Your Fiercely Fabulous Life Podcast with Shelly Qualtieri

Welcome to an interview with me and Vicki to discuss the process of de-escalating potentially violent situations and how we need to start by learning to de-escalate ourselves. Shelly explains how anger is a secondary emotion – the bodyguard to sadness and the protector to fear. They explore practical steps that can make a difference to calm both ourselves and others. Not only can we interrupt an escalation, but Shelly embodies a perspective that sees hope in these very situations toward possible deeper connection and healing.

For more resources in the areas of trauma, mental health, counselling skills, and violence prevention visit ctrinstitute.com and for further learning on this subject try our new De-Escalating Potentially Violent Situations™ E-Course

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This podcast episode we will talk about teen therapy and its importance for teens. It gives them a safe, private place to talk about their feelings, thoughts, and worries without being judged.

Let's be honest, the teenage years are a time of big emotional and mental changes, and therapy can help teens deal with these changes in a healthier way. Therapy can help teens learn useful ways to deal with stress, solve problems, and talk to each other along with providing them with a safe place to figure out who they are, build up their strength, and deal with any mental health problems they may be having.

Investing in their mental health at this important time can have a big, positive effect on their general growth and success in the future.

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This podcast episode is dedicated to exploring the intricacies of happiness and sharing valuable insights on how to lead a more joyful life. Join me as we dive into the science of happiness, uncovering Canadian research that sheds light on what truly brings us joy and of course some bite-size suggestions on how to be your happiest you yet!

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Friendships are an essential part of a teenager's life.

For teenage girls, friendships can be particularly important for emotional support and socialization. However, friendships can also be a source of stress and conflict, especially during the teenage years when social dynamics can be challenging.

Research from Canada suggests that friendship challenges are prevalent among teenage girls. A study by the Canadian Women's Foundation found that over 70% of teenage girls experienced negative social dynamics, including gossiping, exclusion, and cyberbullying.

There are several ways that you can help your teenage daughter navigate friendship challenges - we will explore some of these today.

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I had the opportunity to be interviewed by Alana with Stomp the Stigma -  here is our chat, we hope you enjoy!

Here to Stomp the Stigma today is registered social worker Shelly Qualtieri.  

Specializing in suicide, self harm, and depression, Shelly brings to the podcast this week her experience and expertise surrounding mental health and the support of a loved one.  She also hosts her own podcast, Your Fiercely Fabulous Life, which features women from diverse backgrounds who talk about how they tackle this crazy journey called life!

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Today's podcast is on anger. Anger is a natural human emotion Anger is a powerful emotion that everyone experiences from time to time. Whether it's feeling angry at a loved one, a colleague, or even a stranger on the street, anger can be a difficult emotion to manage.

Anger is a complex and powerful emotion that can be difficult to manage. However, by understanding why we feel anger, where it stems from, and using effective strategies and tools, we can learn to manage it in healthy ways. In this episode, we'll be exploring why we feel anger, where it stems from, and what strategies and tools we can use to help us manage this emotion.

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While counselling is often seen as a resource for individuals seeking support, it is still a topic that is surrounded by stigma and misconception, especially for men. In this episode, we will discuss the top issues for men in counselling, the stigma surrounding men seeking help. 

Now, let's discuss the stigma surrounding men seeking help.  Despite the growing awareness of mental health issues, seeking help can still carry a stigma, particularly for men. Men are often expected to be strong and resilient, and admitting to struggles with mental health can be seen as a weakness, some men may worry about being judged or stigmatized by their peers or community if they seek help. 

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Meet Nichole - Registed Social Worker and BIG supporter of Men's Mental Health and Wellness.

Get to know a little more about Nichole in this episode - she will talk about her passion for therapy, how to feel safe and connected to your virtual therapist, mens issues and how we can be a support, trauma and what therapy can look and feel like.

Nichole will also discuss CBT and EMDR in todays podcast.

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Teenagers frequently struggle with depression and self-harm.  

Many youth in Canada suffer from depression, a mood condition. It can result in unhappiness, pessimism, and a lack of interest in activities once of interest to your teen.

 Physical symptoms may include exhaustion, lack of appetite or overeating, and challenges with sleeping can also be brought on by depression. These signs can significantly affect a teen's capacity to carry out daily tasks, such as attending school and participating in social activities, seeing friends, and isolating themselves.  

On the other side, self-harming is a habit that's frequently utilized as a way to deal with big and tricky emotionals that your teen may not have the tools and strategies to deal with. Cutting, burning, scraping, pinching,or hitting oneself are just a few ways teens may selfharm. It may lead to more serious issues and most often indicates underlying problems for your teen -  it may be time to find professional supports. 

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Meet Marizabel! Our very own Sports Psychologist.

Often times on our life’s journey, we may encounter moments of anxiety, feelings of isolation, perfectionism, or moments where we have felt overwhelmed by external pressures.

Anxiety, loneliness, difficulties within relationships, and overwhelming feelings are sometimes part of life's journey. It is Marizabel's goal to create a safe, healing environment for you to explore these difficult times together. 

She has a passion is holding space for individuals who are living with anxiety, depression, ADHD, borderline personality disorder, and acquired brain injury. I provide support in the areas of identity, life transitions, relationship dynamics, emotional regulation and specializes in sport-related counselling.

Take a listen to our newest episode where Marizabel talks with me about injury in sport, team dynamics, sport related anxiety, and her own soccer injury.

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Anxiety is a common mental health disorder affecting millions of people worldwide. It can cause a range of symptoms, including excessive worry, fear, and physical symptoms like palpitations, sweating, and difficulty breathing. Fortunately, there are effective ways to manage anxiety, and in this podcast, we will discuss some of the latest research, tips, and strategies.

According to a study conducted by the Canadian Mental Health Association, anxiety disorders are the most common mental health condition among youth in Canada, with approximately 10-20% of Canadian youth experiencing a diagnosable anxiety disorder. The study also found that anxiety is often under-diagnosed in youth, with only one-third of those experiencing symptoms receiving appropriate treatment.

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In this episode, Maris Chisholm sits down with Shelly Qualtieri to discuss how, and ways of taking care of our psychological safety & mental health in the workplace. Mental wellness in the workplace is a crucial aspect of creating a healthy and productive work environment. It refers to the state of emotional and psychological well-being of employees in their workplace. Shelly Qualtieri is Owner of Shelly Qualtieri & Associates Counselling & Coaching.

Learn more about how to support your teams, colleagues and those who you may be concerned about in your workplace.

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Overthinking and rumination can be challenging habits to manage, but with the right strategies, it is possible to find peace and happiness. 

In today's episode where we will be discussing unique tips and suggestions for dealing with overthinking and rumination. Overthinking and rumination can cause a lot of stress and anxiety, and it's important to find strategies that work for you. In this episode, we'll explore some unique approaches to managing these tendencies.

According to the Canadian Mental Health Association, 1 in 5 Canadians will experience a mental health problem or illness in any given year. Anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in Canada, affecting 5% of the population in any given year. Overthinking and rumination are often associated with anxiety, so it's clear that many Canadians may be struggling with these habits.

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Therapy can be an expensive experience. Especially if we are uncertain of what the therapy journey is going to look like for us and about how many sessions we are going to need to attend. Take a listen to this episode, covering a little bit more about fees, how they’re structured, and some questions to ask your therapist.

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In this episode, we’ll talk about key reasons to start therapy, even when you are not in crisis! Working on your mental health is as important as working on your physical health, by being proactive! If you’re not sure that therapy is a thing for you maybe this episode will help.

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Have you ever wondered how therapy is like dandelions? The yellow flowers popping up just like going to talk about your problems, but never actually getting to the root of them. In this episode, we are going to talk about our team and the best way to find a therapist that can help you get to the root of your dandelions.

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Some of the most painful emotions we may carry or regret, shame, fear. Some of these can create rejection, isolation and might even be reasons we are stuck in our own lives. Let’s unpack these and understand why some of these emotions can be the most painful we feel.

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Starting therapy requires courage. It’s a easy to acknowledge that, despite your best efforts to address the challenges you face, you may need outside help to make crucial and critical changes in your life. Let’s dive in and talk about why therapy is brave.

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Seeing how you compared to others around you may in fact push you to be bigger and better rather than holding you back. Searching for those that are in similar positions can help us a reset our self doubting perspective and launch us forward.

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When a relationship ends most times the question we ask is why. Understanding and learning this reason can be painful but important.

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About 13% of Canadians will experience social anxiety in their lifetime. It is more likely to occur in women especially during the years of development transitioning from teens to young adults. They remain some misconceptions about how this can influence peoples lives, there are misunderstandings that can delay supports and there are some definite ways help with therapy could be key.

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Feelings are always knocking, but you do get to decide and make a choice whether you let them in or not. Learning how to understand them, shut the door, and be in a calmer more controlled place is possible for each of us.

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Do you long for brighter days ahead? The importance of mental health has been a much discussed topic over the last two years. We are now having a wave of mental health challenges come out of living two years in a global pandemic, let’s take a moment and talk about our mental health.

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A quiet evening end and you find yourself scrolling through social media, whether that’s Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat or other platform of choice you find yourself a contestant in the comparison game. You know the rules, endlessly swipe and measure your own happiness against everybody else’s. You will never win in this game. Take a listen here for how this can end up making us feel and what to do about it.

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Conquering your therapy hurdles can feel overwhelming. Sometimes when we’re thinking about going to therapy we are wanting to go to grow, only at times it feels as though we’re back sliding…But we are actually making leaps and bounds to address our challenges head-on, but there’s always a messy in the middle. Listen to this episode to find out all about the progress you didn’t know you were having.

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Let’s be real here for a minute we spend the majority of our day as women during our waking hours giving to others, the idea of prioritizing our self feels like a bit of a delusional joke. But giving yourself permission to recharge and taking a mental health day shouldn’t be a last resort. It’s big burn out and overwhelmed before it happens with a proactive perspective.

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The key to making sustainable changes is to start small, bite-size! 

With a New Year right around the corner this may leave us feeling we need to set big, flashy goals - which most often do not work out as we dream, they may. Now is the time to set some goals you can really stick with, follow a few simple bite-size steps, throw in a dash or strategy and you are off and running.

Listen in and rest assured you will be better prepared to choose your battles, set your goals, redefine failure and achieve what ever you set your mind on.

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Are you struggling to find your positivity? You’re reciting daily affirmations and they’re quickly replaced by negative thoughts or scrutinizing yourself. You scribble daily and a gratitude diary but just can’t figure out why these positive emotions won’t materialize.

Stay tuned for this episode and discover some ways to cultivate positivity!

So, you think you want to find a counsellor and are not sure how to find one?

Or you may be calling a few different therapists to seek out a connection but are unsure of what kinds of questions to ask them to see if they are good fit for you or someone in your family.

After being in human and social services for over 30 years now, I have a pretty good understanding of what types of conversations should be held on the first visit.  During this Episode, I also identify the differences and similarities between a Psychiatrist, a Psychologist and a Social Worker -- who can or does therapy and counselling? who can prescribe medications?  

There is some great information in this episode so grab a pen and get ready!

Your mood is impacting your relationships.

Not enough going on in your life to keep you interested.

Your mood feels lower, heavier lasting for longer periods of time.

Set up an appointment with yourself to give a mental health check in.   

In this podcast, I provide you with a checklist to measure your mental health status!

The fact is you can never be in complete control of any or every situation. Worrying, feelings of anxiety, and micromanaging every event can bring a sense of control but it’s not gonna stop you from fretting and it can’t guarantee that everything will go as planned. In fact, this might mean you’re missing the main event. Tools and strategies will be shared in this podcast to help you recognize your worries, loosen the grip of anxiety and starting to trust yourself.

Sometimes it takes experiences such as a house fire or evacuation, the pandemic, losing a family member, losing a job... to realize that we need to be vulnerable enough to ASK.  FOR.  HELP.

In order to grow as a person, we need to gather our tribe, find a confidant or a mentor, a support person, As Brene’ Brown tells us; too many of us equate being vulnerable with weakness however; as she so famously quotes, “vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage”. 

Listen in on how we can become vulnerable during these challenging times.

Our communication skills and style or essential to positive and productive relationships. Effective communication requires us to be clear about our thoughts, our desires and how to respond to others when we feel they may be stepping on our toes.

Listen and learn a few tips on how to communicate effectively, whether it be at work or at home so your needs can be heard and understood.

Have you ever pulled into your driveway after work and wondered "how did I get here?"   You can't remember if you stopped at the red lights or even what music we were listening to.  

Our minds can disengage from the present moment during routine tasks.  Our brains are hardwired to remember repetition so that we don't have to concentrate on every little thing.

It's a defense mechanism.  And a blessing.

But what happens when we spend too much time on autopilot?  Tune into this podcast and find out how to ensure we aren't missing the "Main Event".