We Resolve to Win

In this week’s episode, we are discussing the Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument (TKI) which addresses the conflict styles.  It's incredibly important to raise your awareness of how you show up when you are in the middle of in conflict.  This information will hold a mirror up to you.  We want to know better so that we can do better.  That starts with a solid foundation of information!  In this part one, we are looking at the benefits and disadvantages of the Accommodating Style and the Avoiding Style.  

Find this episode’s transcript here: https://share.descript.com/view/QxOd3nbOlop  

Hi everyone! I’m excited to be back!  I want you all to know that we are relaunching on March 8th!  March 8th is International Women’s Day and we have some great things in store!  As I’m facelifting in the background, check out these three episodes:

Hey Entrepreneurial Queens!  First, let me say, "Happy New Year!"  I can still say that right?  In this episode, we go through 5 pitfalls that Entrepreneurial Queens need to avoid.  The actions are often linked to certain behaviors, such as pride.  I hope to support you in walking in excellence but in order to do that, you have to go in with your eyes wide open and avoid these contracting pitfalls!  Like this episode?  Be sure to share it with a friend!

In this episode, I address an important topic for working mothers (and yes, aunties too): teaching children conflict resolution skills!  I talk about 5 ways in which any mother/caregiver can support the little ones in their lives.  Of the many tips I provide, I specifically love "forgive your children" the most.  Why?  Because I had to walk a path of deep forgiveness of motherhood and yes, even of my son in order to authentically teach him how to forgive.  It truly was my saving grace.  

I. AM. EXCITED.  This is my first episode discussing the workplace specifically but it will not be my last.  I am so incredibly honored to talk to Praise Mok, Deputy CEO of ROHEI, a leading Learning and Development organization based in Singapore.  I had the chance to work with ROHEI's colleagues on the ground for six weeks and it truly was a life-changing experience.  It helped me find my purpose in helping people resolve to win and gain clarity on so many other things.  In this episode, Praise talks about the importance of establishing trust, how leaders can address fractured trust and what employees can do to flex their courage muscle.  Be sure to listen and share with your friends and colleagues!  

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What a delight it was to talk to Shable Harris, a Software Engineer and Creative Director based out of Miami Beach, Florida.  In this episode, Shable shares her journey, what she learned along the way and the importance of learning how to fall in love with failure.  What I was most excited about this episode is how Shable talked about the importance to make room for yourself and not being "quiet about it."  She also speaks of tribe, community and the things that being in tech taught her as an African-American woman.  Her advice is wonderful and her heart is sincere!  Enjoy the episode!

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In this episode, I interview Cathy Heller, the host of the podcast Don’t Keep Your Day Job, which has over 12 million downloads and features conversations with creative entrepreneurs like actress Jenna Fischer, blogger Seth Godin and more.  Cathy is a phenomenal coach and she’s sparking a movement for every soul to add their gift to the world.  I am still amazed that I got a chance to interview her #MindBlown.  We talk about her journey to getting to where she is and most importantly, how she has managed to maintain the courage to live her life on purpose.  

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In this episode, I chat with a long-time friend, Kiana Wheeler who is an inspiration to me in so many respects.  She shares her journey on how she went from conflict in her major to being a corporate leader.  She also share her vision and beautiful organization named, Corporate Missionary.  

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Farah Harris, Licensed Therapist is back for a special episode for Mental Health Awareness Month.  In this episode, Farah addresses vicarious trauma, collective grieving and the importance of placing extra boundaries to protect ourselves during this time.  

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On this episode, I chat with Brieanna Lightfoot Smith, the Founder of Black Girls with Purpose based in Arlington, Texas (United States).  Talking to Brie was such a delight for me - it was the nourishment that I needed and so timely.  My hope is that you can find your identity in what truly matters and that it anchors it accordingly.  My hope is that you're also courageously finding your purpose and living it out with community support.

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In this episode, I speak with Piper Grigsby, aka “Your Dedicated Care Concierge”™️.  She is the the Founder of PGrigsby Consulting Health and Wellness.  She writes, "I am a 25+ yr healthcare professional, which includes care coordination and physician recruitment and management, I saw the need to build a community and health and wellness network dedicated to serve professional women. Bringing specific, qualified resources, tools, services and providers that are dedicated to serve women with the approach and care they need and deserve. I believe without health there is no wealth for anyone. There are many platforms that share what we should be doing to help ourselves, but I’ve created a whole professional network and community that are dedicated to be of service to women, when and how they need it. Also I am here to share specifically how and what to do in ways that are more accessible and stress free to women. My Mission : To improve the lives of professional women by “Bridging the Gap Between Women and Wellness”™️. The goal is to create healthier happier wives, mothers, family members, employees and citizens."

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I had the pleasure of speaking with a great friend of mine, Zena Stevens on project managing within the home.  Zena is a PMP certified Project Manager out of Orlando, Florida and is the most organized person that I know of.  She has two very busy daughters, works full-time for a large corporation, ADP as a leader project manager and manages to still have date night (when not in quarantine!).  I love the practice advice that she gives in this episode about working with virtual teams, managing client expectations and using project management skills within the home.    

As you know, chatting with women in tech is always a wonderful thing for me.  I feel that I always learn something great about them, the tech field and even myself.  In this episode, I chat with Ashley Janelle as she shares her insight as a UX/UI Designer and UX Course Creator.

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Working in the workplace can raise much conflict.  We experience diverse work styles, different personality types, and carry different perspectives.  Diversity has become a popular (yet triggering) word for many circles but as the world continues to change, it is important that we elevate our emotional intelligence and manage ourselves appropriately.  In this episode, I speak with Kendra R. Thomas, an international, award-winning Diversity, Equity & Inclusion Leader.  She shares her perspective about her working in diverse environments and how employees can work better. 

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This week, I interview Lauren Thomas Quigley, PhD who works as an AI Education and Curriculum Lead based on Seattle, WA.  Lauren managed to build a university in a corporation and on this episode, she shares how she transitioned out of academia and brought her brilliance to big tech.  While she was criticized for having high standards for her work and other people's work, she still had the ability to break through many barriers.  I love the advice that she gives at the end of the episode that will also help me in my career.  Please join me in listening to this week's episode!    

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Continuing with our #DiversityInTech series, I interview B. Pagels-Minor who works as a Senior Engineering Program Manager based in San Jose, CA.  When B. reached out to me to chat about being diverse in tech, I jumped on the opportunity because they have held great positions in several large companies.  Who else, if anyone would be able to speak to being diverse in tech than someone who has such a wonderful resume such as B.'s?  Yet, when I talked to them, I learned so much about individuals that are trans/non-binary and their ability to leverage their unique experiences for companies.  I believe this episode will be educational for individuals inside and outside of the LGBTQ+ community that want to create business value for organizations of every size.  Be sure to share.

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Everyone has a voice but unfortunately, some people don't use their voice in an empowering way.  Some people can often be mean, negative and create obstructions to your goal of speaking up.  In this week's episode, we are going to examine and discussion certain behaviors that are inhibitors to your effective communication and conflict resolution.  

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In this week's episode, I share an unfortunate situation where I botched an internship because I failed to speak up.  About 15 years ago, I had a rare opportunity to intern at a local agency as a law student.  Things happened, I blew up and I blew it.  Ugh!  I am also sharing three (3) lessons I learned from this situation and how you can apply them in future conflict resolutions.  While I can smile about it now, I surely frowned about it then.  Take a listen!

Episode transcript: https://share.descript.com/view/UaPuBwAADZZ 

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Your journey to speaking up more, negotiating effectively and resolving conflict in all areas of your life starts today.  In this first episode, you get a quick snippet of what is to come with this podcast.  Learn more about me and what We Resolve to Win is all about.  I will cover:

1. Who I am, where I grew up and get a snippet into why I encourage women to speak up;

2. Why I started the We Resolve to Win Facebook group; and

3. What you can expect from this podcast, what the show format will be and the types of topics that I will discuss.

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