#Be Inspired

"The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score."– Bill Copeland Do you ever feel you're working hard but not getting anywhere? Maybe you see a little improvement in your skills or achievements when you reflect on the past few years. Or perhaps you struggle to see how you can fulfil your ambitions within a period.

Many people spend their lives moving from one job to another or rushing around trying to get more done while accomplishing very little. Setting SMART goals means clarifying your ideas, focusing your efforts, using your time and resources productively, and increasing your chances of achieving what you want in life.

Contentment is the key to a Joyful life. If you never stop to enjoy the moment, when are you ever going to be happy? Contentment can be elusive because the pursuit of ever-greater dreams often leads to an endless quest, highlighting the challenging nature of human satisfaction.

Decide today, to be happy at every stage of your life, every situation, no matter what, and find joy in life. Remember, No one has the best of everything, they just make the best of what they have. and so can you.

A famous quote says, “When you are discontent, you always want more, more, more. Your desire can never be satisfied. But when you practice contentment, you can say to yourself, 'Oh yes- I already have everything that I really need.”

What you think matters, make your own decisions. Because those who love you won’t mind. And those who don’t support you don’t matter.

Be the driver of your life and not the passenger. No one can love you more than you love yourself. Decide today, to do what you want to do, make your decisions , learn from your mistakes, be happy, fufilled, knowing what you think matters.

Setting goals is a wonderful step towards achieving them. But how do you ensure you achieve those goals? The 3 main things you need are Desire, Drive and Do. What do you desire? why do you desire it? The why is your Driving force and that facilitates and ensures the Doing. One step at a time, one day at a time, you can achieve and accomplish the goals you set for yourself.

This episode outlines the first steps you need to ensure your goal or goals are achieved. And once you believe you can and are willing to work on them, you are already halfway there.

“Without goals and plans to reach them, you are like a ship that has set sail with no destination.” – Fitzhugh Dodson. One of my favourite quotes highlights the need to take control of your life.

Life is filled with the unexpected and you never know what could happen. It's important that you plan and take control of your life. No one should be in control of you. Do not look for validation in others. Validate yourself. you are enough and the only obstacle in your life, stopping you from becoming who you want to be, is yourself. 

The words you write or speak to others can leave a tremendous impact and create a lasting memory, either good or bad. So it's very important to choose them wisely. Be mindful of your words. Words you say without thinking and mean little to you may stick with someone else for a lifetime and alter their destiny. Watch your words and think before you speak. Put yourselves in their shoes because once the words come out of your mouth, you can't take them back. And even when you say sorry, the wounds your words created will still leave everlasting scars. 

Sometimes what we want is not what we need. The ability to see things for what they really are rather than what we want them to be, allows us to recognize the good and find peace in our decisions, progressing ourselves to the future that awaits us.

 "THERE IS NOTHING GOOD OR BAD, THINKING MAKES IT SO". Shakespeare breaks down perspective perfectly. For example, two strands of hair in a glass of milk: that's too many, but two strands of hair on the head: that's too little. Your perspective on life defines your attitude and the way you choose to live your life. If you want to live a fulfilled life, be successful and be happy, you must have a positive perspective. It's time to change your perspective.

“I do not exist to please the world. I exist to live my life the way that will make me happy. “ R. Bach.

This is one of my favourite quotes because it defines how to live and not just exist, Be Happy.

Are you going through life, waking up every day and feeling as if you can’t do anything to change your life for the better? Do you feel everything has been decided for you and you don’t have any choice in the matter? You can’t see yourself making a change in your life and feel stuck in one place, unhappy and unfulfilled? Then am sorry to say, you are merely existing.

Or are you someone who wakes up every day and regardless of not knowing what the day might bring, you feel happy, fulfilled, know that you decide how the day goes and know that you have control over your life and not someone else? Do you take time out to enjoy, have fun, do the things you want to do that make you happy? Then you are actually living.

Todays’s Podcast, ‘Don’t just exist, Live’, outlines the difference between living and existing and suggests steps you need to make to stop merely existing and start living a happy fulfilled life.

Be positive, let go of anger, love yourself and learn to forgive. This will surely make you feel much better about yourself. And begin to see the amazing effect you have on others. Surround yourself with positive people, people who will lift you up. Most importantly, get rid of malice, anger and resentment, and this will improve your self-esteem and increase your chances of reaching goals. 

Like I stated in self love 1, No one can love you more than you love yourself. Loving you is the first step to loving another and excelling at what you do. You must believe in You. You can be the original of yourself and not the copy of someone else. Be a leader and let everyone else follow. If someone stops talking to you, let them be , God brings and takes people out of our lives for a reason.

No one can love you more than you love yourself. Loving you is the first step to loving another and excelling at whatever you do. this brings me to two of my favourite quotes: "Why should we worry about what others think of us, do we have more confidence in their opinions than we do our own?" -- Brigham Young" and "Love yourself first and everything else falls into line. You really have to love yourself to get anything done in this world." -- Lucille Ball 

I love this quote, “The only way that we can live, is if we grow. The only way that we can grow is if we change. The only way that we can change is if we learn. The only way we can learn is if we are exposed. And the only way that we can become exposed is if we throw ourselves out into the open. Do it. Throw yourself.”– C. Joybell C.

Change can come in so many ways. It might come forcefully like COVID 19 or come finally like the Black lives matter protests. Sometimes it also stems from devastating tragedy, difficult choices, broken relationships, or even new opportunities. Although change can be hard, a lot of times it’s for the best. Significant changes that push us beyond our limits help us to accomplish great things in life Dealing with an unexpected change like the COVID 19 period and its devastating effects is very difficult for most, but from this, we can learn to cope and see the unique opportunities this period provides for us to change our lives.

Join my 3 friends and I as we discuss changes the COVID 19 Period as brought into our lives, Part 2 follows shortly, Enjoy.

From today come along with us, as we highlight, rant and rave, laugh, quarrel and occasionally goof but ultimately make our marriage work, we hope you will be blessed and learn one or two things about what your spouse is thinking but can’t actually say to you. Enjoy

Staying happily married takes commitment, dedication, compromise, trust, love and the grace of God Almighty. The gang and I get together and discuss some of the reasons why we feel a lot of marriages lasted longer years back and nowadays reasons why a lot of marriages don't last that long.. I hope you enjoy and are blessed by our discussion. I leave you with three of my favourite quotes on love and marriage.

"There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.”– Ronald Reagan“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”– Dave Meurer. “Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”

Time waits for no one, don't spend your time on earth living for someone else. if you meet an amazing person, regardless of the colour, tribe or religion, hold onto them and don't let go. amazing people don't walk into your life every day. Don't let what others think to make you lose out on marvellous, wonderful, happy and fulfilling. Don't let others peoples voices, silence your own voice and most importantly have the courage to follow your own dreams, not someone else's version of your dream. follow your heart, your feelings, your desires. that's what's important, Mixing it up? Now that's your choice.

Between us, Itodo, Victoria, Agatha, Jude, Tobi, Paul and myself, discuss the myths surrounding virginity. Ponder over the reasons why some want to marry virgins and some decide to abstain after getting some experience. We also look into the question, is it possible to be an experienced virgin? 

Some say you must be sexually attracted to the person you intend to be in a relationship with, but is that enough to sustain the relationship? what do you think? listen to Itodo, Agatha, Isreal and my self talk about this and I pray it blesses you and makes a difference.

Maya Angelou said, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.” Most times all you need to do is confide in someone else, share your hurts, worries, concerns. Open up to that person you know will always listen to you and not just hear you. Those tears in your eyes are like words that need to be spoken, tell your story and your experience to someone. Sometimes the best way to heal and excel is to remind yourself that you are not the only one going through this and all you need to do is Share, begin to Heal and then Excel.

"Don't forget am just a girl standing in front of a boy asking him to love her" A quote from the film Notting Hill summarises this episode. the questions are, should a lady ask a guy out? should she propose if he doesn't? do men take women who ask them out for granted? Come along with Itodo, Victoria, Agatha, Nsikan and she heals, as they discuss, dissect and delve into opinions, myths and trends of life in the 21st century

"When you are trying to talk to your spouse about something, remember one thing. You attract more bees with honey than vinegar. Ultimately the bond of all companionship, whether in marriage or in friendship, is the conversation. Communication to a relationship is like what oxygen is to life'' Anonymous. Be open in your relationship, communicate, share, explore, have fun and live a fulfilled life. if you don't. you leave your relationship open to outside influences. Join My five dear friends, Victoria, Itodo, Agatha, Nsikan and Grace, as we dissect, discuss and share. 

Five of my dear friends, Nsikan, Itodo, Agatha, Grace and Victoria get together with me and between us we dissect the trend of young guys relying on  women to pay their bills. is it right? should a woman support her man whether they are married or not? should a man be a house husband? who should stay home for the first 5 years of the child's life? why is it okay for a woman to depend on a man but not the other way round? So many questions, very interesting and diverse opinions. Join us as we share and you listen and learn. 

I love what Oscar Wilde said  “ Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.”  Becoming you, is being the authentic version of yourself and not the fake version of someone else. Everything about you becomes you, your thoughts, your life and your passions are yours. The best way to love your self and be you is to understand and become who God made you to be. Your time on earth is limited don't waste it living someone else's life, Today, make the decision to take the next step to become you.

Life is about the choices you make and creating yourself. What's your purpose? where are you going? what are you doing?. Are you sitting back and letting life pass you by? Do you always see disappointments as tragedy's or blessings? Did you know that when one door closes another one opens, or do you spend too much time looking at the closed door that you don't notice the other open doors?. There comes a time in life when you have to choose between taking the next step forward of staying put in the past. What are you going to do? remember, it is said that Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it. So make the decision today, to step into your future, make the right choice, recreate your self and begin to live life and don't let life live you.

  Your next step of a thousand miles starts  with just one. You might never take that next step if you worry  about how hard it will be or how long it might take . We make the journey by taking each day step by step and then repeating it again and again until we reach our destination. Pray,Focus, think,innovate , collaborate,  Keep your eyes on the goal, making that move one day at a time will lead you to the finish line. Step outside your comfort zone because that's the only way you're going to grow, breakthrough and succeed. 

 The most important things in life are your relationships and how you nurture them. By showing that you care, you can make a big difference in peoples’ lives. Be a difference maker! People will forget everything you do to and for them but they will never forget the way you treat them.

Love is when you care too much, T.Roosevelt put it like this "Nobody cares how much you know, until they know how much you care".
To the world you may be one person, but to one person you may be the world.

Raising A well-adjusted person means having  a mature personality and being in  control of emotions and dealing with problems without becoming anxious. 

To navigate the ups and downs of life requires the right support systems. Never feel you are alone , never feel no one loves you, do not put too much pressure on yourself. no matter the problem there is always a solution, Nothing is impossible . If you ever feel alone, Just take a look around and see all the amazing people God has put around you to be there for you no matter what.

 Reality is a question of perspective , what is yours might not be for others . To judge others by your values alone is you being judgmental. we all have our values and believe what we think is right. so think before you impose your values on someone else . 

  “Love yourself. Enough to take the actions required for your happiness. Enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past. Enough to set a high standard for relationships. Enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner. Enough to forgive yourself. Enough to move on.” – S. Maraboli . “Love yourself enough to set boundaries. Your time and energy are precious. You get to choose how you use it. You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” – A. Taylor 

Take a look around and see how fortunate you are, think about all the things you are grateful for and watch your life turnaround for good. Happiness comes easier when you stop complaining about the problems  you have and start being thankful for the problems  you dont have

People and situations will always disappoint you and let you down but never stop believing in yourself, and believing you can. When one step fails, take another and keep going. Have a positive attitude, remember it’s how you think, that you feel and how you react. The key to achieving success is never giving up.

Most of the time failures and irrevocable disastrous situations stem from people with a habit of making excuses, justifying mistakes and blaming someone else. Eleanor Roosevelt said something that really drives this home for me “In the long run, we shape our lives, and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility”.

" Life is a matter of choices, and every choice you make makes you". J.Maxwell . The choices you make today, will determine your life tomorrow, " Decisions become easier when your will to please God outweighs your will to please the world"A Coetzer.

Asking for help and advice, or asking how someone did what you are about to do , is not a sign of weakness but a sign of great strength.

"The secret of change is to focus all your energy, not on fighting the old, but on building the new"-Socrates

  Many of us live in denial of who we truly are because we fear losing someone or something and there are times that if we don’t rock the boat, too often the one we lose is ourselves. It feels good to be accepted, loved, and approved of by others, but often the membership fee to belong to that club is far too high of a price to pay. ― D.M Jones. We change our behavior when the pain of staying the same becomes greater than the pain of changing. Consequences give us the pain that motivates us to change. ― H. Cloud 

 “Love yourself first, because that’s who you’ll be spending the rest of your life with.”  “Love yourself. Enough to take the actions required for your happiness. Enough to cut yourself loose from the drama-filled past. Enough to set a high standard for relationships. Enough to feed your mind and body in a healthy manner. Enough to forgive yourself. Enough to move on.” –  Maraboli 

Sharing to heal and excel....Priceless, topped up with forgiveness, hmm, definitely worth it. "When you forgive, you in no way change the past,  but you sure do change the future."Meltzer

 "There's a belief that most people embark on a quest to find their destiny. But more often than not, through adversity and challenges, our destiny finds us". J.Gordon 

Most times the road we choose to travel on,is not the right way and  sometimes we choose to see things the way we want it to look not the way it actually is.what we actually spend years searching for, going from pillar to post, is actually right beside us all along.

 “Life is all about making choices. Always do your best to make the right ones, and always do your best to learn from the wrong ones.” Anonymous 

  “I used to think that finding the right one was about the man having a list of certain qualities. If he has them, we'd be compatible and happy. Sort of a check mark system that was a complete failure. But I found out that a healthy relationship isn't so much about sense of humor or intelligence or attractive. It's about avoiding partners with harmful traits and personality types. And then it's about being with a good person...." D.Caletti 

Strategy, whats yours? Where do you see yourself 10 years from now? “When you establish a destination by defining what you want, then take physical action by making choices that move you towards that destination, the possibility for success is limitless and arrival at the destination is inevitable.” S.Maraboli

''Parents can only give advice or put you on the right path, but a final forming of your character lies in your own hands'' Anne Frank. Make the decision to keep yourself and stay closed for business, Until.....

Define your moment ,Rewrite your story, dont let anyone tell you how your life will turn out."Everything we hear is an opinion, not a fact.everything we see is a perceptive, not the truth." Marcus Aurelius.

You are unique and like no other. Dont let other people tell you how to run your life and dont try and be someone else, Just be you." I am not what happened to me, I am what I choose to become" -C.G.Jung

We all want to be loved, cherished and pampered, not on one special day but every single day.