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Pinoy Love Language

Pinoy Love Language

By Roanne de Guia-Samuels, LMFT

Roanne is a licensed Psychotherapist mom and an immigrant twice in America. She has frequented 500 Filipino homes and is the author of the book: 5 Pinoy Love Languages. Episodes include a deep dive into cultural nuances rarely talked about in Filipino American Psychology, trauma-informed conversations AND her fav Pinoy Love Languages, the unique ways Filipinos seek and express affection.
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EP #29: FILIPINO RELIGIOSITY IN AMERICA VS IN THE PHILIPPINES

Pinoy Love LanguageOct 13, 2022

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EP #43: CULTURE AS AN EXCUSE PART 2

EP #43: CULTURE AS AN EXCUSE PART 2

When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt.

This is part 2 of Culture as Excuse episode.

In this episode, let's explore

  • the purpose of culture
  • is it me or my culture?
  • who's behind the mask of culture
  • atbp...many more

To read the blog article:

https://kalamansijuice.com/culture-as-excuse-using-culture-as-a-fallback-for-unprocessed-trauma/


To see Roanne's offerings:

https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/


Masterclass on Pakikiramdam

https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass


salamat po sa pakikinig (thanks for listening)!

Feb 21, 202412:26
EP #42: CULTURE AS AN EXCUSE? Trauma or the Filipino Culture

EP #42: CULTURE AS AN EXCUSE? Trauma or the Filipino Culture

When culture is a better explanation than not giving an explanation or feeling what needs to be felt.


In this episode, let's explore

  • the purpose of culture
  • is it me or my culture?
  • who's behind the mask of culture
  • atbp...many more

To read the blog article:

https://kalamansijuice.com/culture-as-excuse-using-culture-as-a-fallback-for-unprocessed-trauma/


To see Roanne's offerings:

https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/


Masterclass on Pakikiramdam

https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass


salamat po sa pakikinig (thanks for listening)!

Jan 16, 202430:14
EP #41: KUSANG LOOB
Nov 09, 202315:15
EP #40: LAKAS NG LOOB: FILIPINO INDIGENOUS TRAIT
Oct 10, 202315:21
EP #39: MOM IS GETTING THERAPY: WHAT TO DO
Aug 14, 202312:57
EP #38: DIFFICULT FILIPINO RELATIONSHIPS: ON SETTING BOUNDARIES
Jul 17, 202322:42
EP #37: UNCOLONIZE TO DECOLONIZE
Jun 13, 202317:14
EP #36: THE UNCOLONIZABLE FILIPINO

EP #36: THE UNCOLONIZABLE FILIPINO

There is no doubt the years of colonization has deeply influenced the Filipino but has it completely colonized the Filipino psyche?


In this episode, let's explore:

  • the uncolonizable Filipino
  • his practice and ancestral leaning to pre-colonial knowing
  • how the uncolonizable Filipino manifests itself in everyday life
  • the myth that the Filipino today can be wholly understood by his colonized mind
  • atpb...

Links mentioned by Roanne:


PAKIRAMDAM MASTERCLASS

https://tinyurl.com/pakiramdammasterclass


INNER CHILD PLAYGROUND: 30 DAYS TO RESTORATION

https://tinyurl.com/innerchildheal


TO READ THE BLOG

https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/


TO SCHEDULE A COMPLIMENTARY CONSULT WITH ROANNE

https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne


Please leave your stellar review so that others can find our message!


Salamat sa pakikinig (thanks for listening),

Roanne



May 16, 202317:46
EP #35: ISLAND TALK IN AMERICA PART II
Apr 13, 202319:15
EP #34: SHADOW SIDE OF KAPWA
Mar 14, 202324:09
EP #33: THE ART OF RESPONDING
Mar 02, 202324:00
EP #32: WHY FILIPINOS ASK (PERSONAL) QUESTIONS?

EP #32: WHY FILIPINOS ASK (PERSONAL) QUESTIONS?

Why do Filipinos like to ask personal questions?  Why do they greet by posing a question which feels more like an interrogation?

In this episode, let's explore-

  • the cultural function of asking questions for a Filipino
  • difference between task oriented and relationship oriented questions
  • the downside of social support groups
  • how to be culturally ambidextrous rather than rigid

Links shared by Roanne

Kalamansi Juice Blog

https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/

5 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGE EBOOK

https://tinyurl.com/5PinoyLoveEbook

KALAMANSI JUICE ACADEMY

https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/

TO SCHEDULE A 1:1 CONSULT WITH ROANNE

https://tinyurl.com/consultwithRoanne


Sa uulitin,

Roanne



Jan 31, 202323:24
EPISODE#31: GUILT VS SHAME
Jan 05, 202331:59
EP #30: SHADOW SIDE OF UTANG NA LOOB & GRATITUDE

EP #30: SHADOW SIDE OF UTANG NA LOOB & GRATITUDE

Honoring our elders and those who came before us is a beautiful gesture. When does the concept of utang na loob and the expectation to be grateful create harm in ourselves and in our relationships?

In this episode, let's explore:

  • the difference and adaptive use of being grateful versus gratefulness from fear-based intention
  • how do you know if you have repressed your emotions in the name of utang na loob or being grateful
  • why people prefer to be just be grateful than to heal from their own woundings
  • what to do if you have repressed emotions in the name of utang na loob and being grateful
  • ...and many more.

Helpful Links-

30 Days to Inner Child Playground Course

https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/inner-child-playground-30-days-to-restoration

Read the Kalamansi Juice Blog

https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/

Other self-paced courses on Inner Child Healing & Filipino Culture Nuances

https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/

Kalamansi Juice TV youtube Channel

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCy-yhqsVB81QHHI18o011gA


Thank you po for listening. If you have any questions for this Filipina Therapist, feedback, suggestions for a topic, leave me a message at info@kalamansijuice.com.



Oct 25, 202224:33
EP #29: FILIPINO RELIGIOSITY IN AMERICA VS IN THE PHILIPPINES

EP #29: FILIPINO RELIGIOSITY IN AMERICA VS IN THE PHILIPPINES

Are Catholics/ Christians the same elsewhere?

In this episode, let's explore:

  • Filipino religiosity in the motherland vs in America
  • how immigration can transform the Filipino spirituality/religiosity
  • how folk Catholicism is a buffer to colonized form of religiosity
  • how do you see your God?
  • ....and many more


Check these out:

Kalamansi Juice Blog 

https://kalamansijuice.com/blog/

 Self-paced Courses/ E- Book in the Kalamansi Juice Academy

https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/

Love Mapping Course for Couples

https://kalamansijuiceacademy.podia.com/love-mapping-for-couples

Thank you po for listening and if you enjoy this podcast, please leave a review!


Ingat,

Roanne



Oct 13, 202224:53
EP #28: ON GRIEF & FRIENDSHIP: THE STORY OF ANT AND SNAIL
Sep 21, 202212:25
EP #27: COMMON REASONS FILIPINOS SEEK THERAPY
Aug 22, 202212:01
EP #26: THE ART OF SLOWING DOWN
Jul 14, 202219:18
EP #25: HOW CULTURE INFLUENCES YOUR DECISIONS
Jun 30, 202223:19
#24: THE CURSE OF THE GOOD CHILD
Jun 16, 202218:50
#23: WELL FED BUT EMOTIONALLY HUNGRY
May 26, 202216:02
#22: PASALUBONG: THE MOST ENDEARING PINOY LOVE LANGUAGE
Apr 28, 202211:42
#21: LIGOY: GOING AROUND THE BUSH

#21: LIGOY: GOING AROUND THE BUSH

EP 21  Why is it that when you asks a Filipino sometimes that they go around the bush rather than telling you straight up what’s on their mind? What is the Pinoy Love Language of Ligoy?

In this episode, let's explore-


If you want to deepen your cultural knowledge about yourself, learn more about the 7 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGES COURSE

Want to consult with Roanne? follow this link for a complimentary consult

Remember that you can ask a question to the PInay therapist by sending me a direct email of your questions and feedback @info@kalamansijuice.com 


Maraming salamat for listening,

Roanne

Apr 14, 202213:33
#20: COLLECTIVE COREGULATION VS CO-DEPENDENCY
Mar 31, 202221:26
# 19 ISUSUMBONG KITA SA TATAY KO!
Mar 03, 202210:57
#18 COREGULATION: SEEKING OTHERS FOR COMFORT
Feb 03, 202217:55
#17 SELF-REGULATION: FILIPINOS ON SELF-SOOTHING
Jan 21, 202221:51
#16 DISEASE CAUSALITY: NAMALIGNO (BEWITCHED)
Oct 01, 202126:19
#15 DISEASE CAUSALITY: SUMPA (CURSE)
Sep 24, 202118:28
#14 DISEASE CAUSALITY: LIHI
Sep 17, 202113:47
#13 DISEASE CAUSALITY: MANA
Sep 02, 202112:38
#12 WHY FILIPINOS DON'T ACCESS MENTAL HEALTH CARE
Aug 26, 202119:34
#11 PLL: SUYO
Aug 19, 202120:20
#10 PLL: TAMPO
Aug 12, 202113:38
#9 PINOY LOVE LANGUAGES: WHY WE SPEAK IN CODES
Aug 05, 202121:58
#8 WALA KANG UTANG NA LOOB!
Jul 27, 202127:13
#7 SCARCE COMMODITY: CULTURAL WHISPERERS
Jun 05, 202113:35
#6 PAKIRAMDAM: THE MOST MISUNDERSTOOD FILIPINO CORE VALUE

#6 PAKIRAMDAM: THE MOST MISUNDERSTOOD FILIPINO CORE VALUE

Filipinos are known to have “mataas na pakikisalamuha,” which means the depth of relationality with others goes skin deep. Children in the motherland are taught to heighten their cultural sensing of the other beyond words.

Pakiramdam, the sensing of the other beyond words through reading non-verbal cues, sensing and feeling create polarized understanding of each other in America/diaspora. In general, American culture emphasizes direct, linear communication while Filipino culture weighs heavy on the skill of pagtitimbang (weighing things out, gauging all variables before the interaction, during and after it).

In this episode, explore-

  • Why Pakiramdam is the most complex & misunderstood Filipino Core Value
  • Why it causes conflict in Filipino homes
  • Why do we use pakiramdam (an, verb) as a strategy to affection-seek?
  • How we communicate differently in the motherland vs. in American soil.
  • What is the Pinoy Love Language called Tampo?

In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Pakiramdam more in depth and the unique ways Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here.

HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.

LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW

Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love

Related Blog Post: 3 More Pinoy Love Languages

The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog

Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words

FOLLOW ME ON

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u

Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

May 29, 202119:51
#5 FILIPINO VERSUS AMERICAN WAY OF COMMUNICATION

#5 FILIPINO VERSUS AMERICAN WAY OF COMMUNICATION

Despite the fact that most Filipinos are bilingual, our ways of expression from the American language of expression differ in many ways. In this regard, Filipino immigrants and their children may experience cultural gaps and miscommunication in their relationships.

Some of these miscommunication can even result to negative imprints leading to feelings of not being good enough or unloved. To slowly change this trajectory is to inform yourself and find clarification on what is actually being said than simply interpreting what’s said.

In this episode, let’s explore:

  • Linear versus circular communication
  • How we teach children in a socio-cultural setting to use language
  • Low context vs high context and why Filipinos value “sensing the other”
  • How affection, standards and modes of expression can vary culturally

In the masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words, I talk about Collective Co-regulation, the unique way Filipinos survive and thrive. Check out the masterclass by clicking the link here.

HELP US REACH MORE PINOYS AND PINAYS with this podcast, leave me a review by scrolling at the bottom of the episode list and find WRITE A REVIEW.

DO YOU HAVE ANY SUGGESTIONS FOR FUTURE PODCAST TOPICS? LEAVE ME A MESSAGE AT info@kalamansijuuice.com with the subject line PODCAST IDEA.

LINKS MENTIONED IN THE SHOW

Free Webinar on Speak the Pinoy Language of Love

The blog post on 3 Differences: American vs Filipino Ways of COmmunication

The Blog www.kalamansijuice.com/blog

Masterclass: Pakiramdam( Attunement): Filipinos On Affection Beyond Words

FOLLOW ME ON

Instagram https://www.instagram.com/kalamansijuice4u/

Facebook https://www.facebook.com/kalamansijuice4u

Email: info@kalamansijuice.com

May 29, 202115:27
#4 FILIPINO MONEY MIND-SET BLOCKS
May 29, 202124:51
#3 INTERGENERATION TRAUMA OR STRESS
May 29, 202118:27
#2 CULTURE SWITCHING
May 29, 202112:14
#1 ISLAND TALK IN AMERICA: MISUNDERSTOOD WORDS IN DIASPORA
May 25, 202119:40
TRAILER: READY TO SPEAK THE PINOY LANGUAGE OF LOVE?

TRAILER: READY TO SPEAK THE PINOY LANGUAGE OF LOVE?

Language is words and beyond words. Imagine if you can speak clarity, empathy and even a breath of love in your everyday conversations. How much can the world (or those around you) benefit from your gifts? Welcome to the Speak the Pinoy Love Language podcast!

May 05, 202101:10