that I was sensitive and an Empath. I remember how situations like these always made me irritated but I never really understood what exactly was going on. I often thought it was me, perhaps, being overbearing or needing to have something go a certain way. Though I was constantly striving for balance in some way that appeared really invisible to me. What I’ve come to understand better over the years is that when I take on or match someone’s energy my agenda in the meeting (project or business) and my effectiveness is lost in the confusing state of a person’s feelings. Back in the time of these examples, I had no idea what was causing it so that added to my frustrations. Does this sound familiar to you?

It takes some self discipline and awareness to become savvy in our energy field work. In today’s episode, I offer 3 things you can do when you find yourself feeling suddenly overwhelmed, don’t know where it is coming from but you definitely want to find your footing again. Join me in this episode on how to stop being taken down by unexpected energy bombardment.

After you listen come back & share with me in the comments, what are your key takeaways! I would really love to know.

I start off with an admission about myself. I talk about my process of making THIS very episode. And this became the very inspiration for this episode on How do you allow you to be You! Here are some of the highlighted points:

• Our inner dialogue can be little a mini battle that we have to work through before we can show up as our true selves (as an example I give of myself)
• The freedom of expression of ourselves feels vague and intangible. We often want to anchor it down. 
• How a lot of what is stuck inside us came from our cultural upbringing so that we had some way to live in unison. 
• Creativity and Intuition are very similar they arrive when we give space for it. And though we can harness this through discipline it oftens wants to flow in a certain way through each of us. 

What do you love about yourself or want to give more permission to allow it to be expressed through you?

In this episode I talk about the difference between routine and ritual. I go over my own morning ritual and how that makes for a good start to my day. I set an intention with how I want my energy to feel that day. And this ritual supports me for the rest of the day. This is key for most Highly sensitive, empathic women. Our energy is often bombarded by other influences. I continue on this theme of ritual by talking about what is the purpose of a ritual is to create space for something that we deem important. That's my easy definition for it. It is quite different than creating a routine. In a ritual, we must slow down, be present and regard our rituals with a sense of purpose & meaning. There is a sort of sacredness to it. When I looked up the meaning of ritual this was what I learned: "A ceremony in which actions and wording follow a prescribed order and form."

I also talk about what makes a strong ritual by choosing a focus or as I say, drivers. Such as, to Manifest, to Release, to Honor. I use a personal example as a way to deconstruct how to create a ritual. If I ever get that Mustang I will let you know! :-) 

This is part of my journey into my spiritual awareness, what makes me a little on the woo side, psychic and mystical. It was 1995 when everything came to a screeching halt.

After a few specific events, I realized the world was not ready for who I really wanted to be. And I shut them down.

I highlight a time where things were very magical, kismet and full of excitement until it wasn’t so fun anymore. It started with a reading by a local spice shop owner. She told me some very encouraging things about my gifts. She gave me permission to be more myself. But that is where it ended. And after that meeting, many things happened that changed me. It is also what I realize now brings me to this work. I don’t want anyone to feel lost in this world. I want each woman with sensitivities to know she is NOT crazy, it is happening & REAL, and guess what I am here to help anchor you in this expansion of yourself.

This episode is all about etheric cords and how to cut them. Why would we need to do that? As Empaths and highly sensitive women we pick up energy naturally and often. I explain in this episode: 

• What are Etheric cords?
• How we get them?
• Why it's important for us to cut them sometimes?
• And what way to do this?