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Today Caitlan is very excited to have her partner Remo on the podcast. They get personal about the relationship & answer questions that were asked by the audience. This is part one of a two part episode.

In the episode we chat about:

• How we met
• We we don't believe in "the one"
• Living in Switzerland
• Challenges in our relationship
• Our communication & much more

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about everything that comes up when we outgrow friendships & when friendships need to end. There is guilt, there is shame, there is questioning, there is confusion and there is the fact that we don't really talk about this in society. All that to say, this episode is for you if you want support in navigating it, I know I needed it!

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• Why friendships may change
• Signs that you've outgrown a friendship
• The most difficult things when it comes to ending friendships
• How to end a friendship
• A personal story from Caitlan ending a friendship
• & much more!

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Krissy Tingle.

Krissy is a psychotherapist who is passionate about providing a therapeutic environment that fosters freedom of expression and growth.Krissy primarily works with couples and is trained in Internal Family Systems & Intimacy from the Inside Out. She has completed all three levels of the IFS training, as well the specialist IFS trauma training. She works as a program assistant on IFS training in the UK as well as on IFIO trainings. Krissy also is exploring and training in shamanic and synergistic healing practice.

In the episode we chat about:

• Why we both left our corporate jobs to become therapists & what called us to the work
• The concept of pausing in a relationship & why it’s helpful
• The concept of repair in a relationship
• Do we always need to apologize in relationships?
• Trusting yourself in relationships

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about what to do when your relationship isn't working. She also talks about what to do if your relationship is stuck.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

What to do if/when you notice that...

• You're fighting with your partner all the time and you don’t like it
• your friend never calls you, shows up for important events for you, etc
• You want more of a commitment & your partner doesn’t
• Every time you try to have a conversation with your partner things end horribly and you feel awful

Caitlan expands on what to do in these scenarios including:

spending time on your own, not making any rash decisions, etc

She shares the importance of getting clarity first before you make any decisions and shares tips about how to get that clarity.

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about signs that you might be settling in your relationships. This episode kicks off the relationship series that will be running over the next couple of months. You deserve happy, thriving relationships!

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• The 11 signs that you are settling in your relationship (including- trying to change the other person, a lack of emotional intimacy, avoiding difficult conversations & much more)
• 8 things that you can do if you are settling in your relationship (Including redefining what you want & checking in on boundaries)
• The TV/movie characters who (according to the internet) definitely settled in their relationships

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about the fear of vulnerability. It can be really scary to be vulnerable in relationships and it is one of the keys to connection with others. If you are feeling blocked in relationships this episode is for you!

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• Why you might be afraid to be vulnerable
• What the signs are that you are afraid to be vulnerable
• The biggest thing that you need in a relationship in order to be vulnerable (No one is talking about this!)
• How to begin the process of being vulnerable

If you want deeper, more meaningful relationships, this episode is for you!!

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Caitlan goes deep with her co-host for this month Jackie Ravelo on setting boundaries during the holiday season. Do not sleep on this episode and be sure to share it with your best who doesn't actually want to go to Thanksgiving at Aunt Rhonda's this holiday season....

They chat about:

• What the internet gets wrong about boundaries
• Why it's not always helpful to say "no" and leave it....
• Pro-tips for setting boundaries especially with family
• How you can be gentle with your boundaries
• Which astrology signs aren't great at setting boundaries and which are in their non-expert opinion & so much more

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about the fear of disappointing other people. This continues the "fear of _____" series which started last month.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• how you might be making decisions big & small based on what other people will think (or what you think other people will think) and not what you ACTUALLY want to do. 

• why and likely how this began with some reflection questions
• why people probably don't even know that you are doing the [insert thing you don't want to do here] because you're afraid to disappoint them
• what the impact is to you
• what you can do to shift/change this
• what archetypes this represents & so much more…

Connect with Caitlan:

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Nicolette Tomaszewski a licensed therapist and mindset coach who helps high achieving women overcome self defeating patterns holding them back from achieving their goals.

In the episode we chat about:

• How to know if you are a high achieving woman and what to look out for if you are
• What the internet gets wrong about high achieving women
• Things every high achieving woman needs to know
• Our favorite high achieving women in pop culture history & much more!

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Brand New Episode Type just launched. In this new episode type featuring a celebrity co-host, Caitlan goes deep on a topic with her co-host for this month, Mao Beckett.

They chat about:

• Where self-doubt comes from
• What they've both done to help clients
• What articles like 4 steps to overcoming self-doubt get wrong
• What you can actually do to improve your confidence and how faking it til you make it might not be it
• The astrological signs most lacking confidence in their non expert opinion & so much more

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about the fear of confrontation. She also shares about fun new segments for the show as well as an entirely new podcast format with celebrity co-hosts happening once a month! The episode is fun, it's informative and it's going to leave you with wayyyy more information than when you started. Pinky promise.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• What the fear of confrontation actually is
• Why it might come up for you
• What to do about with an entire list of next steps

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Caitlan is giving you another solo episode (almost like a mini-course). This episode is all about how to stop taking responsibility for others so you can free up time & energy. Also so you can stop feeling so burnt out and misaligned.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• Why this actually isn't as "bad" as we think it is
• An interesting research study that shows that people who are overly responsible are actually better liked /more likely to get help
• The definition of it/where it goes too far and starts to have a negative impact
• How you can stop taking responsibility for others at work and in life -step by step!

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about how to say no and communicate your needs.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• Why it can be difficult to say no to people
• Some strategies on saying no
• 6 steps towards communicating your needs with compassion in conversation (Plus doing it in a way that will actually let you be heard!)

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Molly Zive, LCSW.

Molly is a licensed therapist and an entrepreneur. Molly’s work focuses on systems theory, brainspotting therapy, and ketamine assisted psychotherapy (KAP). She is passionate about the use of psychedelics to heal the individual, family system, and community at large.

In the episode we chat about:

• What an authentic life means
• What can help you live more authentically
• What you can do you if you feel like life is misaligned

Podcast Love:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about people pleasing and how to stop doing. Aka: How to end your people pleasing era.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• What is your people pleasing era? How do you know you're in it?
• What is people pleasing costing you
• How to move out of people pleasing with step by step suggestions

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Melissa Guttman is an IFS & Music Therapist and a Vocal Coach.

In the episode we chat about:

• Internal Family Systems Therapy- what it is and why we are both big fans
• What the definition is for a highly sensitive person
• How Melissa got into this type of work
• The gifts of HSPs & the shadow of HSPs
• Melissa's top recommendations if you are a highly sensitive person
• Human design-- does having a more undefined chart like an open emotional center play a role in being an HSP?
• How Melissa uses vocal coaching and music therapy to liberate their voice

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about our intuition. It's a magical, powerful thing but ummm what exactly is it? And why do we even care?

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• What your intuition is
• Why it's important
• What's the difference between intuition & anxiety
• How to listen to your intuition
• What tools you can use to connect more deeply with it

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is thrilled to be chatting with writer and entrepreneur Kate Berski.

Kate Berski is a British Entrepreneur turned Writer. After selling her haircare company, Curlsmith, in 2022 she’s currently writing her first book, working title ‘30-PHOBIA.’ As a recovered 30-Phobic herself, Kate is on a mission to help women in their late 20s overcome their fears about turning 30 and make their best life happen. Her book digs into the most common pre-30 anxieties – like not being married, having kids or a career you love by 30. It challenges outdated ‘milestone myths’ with surprising stats and inspiring success stories. And brings together the best life advice from recovered 30-Phobics and high profile experts.

In the episode we chat about:

• What the expectation gap is and why it's leading to more birthday anxiety
• Why this book at this work is important to Kate & her story
• Kate's take on "work-life" balance and why we might be getting it wrong
• Her top advice for you around this big milestone based on her research with world renowned experts

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Dani Weiss.

Dani is a somatic therapist & a relationship coach. She helps almost 30 women embody main character energy on their dating journey.

In the episode we chat about:

• Healthy vs "unhealthy" relationships and how it's more of a spectrum rather than a this or that classification
• What somatic therapy is
• How to bring confidence into your dating game
• How to get through a breakup & why there is no timeline

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about the Resistance to Change. Chhh Chhh Changes...

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• How the resistance to change is actually a protective brain function
• What you can do about it
• Why it's totally typical especially in therapy

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about loneliness. Since the pandemic, it's been around a lot more frequently and after a recent loss, Caitlan felt inspired to make an episode on this topic.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

-Why it's important to talk about loneliness

-Why is it so much more prevalent now & how to define loneliness

-What to do when you're feeling lonely

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Shelby Alkire, LCSW & Coach who helps you stop being bad at dating and start trusting your intuition

Shelby is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and a Coach

In the episode we chat about:

-biggest dating & relationship struggles

-why you aren't actually bad at dating

-how to trust your intuition in relationships

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about Imposter Syndrome.

According to a KPMG study, 75% of women surveyed have experienced imposter syndrome at one point in their career...

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• Why we should stop telling women they have imposter syndrome
• How it's not just a "YOU" problem
• Signs of Imposter Syndrome
• Practical and Grounded next steps you can take action on if you are struggling with it

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Mao Beckett.

Mao is a Somatic, Psycho, Spiritual Therapist & Coach

In the episode we chat about:

-What radical self-care is

-The commodification of self-care

-What self-care really is from our perspective (returning back to you)

-How you might be people pleasing the system & what to do about it

-How rest is resistance

-Ancestral healing, what it is and how you can get started on that journey

AND SO MUCH MORE! Get ready to laugh and come with us on this rapid fire journey of self-care

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about what are the red flags in friendship.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

-What red flags you should look out for in friendships

-How you can evaluate your friendships

-What to do about the red flags

Connect with Caitlan, your host and let her know what you are taking away from this episode!

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about her story.

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

• why she left the corporate world
• how listening to an academic advisor's advice changed everything
• what it took to RETURN to herself and her desires

Connect with Caitlan, your host and let her know what you are taking away from this episode!

Today Caitlan is SO excited to be chatting with Franky Lazo. Franky is a first generation Cuban American and native Miamian. She is a licensed therapist, transpersonal coach and healer. She guides first gen womxn in their 20s + 30s in developing healthy boundaries and helps them reconnect to their intuition.

In the episode we chat about:

• What breath work is

• What role breath work can play in therapy and in healing

• Caitlan's experience in a deep breath work session with Franky and what that shifted for her

• What is intuition

• How breath work can help us connect to our intuition

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is on the pod solo and talks about burnout. What is it? What is burnout at work? 

In this episode Caitlan goes deep on:

-Burnout, how do we define it

-Why you can't "outthink it"

-How it shows up & Caitlan's own personal story with burnout

-Strategies to support yourself with burnout 

Episode Mentions & Resources:

Today Caitlan is SO  excited to be chatting with Lauren Donelson Jones (@astro_therapy_) where we talk all about using astrology in therapy and much more. 

Lauren is an IFS therapist & an Astrologer.

In the episode we chat about:

-How Lauren uses Astrology in therapy with clients

-What a Saturn Return is 

-Who is ending their Saturn Return (Saturn in Aquarius) and who is beginning theirs (Saturn in Pisces) 

-What people can do around endings/beginnings

-What the collective needs to know about astrology right now 

Episode Mentions & Resources:

In this episode of the Return podcast we talk about what to do when you are friends with someone who is at a different life stage than you are. How do you navigate a friendship that is on a different timeline? We talk about why friendships change and shift and end up on different paths. We also talk about what you can do about it.

Why this happens - We are in school, doing the same thing as our friends and then in our early 20s we start to branch off and by the end of our 20s things look vastly different for us. People are walking farther and father down different paths. What is important is that we don’t make meaning about ourselves about the differences.

What you can do about it: 

• Stop letting it mean something
• Focus on quality over quantity
• Create rituals with friends who are different places
• Evaluate your friendships        

Connect with Caitlan, your host and let her know what you are taking away from this episode!

In this week's episode of the Return podcast we explore the questions:

1) What is work-life balance? And Caitlan's own spin on it in 2023. 

2) What is the meaning of work-life balance in 2023?

3) What are the things you need to consider for work-life balance?

We also talk about what you can do to support your own work-life balance and how you can avoid saying to yourself on your deathbed, "I wish I would've worked less."

Connect with Caitlan, your host and let her know what you are taking away from this episode!