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Dateology Coach Podcast

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My co-host Sarah and I provide incisive - sometimes unflinching - dating advice that reminds you that sometimes the love of your life is the love of your life. We also cover trending pop culture and social media moments that touch on dating, relationships, and single life.
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Masking, Passing & Jack Black's Hotness Explained

Dateology Coach PodcastApr 05, 2024

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Are Men Using Therapy To Get Laid?

Are Men Using Therapy To Get Laid?

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She Was Ready (00:22)

If you follow me on social media, you probably know that our third Golden Girl, Luca, crossed the Rainbow Bridge on Monday. We talked about how going through this with Luca helped me confront my avoidant nature and fear of anticipatory grief.

Are More Men Going To Therapy? (12:21) Emily McCombs, a former xoJane columnist, recently shared her thoughts on the resurgence of dating apps. In her article, she side-eyes the increasing number of men embracing therapy, a trend that I find both fascinating and encouraging.

Would You Date Someone That Worked In A Pizza Parlor? (28:16) Influencer Hope xxx was roasted this week for remarks about not wanting to date someone who worked in a pizza parlor. We talk about whether or not this preference is classist and how men are never raked over the coals for their superficial preferences.


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May 03, 202454:53
Mr. Hyde, Single Stigmas & Offensive Texts⁠

Mr. Hyde, Single Stigmas & Offensive Texts⁠

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Jekyll and Hyde (01:00) Tiktok is full of performative white men who pander to women. We talk about one man in particular who expertly plays the Good Guy until a woman questions him. That's when Mr. Hyde appears.

"You Need A Dick" (05:40) Certain people need to learn that accusing someone of being single or celibate isn't an insult. We discuss this antiquated retort and remind people asexuality is a thing.

"Men Are Trash." (24:10) A woman found texts her husband wrote when they first met and was horrified to learn he told people she was ugly and desperate.

Single Is A State of Mind (33:45) A woman went viral for revealing she was in her forties and had never had a romantic relationship. Sarah and I discuss why women place more emphasis on romantic relationships over any other. We also address the dangers of making your singlehood your entire personality.

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Apr 26, 202421:05
Financial Abuse, Instagram Shadiness & Ugly Breakups

Financial Abuse, Instagram Shadiness & Ugly Breakups

You're not being overly sensitive. He's a dick. (01:15)

A woman questions if she's overreacting to her boyfriend's lack of appreciation for a celebration party she had organized for him. He further exacerbated the situation by posting on Instagram, not about her, but about a female friend.


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Men are stupid, and we don't respect them. (14:10) A man acknowledges he knowingly wasted two years of a woman's life and wants to break up with as little fallout as possible. All because he couldn't be alone. BOOOOOOOOOO to you, sir.


Aidan was a Petty Betty. (24:40) When we talk about Carrie's most toxic moments, many of us recall the episode where she barges into Charlotte's Park Avenue apartment, asking why Charlotte didn't offer her the money to buy her co-op. What we never talk about is the pettiness and financial abuse involved with Aidan's demand that Carrie buy him out of the apartment HE chose to purchase.


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Apr 19, 202439:38
Carrie Bradshaw's Most Toxic Moments

Carrie Bradshaw's Most Toxic Moments

Apr 12, 202433:31
Masking, Passing & Jack Black's Hotness Explained

Masking, Passing & Jack Black's Hotness Explained

Apr 05, 202440:13
Why Lying About Your Age On Dating Apps Should Be Illegal

Why Lying About Your Age On Dating Apps Should Be Illegal

Mar 29, 202448:29
Alpha Dom: Misunderstood or Creepy?

Alpha Dom: Misunderstood or Creepy?

Brace yourselves! Men's dating coach Alpha Dom made quite the splash this week on social media with his problematic advice. Sarah and I deconstructed his videos and determined he's sometimes right. HEAR US OUT BEFORE YOU JUDGE! Dom does have an idea of how women think and what they want. The problem is he often veers off course because his understanding of women is limited. We can't wait to hear your thoughts! ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Get exclusive bonus episodes & content by subscribing to our Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dateologycoach ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/thechristanm TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Mar 22, 202450:58
Oscars, Breakups & How To Scare The Wrong Men Off

Oscars, Breakups & How To Scare The Wrong Men Off

IN THIS EPISODE: A man lectures women on how they should dress at the gym and immediately regrets it. If you've spent time on social media this week, you've probably seen clips of Ryan Gosling singing "I'm Just Ken" at The Oscars. We discuss the performance, John Mullaney's infidelity, and why Cillian Murphy's win made me cry. A woman has a brilliant idea of wearing statement t-shirts on first dates to let men know we won't accept low-effort nonsense. Ariana Grande's new song, "We Can't Be Friends," aptly describes trying to move on from a breakup. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Get exclusive bonus episodes & content by subscribing to our Patreon. https://www.patreon.com/dateologycoach ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/thechristanm TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Mar 15, 202446:55
Mistress Mayhem & Normalizing Women's Anger

Mistress Mayhem & Normalizing Women's Anger

I was quoted in an article about the dangers of Are We Dating The Same Guy groups. The article interviews women who have been stalked or harassed after posting to the groups. LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE ON OUR PATREON: https://www.patreon.com/posts/99928272 A woman wants to know if she should tell her man's mistress he's not as rich as he'd led her to believe. The critical reason you need to ditch your frenemies. We hop in the time machine and discuss the Dave Coulier/Alannis Morissette relationship, how he found out he inspired the album, and how You Oughta Know impacted women. We're making an Angry Lady Playlist. Leave your suggestions in the comments of our Patreon. Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/thechristanm TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Mar 08, 202406:37
Is Her Husband The Troll Harassing Her Online?

Is Her Husband The Troll Harassing Her Online?

An author thinks her writer husband is trolling her online and leaving negative reviews on her latest book. After some Googling, Sarah and I suspect that the woman who wrote the letter about her husband harassing her online and the columnist providing advice are the same person. SUBSCRIBE TO OUR PATREON FOR EXCLUSIVE BONUS EPISODES https://www.patreon.com/dateologycoach Also in the episode: Green flags you should never ignore when you first start dating someone that are actual green flags and not just a guy doing the bare minimum. Why are we drawn to the same type of person, and when does it become problematic? Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/thechristanm TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Mar 01, 202454:39
Law & Order FTG: This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things

Law & Order FTG: This Is Why We Can't Have Nice Things

It was only a matter of time. Are We Dating The Same Girl groups are cropping up across Facebook. Women make these groups to ensure they're not dating a cheater or abuser. Men create them to whine about women who call them on their creepy behavior.

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A listener tells a story about being posted in an AWDTSGirl group that proves men lack boundaries and feel entitled to women's bodies.
A Tiktok creator teaches women how to identify and avoid Red Pill men.
How to properly delete your dating apps when you decide to be exclusive.
A woman snoops around her new boyfriend's bathroom and immediately regrets it.
Feb 23, 202401:04:22
Men Did Not Bring Their A Game This Week

Men Did Not Bring Their A Game This Week

A man claimed men know when they've met a great woman, and they don't let her get away. LOL. K. We revisit the topic of publicly dissing your ex and how, if you make it your brand, it could interfere with your relationships. A beautiful woman catches her VERY mid-looking boyfriend cheating and he proceeds to gaslight her until she calls his mistress. A man is creeped out by his girlfriend's constant nudity around her dog. A listener wants to know if she handled a male co-worker's awkward behavior. Follow me on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/dateologypod TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Feb 12, 202442:15
First Date Green Flags & Dating App Depression

First Date Green Flags & Dating App Depression

We reviewed a list of First Date Green Flags and debates, which are good signs and which praise people for doing the bare minimum.

Are dating apps over? That's what some experts are saying.

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Feb 02, 202433:28
American Nightmare, Oscar Snubs & Being A Surrogate For Your Ex

American Nightmare, Oscar Snubs & Being A Surrogate For Your Ex

Prepare to get ragey! A man wants his ex to be his new girlfriend's surrogate because he doesn't want her to ruin her hot body.

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We talk about Greta Gerwig's Oscar snub.

A woman wants advice about whether she should be a surrogate for her ex and his new girlfriend.

An article in Buzzfeed sparks an insightful discussion about internalized misogyny.

I talk briefly about my experience with police while trying to file for a restraining order.

Sarah gives a very quick recap of the new Netflix series American Nightmare, which is about a woman who was kidnapped and returned home only to be accused of orchestrating her own disappearance.

We discuss the scrutiny and judgement women experience by seeking out casual sex.
Jan 26, 202450:13
Whiny Single Man Sues Women For Telling The Truth

Whiny Single Man Sues Women For Telling The Truth

Listen in as we talk about the pending lawsuit against Are We Dating The Same Guy Founders and why this whiny prick might actually win.

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A TikTok creator provides four key questions to ask your dates to determine if your political views align.

Buzzfeed compiled stories from people that proving that dating in 2024 is a cesspool of low effort/high crazy people.

Dating Has Become A Literal Cesspool, And These 32 Awful People Prove It
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Jan 19, 202407:17
Tips To Avoid Being Stood Up On A First Date

Tips To Avoid Being Stood Up On A First Date

A Tiktok creator is convinced a restaurant hired someone to pose as a single guy on a dating app to get her to show up at their venue and order food. Girl, what? Plus, we offer tips to help women avoid being stood up. LISTEN TO THE Fhttps://dateologycoach.substack.com/p/devious-ways-men-scam-single-womenULL EPISODE: ALSO IN THE EPISODE: A woman wonders if she’s being too sensitive or if the man she’s dating is as awful as he sounds. We start our review of the can’t-look-away trainwreck that is Netflix’s Escape From Twin Flames documentary. The series focuses on two scammy “love gurus” and their cultish “university” that exploits vulnerable single women. PAY CLOSE ATTENTION. This documentary gives women exceptional insight into how narcissistic men target vulnerable women. Follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/dateologypod TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Dec 01, 202319:30
Law & Order: FTG - Abusive Narcissist Edition

Law & Order: FTG - Abusive Narcissist Edition

Enjoy a teaser for this Wednesday's episode. I wasn’t sure if I wanted to talk about this publicly. This guy was the catalyst for my decision to cut back on discussing my personal life publicly. It’s also one of the areas I focused on narcissistic abuse when I sought my trauma recovery certification. This was a dark rabbit to go down, Nuggets. SUBSCRIBE & LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE HERE: Become a Substack subscriber for $5 a month and get two Nugget episodes on Mondays and Wednesdays and one full-length episode on Fridays. https://dateologycoach.substack.com/p/law-and-order-ftg-abusive-narcissist Follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/dateologypod TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Nov 29, 202307:36
If They're Partners Why Is She Paying For Everything & Doing All The Work

If They're Partners Why Is She Paying For Everything & Doing All The Work

It's all fun and games until a guy jizzes in your eyes. In this episode, we read a Reddit post written by a woman who thinks she made a big mistake moving in with her lazy-ass boyfriend. We also discuss an outbreak of ocular syphilis that traces back to one man all the women met online. SUBSCRIBE & LISTEN TO MORE FULL EPISODES: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/ FOLLOW US: Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/thechristanm TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Nov 27, 202330:42
F*ck That Guy: Guy Best Friend Who Uses You For Free Therapy & Sex Edition

F*ck That Guy: Guy Best Friend Who Uses You For Free Therapy & Sex Edition

Sarah and Christan discuss an unemployed man who took to the internet to whine that his girlfriend won't pay his rent. In Nugget #2, we offer advice to a woman who's fallen in love with her guy best friend, who's been using her until he found a girlfriend. ************ ************ Send your dating questions to hello@dateologycoach.com and follow us on Instagram, TikTok, and YouTube for more free content. You can find links in the episode description. Become a Substack subscriber for $5 a month and get two Nugget episodes on Mondays and Wednesdays and one full-length episode on Fridays. Listen to full episodes at https://dateologycoach.substack.com Instagram https://instagram.com/dateologypod & https://instagram.com/dateologypod TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@dateologycoach Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCL5iTMQHvcH8YwDw6JLk2ew
Nov 20, 202318:08
Does This One Thing Determine If You'll Be Ghosted After Sex?

Does This One Thing Determine If You'll Be Ghosted After Sex?

Is "open to non-monogamy" code for something else? Plus, does your sociosexuality determine if you'll be ghosted after sex? Enjoy a teaser of this week's full-length episode.

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Nov 17, 202330:41
Non-Binary, Non-Traditional & Looking For Love

Non-Binary, Non-Traditional & Looking For Love

The nuclear family isn't what it used to be. Dating needs to catch up with the times.

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Nov 15, 202311:05
F*ck That Guy: Sketchy Separated Guy Edition

F*ck That Guy: Sketchy Separated Guy Edition

Gather round and hear us explain why women who date men should avoid separated men at all costs.

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Nov 11, 202310:10
There's Nothing Wrong With Choosing To Be Single

There's Nothing Wrong With Choosing To Be Single

A therapist recently stitched this Tiktok of mine and gave her thoughts on single-by-choice women. She believes that women who forego dating are likely avoidants struggling with unhealed wounds. I believe that’s bullshit.


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Nov 08, 202307:17
Is He An Avoidant or Just Wasting Your Time?

Is He An Avoidant or Just Wasting Your Time?

A woman’s avoidant boyfriend has been running hot and cold. How much longer should she stay on this rollercoaster?


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Nov 01, 202317:16
Law & Order: FTG (F*ck That Guy) Unit

Law & Order: FTG (F*ck That Guy) Unit

Enjoy a teaser from our first Law & Order: FTG (F*ck That Guy) Unit episode. It’s time to break out your deerskin hats and magnifying glasses and help me decipher a mysterious email I received this week from the son of an ex looking for proof of his father's affair. Who *really* wrote this email? I know it wasn't a 17-year-old. LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE HERE: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/p/law-and-order-ftg-fck-that-guy-unit#details
Oct 23, 202303:29
Open Phone Policies, Spicy Peppers & Dating Profile Red Flags

Open Phone Policies, Spicy Peppers & Dating Profile Red Flags

We discuss our thoughts on having an open phone policy with your partner and why you shouldn’t advertise that policy in a dating profile. Telling a stranger you have an open phone policy is one of the fastest ways to attract someone who is controlling and insecure. Agree or disagree?

Here’s what else is in store for today’s episode:

Why you should never discuss anything related to money or financial stability in your dating profile.

The pros and cons of selecting the spicy pepper icon for sex positivity in your Bumble profile and what it means when men check it off.

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Oct 23, 202342:16
What To Do When You Catch Them Lying

What To Do When You Catch Them Lying

Let’s discuss the “Where’d She Go?” approach to dating all women should start implementing ASAP.

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It’s fall. You know what that means. Cuffing season is just around the corner. If you’re ready to hit the ground running and make a real attempt at finding love online, you're going to need the proper tools. It’s possible to use dating apps and avoid the burnout and frustration that often comes with it.
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Oct 18, 202318:18
Why Do Women Keep Ghosting Him?

Why Do Women Keep Ghosting Him?

Let’s talk about setting expectations and how to write messages that won't get you unmatched.

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It’s fall. You know what that means. Cuffing season is just around the corner. If you’re ready to hit the ground running and make a real attempt at finding love online, you're going to need the proper tools. It’s possible to use dating apps and avoid the burnout and frustration that often comes with it.
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Oct 11, 202315:39
How Do You De-Center Men When You Crave Romantic Connection?

How Do You De-Center Men When You Crave Romantic Connection?

The majority of the episode is based on an article and Tiktok about women’s frustration with situationships and the internal conflict we experience when we want to de-center men but also crave a romantic relationship.

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It’s fall. You know what that means. Cuffing season is just around the corner. If you’re ready to hit the ground running and make a real attempt at finding love online, you're going to need the proper tools. It’s possible to use dating apps and avoid the burnout and frustration that often comes with it.
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Oct 06, 202314:27
4 Steps To Break Toxic Dating Patterns

4 Steps To Break Toxic Dating Patterns

The advice to choose better men is reductive and insulting. It goes much deeper than that.

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Book A Dating Profile Review - Use code PODCAST30 to save $30
It’s fall. You know what that means. Cuffing season is just around the corner. If you’re ready to hit the ground running and make a real attempt at finding love online, you're going to need the proper tools. It’s possible to use dating apps and avoid the burnout and frustration that often comes with it.
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Oct 02, 202318:22
Zombies, Ghosts & Other Dating Horror Stories

Zombies, Ghosts & Other Dating Horror Stories

A woman wants to know if she should give a man who abruptly dumped her a second chance. NOPE! No, she should not. Thank you for coming to our Ted Talk.

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Tik Tok’s Aba n Preach Editor (abanpreacheditor) show women the appropriate response when someone who ghosted them returns from the dead.

We discuss one sure-fire way to end up dating a low-effort man.

The economics of thinness and how they affect hiring.

How does a man explain his lack of sexual experience to the woman he just started dating?

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Book A Dating Profile Review - Use code PODCAST30 to save $30
It’s fall. You know what that means. Cuffing season is just around the corner. If you’re ready to hit the ground running and make a real attempt at finding love online, you're going to need the proper tools. It’s possible to use dating apps and avoid the burnout and frustration that often comes with it.
www.dateologycoach.com/bookasession
Sep 29, 202312:19
Having Standards Does Not Make You Needy

Having Standards Does Not Make You Needy

This episode is about ensuring you know having certain expectations does not make you needy or demanding. Because f*ck that guy.

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Sep 25, 202322:60
F*ck That Guy : Men Are Trash Edition

F*ck That Guy : Men Are Trash Edition

A man cancels a date at the last minute, claiming he’s sick. His date gets understandably upset. Even though he showed poor manners, she’s attacked because OF COURSE.

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Sep 20, 202312:33
Don't Fall For This Dating Profile Mixed Message

Don't Fall For This Dating Profile Mixed Message

In this episode, we’re critiquing (and praising!) men’s dating profiles and sharing ways men demonstrate their emotional intelligence. GET MORE DATING ADVICE To listen to the full episode you can become a paid subscriber for $4 monthly. You’ll get two weekly Nugget episodes on Mondays and Wednesdays and Friday’s full-length advice podcast. Subscribe here: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/currentmember DO YOU WANT A PRAISE WORTHY DATING PROFILE? Do you want a praise-worthy profile that grabs people’s attention? Click the button below and book a session with me. Let’s write a story that pulls potential matches in and shows them you’re ready for your first last date. Profile assistance is available to men, women & non-binary singles. Use code PODCAST30 to save $30 https://www.dateologycoach.com/bookasession
Sep 18, 202341:09
The Halo Effect & How Women Interact Online

The Halo Effect & How Women Interact Online

I’ll warn everyone ahead of time that this is not a dating-related episode. Sarah and I will be recording again this weekend and have a Nugget posted on Monday.

In this episode, we talk about the fatphobic and misogynistic rant Samantha Aquilina (samanthatherese6), Sydney Alexis Norton (bratnorton), and Alyssa McGrath (LunaNoir) went on about me this week (with clips), how online hate towards women is minimalized, and how The Halo Effect often comes into play in these kinds of dynamics.

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Sep 15, 202345:36
Why Modern Dating Is A Mess & How To Fix It

Why Modern Dating Is A Mess & How To Fix It

Dear Men: The call is coming from inside the house. Stop telling women they're shallow golddiggers. You wrote the playbook. We're just playing by your rules.

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Sep 13, 202327:57
New Icks In Men's Dating Profiles & Sabotaging Ex-Girlfriends

New Icks In Men's Dating Profiles & Sabotaging Ex-Girlfriends

A woman writes in and wants to know how to get her new boyfriend to see his Ex trying to sabotage their relationship. Plus, we review men's Bumble dating profiles and unlock new Icks. SUBSCRIBE HERE AND LISTEN TO FULL EPISODES FOR ONLY $4 A MONTH https://dateologycoach.substack.com/currentmember LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE HERE: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/p/what-should-she-do-about-his-co-dependent#details SUBMIT A DATING QUESTION https://www.dateologycoach.com/submit-a-question GET A DATING PROFILE REVIEW & POLISH https://www.dateologycoach.com/profilereview
Sep 08, 202339:55
How To Stop Dating Toxic People

How To Stop Dating Toxic People

If all your brain knows is toxic behavior, all you'll meet is toxic people. Listen to this episode to hear how to fix that.

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Aug 30, 202308:44
The First Date Red Flag You Should Never Ignore

The First Date Red Flag You Should Never Ignore

Enjoy a teaser of today’s 60-minute interview with The Burned Haystack Method’s Jennie Young. You don’t want to miss it. We discussed coded language in men’s dating profiles, messaging clues to tell if someone will waste your time, subtle signs of deception, and much more!

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Aug 21, 202323:03
How Scaring Men Off Will Help You Find Your Person

How Scaring Men Off Will Help You Find Your Person

I’m so excited for this episode I can barely contain myself. Ever heard of The Burned Haystack Dating Method? It's where you try to turn off as many men as possible to "burn the haystack" so you can find your needle. The method was developed by Jennie Young, Ph. D. in rhetoric and Prof. @ UW Green Bay. READ THE ARTICLE: https://jennieyoung.medium.com/frustrated-with-the-apps-try-the-burned-haystack-dating-method-5663eee6254a SUBSCRIBE HERE AND LISTEN TO FULL EPISODES FOR ONLY $4 A MONTH https://dateologycoach.substack.com/currentmember SUBMIT A DATING QUESTION https://www.dateologycoach.com/submit-a-question GET A DATING PROFILE REVIEW & POLISH https://www.dateologycoach.com/profilereview
Aug 17, 202323:17
The Secret Many Single Women Will Never Say Out Loud

The Secret Many Single Women Will Never Say Out Loud

As single women, we’re often encouraged to prioritize the time and feelings of women in relationships with men over our own. We don’t discuss the grief involved with the prospect of losing a friend to a relationship. Nor do we acknowledge the very normal jealousy and sense of inadequacy that can crop up when a friend makes their relationship their entire personality. SUBSCRIBE HERE AND LISTEN TO FULL EPISODES FOR ONLY $4 A MONTH https://dateologycoach.substack.com/currentmember SUBMIT A DATING QUESTION https://www.dateologycoach.com/submit-a-question GET A DATING PROFILE REVIEW & POLISH https://www.dateologycoach.com/profilereview
Aug 11, 202316:36
Setting Boundaries, Stripper Dating Problems & Being The Single Friend

Setting Boundaries, Stripper Dating Problems & Being The Single Friend

We're talking healthy boundaries, stripper dating problems, and the chilling revelation Carrie makes about Big in this week's episode of And Just Like That.

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A woman learned the man she’s dating updated his Bumble profile. What’s her next move?

A woman’s boyfriend told her he wanted her to stop stripping if she wanted to get engaged. She wants to know if asking him to compensate her for the financial loss is realistic if she quits.

We discuss the dos and don’ts of stating boundaries with your dates.

And Just Like That Episode 8 recap. We have whiplash. Seema gets real about what it’s like when you watch from the sidelines as your friends find love. Carrie is delusional. Che is tolerable. Charlotte is shallow. Judgey Miranda is back.
Aug 04, 202312:24
Being Chronically Single Doesn't Mean You're Broken

Being Chronically Single Doesn't Mean You're Broken

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Let's talk about the idea that being chronically single is bad and results from being “too broken.”

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A woman’s crush on her therapist inspires a conversation about the connection between trauma and limerance.

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Jul 30, 202326:25
Is He Manipulative Or Just Weird?

Is He Manipulative Or Just Weird?

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We discuss a listener-submitted letter about a dehumanizing experience with a man on a dating app.

How some men disguise their sexual dysfunction by not showing interest in physical intimacy and by “being respectful.”

We review an article stating that the lack of quality potential partners is compelling many women to freeze their eggs.

We recap And Just Like That Ep 7 and our favorite masochists, Carrie and Aidan’s reunion.

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Jul 28, 202310:05
Welcome To Whiny Men On The Internet Week

Welcome To Whiny Men On The Internet Week

Listen to three examples of men lecturing women about having standards and preferences.

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Jul 21, 202321:42
And Just Like That Episode 5 Analysis - Exposing Che Diaz

And Just Like That Episode 5 Analysis - Exposing Che Diaz

Enjoy our re-cap of And Just Like That Episode 5. In this week's installment, we learn Carrie is still socially inappropriate and makes us cringe. Also, the writers finally expose Che Diaz. LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/p/men-using-manipulative-therapy-speak#details SUBSCRIBE TO LISTEN TO FULL EPISODES & SAVE 20%: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/currentmember JOIN OUR PRIVATE ONLINE COMMUNITY; https://dateologycoachnetwork.mn.co/
Jul 15, 202301:00:34
F*ck That Guy: FWB Episode

F*ck That Guy: FWB Episode

He told her he thinks they should be FWB before dating. Bless his heart. He thinks the decision is up to him. LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE HERE - https://dateologycoach.substack.com/p/myth-buster-women-not-men-are-the#details SUBSCRIBE TO LISTEN TO FULL EPISODES & SAVE 20%: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/currentmember JOIN OUR PRIVATE ONLINE COMMUNITY; https://dateologycoachnetwork.mn.co/
Jul 12, 202313:52
Is This A Real Life Carrie, Big, Aidan Toxic Love Triangle?

Is This A Real Life Carrie, Big, Aidan Toxic Love Triangle?

Listen to a story about a real-life Carrie, Big, Aidan toxic love triangle

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Jul 10, 202306:57
Sketchy Married Men & Men Are Hunters Myth Busted

Sketchy Married Men & Men Are Hunters Myth Busted

Boy are those feminine energy coaches going to be PISSED.
We discuss an NPR article that shatters the myth that men are hunters who like the chase.

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A woman fears a man will reject her if her appearance changes.

Is your partner obligated to stay in shape and maintain their appearance throughout the relationship?

Are all men that don’t wear wedding rings sketchy?

We blow the doors off the “men are hunters” myth

Analysis of And Just Like That Episode 4. Spoiler alert: Che still sucks.
Jul 07, 202311:26
Is Being Single By Choice The Same As Giving Up?

Is Being Single By Choice The Same As Giving Up?

LISTEN TO FULL EPISODES - SAVE 20% To listen to full-length podcast episodes, become a paying subscriber. For $5 a month, you’ll get the weekly full-length podcast & additional weekly Nuggets of Wisdom mini-podcasts. https://dateologycoach.substack.com/currentmember LISTEN TO THE FULL EPISODE HERE: https://dateologycoach.substack.com/p/is-being-single-by-choice-the-same#details In This Episode: Why a malignant narcissist is so dangerous. If you don’t prioritize dating or stop altogether, does that mean you’ve given up? Why are so many people bothered by plus-sized women’s confidence? Should you date when you’re in debt? A woman wonders is she should remove her impressive careers from her profile to avoid matching with creeps. Should a woman pursue a relationship with a man at work? We recap Ep 3 of And Just Like That.
Jun 30, 202310:47