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Life Lived Better

By Joseph Massey and Paula Garland

Your weekly journey of self-discovery, well-being, and personal growth. Join two close friends, both seasoned counselors and wellness enthusiasts, discuss facets of living a more fulfilling and balanced life. With engaging conversations, heartwarming anecdotes, and expert insights, Joseph and Paula help you make every day a step towards a Life Lived Better. In a world where well-being and self-improvement are more important than ever, this is a space for you to explore, learn, and grow. The unique blend of professional expertise and genuine friendship feels like a chat with close friends.
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Episode 21: Burnout

Life Lived BetterJun 09, 2022

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Episode 99: Sleep Hygiene

Episode 99: Sleep Hygiene

Join us in this episode as we dive into the world of sleep hygiene, uncovering the secrets to a restful night's sleep. Sleep hygiene isn't just about having a comfy pillow; it's about creating the ideal environment and habits to promote quality sleep.

In this episode, we'll explore the science behind sleep hygiene, discussing how factors like light exposure, screen time, and caffeine consumption can impact your ability to drift off into dreamland. We'll also share practical tips and strategies for improving your sleep hygiene, from establishing a consistent bedtime routine to optimizing your bedroom for optimal rest.

Featuring expert insights from sleep specialists and psychologists, we'll debunk common myths about sleep and offer evidence-based advice to help you achieve better sleep quality. Whether you're struggling with insomnia or simply want to enhance your sleep habits, this episode has something for everyone.

Tune in to learn how to transform your nights from restless to rejuvenating and wake up feeling refreshed and ready to tackle the day.

Sweet dreams await!

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net  ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Resources used to write this episode

Adults - Sleep and Sleep Disorders | CDC

Sleep Hygiene: Definition, Types, Techniques, Efficacy (verywellhealth.com)

The Connection Between Mental Health and Sleep Disorders (verywellhealth.com)

What is sleep hygiene? Tips and changes you can make to get better quality sleep. (msn.com)


Apr 18, 202429:22
Episode 98: Burnout - Insights and Strategies for Well-being

Episode 98: Burnout - Insights and Strategies for Well-being

In this episode, Joseph and Paula delve into the complex and often overlooked topic of burnout. Drawing from their own experiences and expertise, they provide invaluable insights, practical tips, and strategies for combating burnout and fostering well-being.

Join us on this journey through the various dimensions of burnout, exploring its causes, symptoms, and consequences. Through candid discussion Joseph and Paula shed light on the importance of recognizing burnout, destigmatizing discussions around mental health, and seeking support when needed.

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net  ⁠⁠⁠⁠ You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠⁠.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Resources used to create this episode include: 

Burnout: 5 Signs and What to Do About It (clevelandclinic.org)

Even Under the Best Circumstances, Burnout Is Widespread | Psychology Today

Online Burnout Test - Mind Help (Self-Assessment)

Apr 11, 202438:59
Episode 97: Etiquette
Apr 04, 202435:29
Episode 96: Internal Dialogue

Episode 96: Internal Dialogue

In this thought-provoking episode, Joseph and Paula delve into the intricate world of internal dialogue, the silent conversations that shape our thoughts, emotions, and actions. Join us as we embark on a journey to unravel the complexities of our inner voices and their profound impact on our lives.

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net  ⁠⁠⁠ You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠⁠.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Resources used for this episode: Rewriting Your Internal Dialogue at Work | Psychology Today

Mar 28, 202430:07
Encore - Dependent Personalities Episode 68

Encore - Dependent Personalities Episode 68

While Joseph and Paula are traveling, they did not want you to miss valuable information. This episode is an encore of a popular discussion about dependent personalities, which followed the episode about Love Addiction. Enjoy!

In the last episode Joseph and Paula talked about Love and Love Addiction. In this episode, they address sex addiction, erotomania, and dependent personality disorder.  They explore the signs, symptoms, and treatment of each.  

If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at ⁠⁠info@saa-recovery.org⁠⁠    

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠     

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠.     

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.    

Resourced Information  

⁠⁠Dependent Personality Disorder | Psychology Today⁠⁠  

⁠⁠Erotomania, What Is It? Causes, Symptoms, Diagnosis, Treatment (webmd.com)⁠⁠  

⁠⁠Sex Addiction: 8 Signs to Look For (webmd.com)⁠⁠  

Mar 21, 202433:14
Encore - Love and Love Addiction Episode 67

Encore - Love and Love Addiction Episode 67

Joseph and Paula are currently traveling. They cannot wait to be back with you soon. In the meantime, we are sharing one of the more popular discussions about Love and Love Addiction. We hope you enjoy.

Is it love or addiction? Joseph and Paula address the benefits of love and also look at love addiction. What are the signs, symptoms, and treatment? Listen to find out.   

If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at ⁠⁠info@saa-recovery.org⁠⁠ 

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠.    

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   

Resourced Information 

⁠⁠7 benefits of being in love | Life (news24.com)⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠Love Addiction: Definition, Symptoms, Causes, Treatment (verywellmind.com)⁠⁠ 

⁠⁠What Is Love Addiction? - Addiction Treatment (apn.com)⁠⁠ 

Mar 14, 202437:56
Episode 95: Decluttering

Episode 95: Decluttering

Got clutter? Joseph and Paula discuss how clutter and disorganization negatively impacts mental and physical health. They share the benefits of being organized and provide tips on how to get and stay organized.

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠ or email them directly at ⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net  ⁠⁠ You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠⁠.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Resources used for this episode:

Anxiety and Depression Association of America. Physical activity reduces stress.

How to Declutter Your Home: 6 Best Room-by-Room Methods (thespruce.com)

Indiana University. Tidier homes, fitter bodies.

Lang M, Krátký J, Shaver JH, Jerotijević D, Xygalatas D. Effects of anxiety on spontaneous ritualized behavior. Curr Biol. 2015 Jul 20;25(14):1892-7. doi:10.1016/j.cub.2015.05.049. PMID: 26096971.

McMains S, Kastner S. Interactions of top-down and bottom-up mechanisms in human visual cortex. J Neurosci. 2011 Jan 12;31(2):587-97. doi:10.1523/JNEUROSCI.3766-10.2011. PMID: 21228167.

Saxbe DE, Repetti R. No place like home: home tours correlate with daily patterns of mood and cortisol. Pers Soc Psychol Bull. 2010 Jan;36(1):71-81. doi:10.1177/0146167209352864. PMID: 19934011.

Mar 07, 202447:05
Episode 94: Questions for Counselors

Episode 94: Questions for Counselors

This episode is a listener and co-host favorite - Questions for Counselors!

Some of the questions Joseph and Paula address include: What is the difference between being selfish and selfless? How can I stay healthy when I have no time for myself? I think I have too much empathy. How can I be a helping professional? And several more!

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠ or email them directly at ⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net  ⁠ You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Feb 29, 202425:41
Episode 93: Barriers to Communication

Episode 93: Barriers to Communication

In Episode 93 Joseph and Paula shared some basic communication skills. They follow up in this episode by discussing barriers.

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at ⁠⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net  ⁠⁠ You can find information about this and other episodes on the website:⁠⁠ www.lifelivedbetter.net ⁠⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include: 

4 Types of Communication and How To Improve Them From Indeed.com

Effective Communication From HelpGuide.org

Microcounseling Skills by Paula Heller Garland (Kendallhunt.com)

Feb 22, 202423:39
Episode 92: Communication Skills

Episode 92: Communication Skills

A topic that runs through all of our episodes is communication. There is no doubt that if we were healthier and more effective with our communication, we would have healthier and more content relationships. In this episode, we provide a broad overview of effective communication skills - verbal and non-verbal.

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at ⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net  ⁠

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website:⁠ www.lifelivedbetter.net ⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources used in the development of this episode include: 

4 Types of Communication and How To Improve Them From Indeed.com

Effective Communication From HelpGuide.org

Microcounseling Skills by Paula Heller Garland (Kendallhunt.com)


Feb 15, 202428:47
Episode 91: Abandonment

Episode 91: Abandonment

Feb 08, 202430:17
Episode 90: Questions for Counselors

Episode 90: Questions for Counselors

Questions for Counselors returns, and this week Joseph and Paula answer some tough questions! No kidding. How do you cope with individuals who use abusive language toward me? Does one have to believe in counseling for it to be beneficial? What can someone do to stay safe if staying in an emotionally unsafe environment? And there are even more!

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net   You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Feb 01, 202428:23
Episode 89: Parenting Styles
Jan 25, 202434:18
Episode 88: Toxic Families - Part 2

Episode 88: Toxic Families - Part 2

In this two-part series we discuss how to know if you grew up in a toxic family, how it impacts life today, what a healthy family looks like, and how to make necessary changes today.
We look forward to a wonderful year learning and growing with all of you.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at
www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
Jan 18, 202423:59
Episode 87: Toxic Families, Part 1
Jan 11, 202421:25
Episode 84: Questions for Counselors

Episode 84: Questions for Counselors

It has been a while...so this week Paula and Joseph are excited to bring you a listener favorite - Questions for Counselors! Enjoy! Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net   You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.   Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Jan 10, 202437:11
Episode 85: Gaslighting

Episode 85: Gaslighting

Do you ever feel like something's off, but you can't quite put your finger on it?

Join Joseph and Paula as they dive deep into the world of gaslighting, a subtle yet devastating form of emotional manipulation that can leave you questioning your own reality. 

In this episode they unravel the origins of the term “gaslighting” and explore its insidious presence in relationships from families to the workplace. 

Your co-hosts will talk through the signs, phrases, and harms of gaslighting and discuss strategies to make changes if you are being gaslit. 

Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.     

Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.   We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.   

Follow us on social media. Visit our website at www.lifelivedbetter.net 

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Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

References researched to create this episode:

Gaslighting | Psychology Today

Klein, W., Li, S., & Wood, S. (2023). A qualitative analysis of gaslighting in romantic relationships. Personal Relationships, 1– 25. https://doi.org/10.1111/pere.12510

What is gaslighting? Examples and how to respond (medicalnewstoday.com)

Stephanie A. Sarkis Ph.D.  Gaslighting: Recognize Manipulative and Emotionally Abusive People — and Break Free 

Jan 10, 202434:54
Episode 86: Problem Solving
Jan 10, 202427:06
Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving!

Happy Thanksgiving from Life Lived Better.

Transcription: Hello there. This is Paula in the Life Lived Better studios. Today is Thanksgiving in the United States so we will not be releasing our typical weekly episode. Joseph and I want to take a moment to wish you the best and let you know that on this Thanksgiving and every other day we are so grateful for you. Without you there would be no podcast. We hope you have a wonderful Thanksgiving, and we cannot wait to be back with you next week.


Nov 23, 202300:39
Episode 83 - Narcissism

Episode 83 - Narcissism

On this week’s episode of Life Lived Better, Joseph and Paula will dive into the complex world of narcissism. They will discuss the common traits and explore the definition and types of narcissism. 

The pair will discuss common symptoms, characteristics, and even provide valuable insights into the cause of this frequently referenced disorder. This episode will delve into the effects of narcissism on relationships and our discussion of tips on dealing with someone who has these traits.


Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.     

Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.   We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.   

Nov 16, 202328:42
Episode 82 - Toxic Positivity

Episode 82 - Toxic Positivity

In a previous episode, Joseph and Paula mentioned Toxic Positivity. It is a topic that has been getting a lot of attention lately and they wanted to delve a little deeper into this concept. In today’s episode the pair explore what it is, its impact on mental health, and how to navigate this phenomenon in daily life. 

Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.     

Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.   We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.   

And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.

Resources researched or referenced for this episode:

Carmichael, C., Ph. D. (2021, July 21). What is Toxic Positivity? Psychology Today. Retrieved June 20, 2023, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/what-is-toxic-positivity

Cherry, K., MS, ED. (2023, May 15). Toxic Positivity: Why It’s Harmful and What to Say Instead. Verywell Mind. Retrieved June 13, 2023, from https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-toxic-positivity 

Villines, Z. (2021, March 31). What to Know About Toxic Positivity. Medical News Today. https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/toxic-positivity#what-it-is

Toxic Positivity. (n.d.-b). Psychology Today. Retrieved June 15, 2023, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/basics/toxic-positivity

Nov 09, 202325:34
Episode 81: Emotional Regulation and Mindfulness

Episode 81: Emotional Regulation and Mindfulness

Emotions can be threatening or rewarding. They can act as a compass to guide us when we understand them and have the ability to regulate them. In this episode, Joseph and Paula discuss Emotional Regulation, including what it is, the benefits, and how to begin. Also included are lots of easy-to-use Mindfulness exercises.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at
www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Resources researched or referenced for this episode:
Mindfulness www.scienceofpeople.com/mindfulness-activities/

Nov 02, 202335:20
Episode 79: Emotions
Oct 26, 202325:28
Episode 80: Managing Negative Emotions

Episode 80: Managing Negative Emotions

Why do we avoid negative emotions? Which emotions are considered negative? Joseph and Paula dig into negative emotions and discuss how to deal with them. One of Joseph's favorite sayings is, "Honor your emotions!" and we truly believe that. The duo shared some great resources, too. You will find those linked below. Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net     You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.    

Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.   We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.   And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. Resources Referenced and used as Research in this episode:

How Negative Emotions Affect Us and How to Embrace Them (verywellmind.com)

Lim N. Cultural differences in emotion: differences in emotional arousal level between the East and the West. Integrate Med Res. 2016;5(2):105-109. doi:10.1016/j.imr.2016.03.004

Negative Emotions: Types, Causes, and How to Cope (verywellmind.com)

Taking a Break from Work (and Why You Need To) (verywellmind.com)

Ugueto AM, Santucci LC, Krumholz LS, Weisz JR. Problem-solving skills training. Evidence-Based CBT for Anxiety and Depression in Children and Adolescents: A Competencies-Based Approach. 2014. doi:10.1002/9781118500576.ch17

Oct 26, 202333:30
ENCORE! Poisonous Parings!

ENCORE! Poisonous Parings!

We are bringing you an ENCORE this week. - one of our most listened to episodes!

We are practicing self-care during this rapid paced fall season by taking a week away from the Life Lived Better Studios.

As you move about your life, don't forget to take care of yourself.

Original Show Notes:

We are talking about Toxic Relationships. Shaming, blaming, isolating...just a few of the things you might find in an unhealthy relationship. Paula refers to them as "Poisonous Pairings" and Joseph tells you when you need to run the other way. The topic is complex, so it is broken into two parts. This episode discusses the often-subtle red flags to be aware of. 

If you or someone you know needs help, the National Domestic Violence Hotline phone number is 1-800-799-7233. 

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at ⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠  

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠.  

Paula’s Blog is often updated with information from the show. You can find it at PaulaHellerGarland.BlogSpot.com  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

Oct 12, 202347:23
Episode 78: Emotional Intelligence
Oct 05, 202336:38
Episode 77: Friendship
Sep 28, 202348:19
Episode 76: Q4C - Interview Version

Episode 76: Q4C - Interview Version

Joseph and Paula are back with Questions for Counselors - with a twist. This time, Paula interviews Joseph by asking him questions some of her students sent.

This interview is in conjunction with The UNT Recovery to Practice Initiative and you can watch the interview on YouTube. All questions can be found on the UNT RTP YouTube Channel. If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net   You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

Sep 21, 202320:13
Episode 75: Values Clarification
Sep 14, 202321:57
Happy Labor Day!

Happy Labor Day!

Have a safe and healthy Labor Day. We look forward to being back with you soon.

Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠ or email them directly at ⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠.    

Just a reminder - anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.  

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.  

And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   


Sep 04, 202301:15
Episode 74: Healthy Employment - What that is and How to find it

Episode 74: Healthy Employment - What that is and How to find it

Are you looking for a job? Wondering what to look for in a potential employer? Joseph and Paula discuss what most people want from an employer. They talk about characteristics of healthy employment and how to find it.
Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at
www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.
We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.
And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Information resourced in this episode:
www.boisestate.edu/student-life/5-1-2-things-to-look-for-in-an-employer/
What Makes a Company a Great Place To Work: 15 Things | Indeed.com
www.wayup.com/guide/10-things-look-company/
Aug 31, 202330:31
Episode 73: Disklike Your Family?

Episode 73: Disklike Your Family?

Dislike your family? You are not alone. We are all human beings, and all have likes and dislikes. It is not that abnormal to dislike some family members. Joseph and Paula will address how to deal with your own feelings and your family when you find yourself in this situation. 


Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.    


Just a reminder - Anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.  

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.  

And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   


Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources: 

 'I Hate My Family:' What to Do If You Feel This Way (verywellmind.com)

Aug 24, 202328:49
ENCORE: Who Am I?

ENCORE: Who Am I?

Joseph and Paula are taking their own advice and taking a week off for self-care. Who Am I? is one of their most played previous episodes. Enjoy.

Have you ever considered what makes you who you are and how you became that way? What is the reason for your beliefs? Your likes and dislikes? Your perceptions and values? Joseph and Paula tackle the existential question, Who Am I? on this issue of Life, Lived Better. 

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at ⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠ 

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

Aug 17, 202342:21
Episode 72: Self Talk Part Two

Episode 72: Self Talk Part Two

In the second part of this topic, Joseph and Paula share examples of positive and negative self-talk and provide ideas on how to combat negative self-talk.

In part one, they asked...When you talk to yourself, what do you say? Does your inner voice compliment or criticize? How can we change a negative inner voice to a positive?

Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠ or email them directly at ⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠.    

Just a reminder - anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.  

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.  

And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   

Resourced Information 

Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources: 

⁠7 Examples of Positive Self-Talk - Jay Shetty Genius -⁠ 

⁠21 Examples of Negative Self Talk & Negative Thoughts That Kill (thedailymeditation.com)⁠ 

⁠Self-Talk | Psychology Today⁠ 

Aug 10, 202327:35
Episode 71: Self Talk - Part One

Episode 71: Self Talk - Part One

When you talk to yourself, what do you say? Does your inner voice compliment or criticize? How can we change a negative inner voice to a positive? In this episode, Joseph and Paula address Self-Talk...the reason it exists and how to use it to your advantage.  

Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.    

Just a reminder - anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.  

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.  

And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   

Resourced Information 

Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources: 

7 Examples of Positive Self-Talk - Jay Shetty Genius - 

21 Examples of Negative Self Talk & Negative Thoughts That Kill (thedailymeditation.com) 

Self-Talk | Psychology Today 

Aug 03, 202331:06
Episode 70: Hitting Rock Bottom

Episode 70: Hitting Rock Bottom

Hitting Rock Bottom is a sign that something is not working. In this episode, Joseph and Paula define Rock Bottom, share some personal rock bottom stories, and offer some tips on what to do when you are there.   

Questions? If you have questions, you would like Joseph and Paula to address during an upcoming episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.    

Just a reminder - anything shared during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice - it is solely our opinion. Information shared does not represent our employers or profession.  

We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us.  

And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   

Information for this episode was resourced from the following sources: 

When You Hit Rock Bottom, Follow These 7 Tips to Thrive Again (lifeadvancer.com) 

Why hitting rock bottom can be good for you - PsychMechanics 

Jul 27, 202334:50
Episode 69: Questions for Counselors

Episode 69: Questions for Counselors

Paula and Joseph bring you a listener favorite - Questions for Counselors!
Enjoy!
If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at
www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net
You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.
Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.
Jul 20, 202329:54
Episode 68: Dependent Personality Disorders

Episode 68: Dependent Personality Disorders

In the last episode Joseph and Paula talked about Love and Love Addiction. In this episode, they address sex addiction, erotomania, and dependent personality disorder.  They explore the signs, symptoms, and treatment of each.  

If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org    

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net     

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.     

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.    

Resourced Information  

Dependent Personality Disorder | Psychology Today  

Erotomania, What Is It? Causes, Symptoms, Diagnosis, Treatment (webmd.com)  

Sex Addiction: 8 Signs to Look For (webmd.com)  

Jul 13, 202332:38
Fourth of July

Fourth of July

Happy Independence Day to our listeners in the USA.

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.    

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   

Jul 05, 202300:39
Episode 67: Love and Love Addiction

Episode 67: Love and Love Addiction

Is it love or addiction? Joseph and Paula address the benefits of love and also look at love addiction. What are the signs, symptoms, and treatment? Listen to find out.   

If you or someone you know struggles with sex addiction, consider reaching out to SAA, Sex Addicts Anonymous. SAA states that their primary purpose to help people recover from sexual addiction. SAA is a 12-step program. It is not therapy. It is free and offered in person and online. To learn more about SAA, you can find them online at saa-recovery.org. You can call them at 713.869.4902 or email them at info@saa-recovery.org 

Questions? If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.    

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   

Resourced Information 

7 benefits of being in love | Life (news24.com) 

Love Addiction: Definition, Symptoms, Causes, Treatment (verywellmind.com) 

What Is Love Addiction? - Addiction Treatment (apn.com) 

Jun 29, 202337:30
Episode 66: Magical Thinking

Episode 66: Magical Thinking

Knock on wood? Throw salt over your shoulder? Think wearing your lucky undies will help your favorite sports team win the big game? You might be engaging in Magical Thinking. And that is not all bad. But, there is a downside to Magical Thinking. Joseph and Paula share examples of this Magical Thinking and Superstitions. They also address why we do this, the negative outcomes if it goes too far, and how to stop.  

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠ or email them directly at ⁠Info@lifelivedbetter.net⁠    

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: ⁠www.lifelivedbetter.net⁠.    

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.   

Resourced Information that contributed to this episode:

7 Helpful Tips to Overcome Magical Thinking | Inspiration | SuccessStory 

Magical Thinking | Psychology Today 

Magical Thinking: What It Is and Isn't (healthline.com) 

Jun 22, 202331:38
Episode 65: Keep the Change

Episode 65: Keep the Change

Keep the change!

Want to not only make some life changes but keep the changed things changed? In this episode, Joseph and Paula provide some insight into the reason it is difficult to change, steps to make changes, and tips on how to keep the change once you have taken the initial action.  

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net   

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.   

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better.  

Resourced Information:  

8 Good Reasons Why Change Is Hard (dumblittleman.com) 

5 Ways to Make Changes That Stick | Psychology Today 

Jun 15, 202327:08
Episode 64: Excuses
Jun 08, 202329:39
Memorial Day Message

Memorial Day Message

Happy Memorial Day and Mental Health Month from Life, Lived Better.

May 29, 202300:56
Episode 63: Questions for Counselors, Part 2

Episode 63: Questions for Counselors, Part 2

Finishing up this round of Questions for Counselors, Joseph and Paula address reasons some addictions are harder to overcome than others, how to support a person who has made major changes, things to help a person change without going to counseling and more!

Keep the questions coming. They get better with each new Questions for Counselors!

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net  

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

May 25, 202323:21
Episode 62: Questions for Counselors, Part 1

Episode 62: Questions for Counselors, Part 1

How do you get over the loss of your father? How do you help your loved one get into recovery? How do you support someone who has made huge life changes?

These are a few of the questions people asked Joseph and Paula to answer on this episode of Questions for Counselors!

Enjoy!

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net  

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

May 18, 202339:42
Episode 61: The Mask We Wear

Episode 61: The Mask We Wear

Social Masks are created to make us more comfortable and ease our fears. We wear masks when interacting with people we think will not accept us if they knew who we “really were”. There are a number of types of masks we might wear. They all hide our authenticity. In this episode, Joseph and Paula talk about the reasons we wear masks, the types of masks many people use, and how to break free of these masks to reveal who you truly are.  

 

Information sourced for this episode includes:  

 

The Dream Catcher: Live Your Dream Life, Make a Difference. 

The Masks That We Wear | Psychology Today 

Personality Masks: 11 Examples | Psych Central 

Lyrics to Perfect by Alanis Morisette 

Poem Please Heard What I'm Not Saying by Charles C. Finn, 1966

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net  

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net.  

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

May 04, 202337:06
Episode 60: Communication Styles

Episode 60: Communication Styles

If someone asks you to go to dinner, what is your response?

  • Sure. I will go if I can pick the restaurant.
  • Sure. I will go and I will go to the restaurant you pick.
  • Sure. I have no opinion on where we go. But I will complain if it isn't what I secretly wanted.
  • Sure. We can go to the restaurant you pick this time and my choice next time.

Each of these responses represent a Communication Style. Do you know your Communication Style? Listen as Joseph and Paula address the 4 Styles to determine which you most frequently use.

Resourced information:  

4 Types of Communication Styles | Alvernia University 

Burr, W. R. (1990). Beyond I-Statements in family communication. Family Relations, 39(3), 266. https://doi.org/10.2307/584870 

Understanding Your Communication Style | Princeton University 

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net 

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

Apr 27, 202331:37
Episode 59: Networking

Episode 59: Networking

In this episode, Joseph and Paula discuss Networking. Networking is an investment in your career. It takes time and motivation to develop. It will also take some risks. We often think of networking related to career, but networking can also be for any area of our life we want to grow.

Join Joseph and Paula as they explore the elements involved in networking, tips for growing your network, and the practices set forth by experts.  

Resourced information for this episode can be found through the following links:  

Professional Networking: How to Build Your Network | Built In 

You’ve Heard of Remote Working, but What About Remote Networking? | Built In 

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net 

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

Apr 20, 202324:47
Episode 58: Eating Disorders and Coping

Episode 58: Eating Disorders and Coping

In this episode, Joseph and Paula discuss the 3 main eating disorders: Anorexia, Bulimia, and Binge Eating. They provide the symptoms for each and how to cope with an eating disorder. They also share information on NEDA, the National Eating Disorder Association Helpline to reach out to if you need support for yourself or someone you love. You can visit online National Eating Disorders Association (NEDA) Helpline or all them at 1-800-931-2237.  

If you think you might have an eating disorder, talk to your doctor or mental health professional.   

You can also contact one of the following organizations for more information and support:   

Resourced information for this episode can be found through the following links:   

25 Daily Affirmations to Improve Your Mental Health   

Healthline: Everything you need to know about Disordered Eating.  

How to Stop Emotional Eating from Stress  

If you have a question, you would like Joseph and Paula to answer during an episode of Questions for Counselors, feel free to reach out through the website at www.lifelivedbetter.net or email them directly at Info@lifelivedbetter.net 

You can find information about this and other episodes on the website: www.lifelivedbetter.net

Just a reminder - anything shared by the pair during this and all other episodes is based on personal experiences and opinions. It is not to be viewed as professional counseling or advice and is solely the opinion of the individual and does not represent their employers or profession. We would love for you to rate our show and tell others about us. And remember, Knowledge leads to a Life Lived Better. 

Apr 13, 202335:51