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Divorce etc... hosted by the exEXPERTS (T.H. and Jessica)

Divorce etc... hosted by the exEXPERTS (T.H. and Jessica)

By T.H. Irwin and Jessica Herzberg

T.H. and Jess are best friends who lived parallel lives - engaged a month apart, married a month apart, and after 13 yrs found out their husbands were cheating and traveling with their girlfriends as couples...for years!

Divorce etc... is a funny, uplifting, no-BS conversation with best friends who know how important friendship is during hard times. We've lived it, so we get it!

We ask the hard questions to lawyers, financial advisors, therapists, dating experts and anyone who can help you get through divorce. You don't know what you don't know, but we do!

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Divorce etc... hosted by the exEXPERTS (T.H. and Jessica)Feb 06, 2023

Divorcing Because Your Spouse is Gay | S4, Ep. 13
Mar 25, 202433:47
Getting Unstuck in the Divorce Process | S4, Ep. 12

Getting Unstuck in the Divorce Process | S4, Ep. 12

It's easy to get caught up in dealing with the divorce settlement, and oftentimes the lawyers can even rile you up and set you off down a path that you hadn't intended. It's complicated and can get messy and emotional. But there is a different way to divorce, if you aren't planning to litigate, and we find out exactly how in this episode! (Guest: Heather MacKenzie, Hello Divorce)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Hello Divorce. Founded by an attorney with over 16 years of experience, who was sick of the broken family law system, Hello Divorce was created to make divorce easy, kind, and affordable and completely online. Their guiding principles are to make sure both spouses feel heard, supported, and set up for success as they move into their next chapter in life. To learn more go to ⁠⁠www.hellodivorce.com⁠⁠. And to get a FREE call with Hello Divorce, go to www.HelloDivorce.com/exEXPERTS

Mar 18, 202432:42
What's Fair vs Enough in Divorce? | S4, Ep. 11
Mar 11, 202433:47
The Mom's Guide to a Good Divorce with Sarah Armstrong | S4, Ep. 10
Mar 04, 202433:47
Warnings About Dating After Divorce | S4, Ep. 9

Warnings About Dating After Divorce | S4, Ep. 9

It's both exciting and scary to start dating again after divorce, but what are some of the warning signs to look out for? Nowadays, there are a lot of people who say they're divorced when it's not finalized yet, or who aren't totally truthful about their living situation and more. How to know if you're getting the real story? This is a must hear episode with dating stories from the one and only Carmindy! (Guest: Carmindy, Founder Carmindy Beauty, Entrepreneur)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to ⁠⁠⁠www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com⁠⁠⁠

Feb 26, 202428:59
Step-parenting (Bonus Parenting) Done Right! | S4, Ep. 8

Step-parenting (Bonus Parenting) Done Right! | S4, Ep. 8

If you have kids, then there's a very good chance there will be some type of stepparent role after your divorce - either with your new partner and their kids or your ex's new partner and your own kids. We know it's hard to accept a stepparent in your kids' lives, mostly because we don't want someone else involved in decisions being made and of course the fear of how much our kids will like/love this new person, and how it will affect our relationships with our kids. But there are so many things to know about how to be a stepparent and how to handle your kids having a stepparent, and it really doesn't have to be the nightmare we've seen in movies. We dig deep in this episode and it will be a huge help to everyone out there trying to deal with this situation. (Guest: Maria Napatov, Stepparenting Coach)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to ⁠⁠www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com⁠⁠

Feb 22, 202433:34
Divorce and Taxes (Part 2) | S4, Ep. 7

Divorce and Taxes (Part 2) | S4, Ep. 7

It's not a sexy topic, but tax time is coming and there are some specific things you need to know so you don't get hit with any penalties or fees if you're getting divorced. If your divorce wasn't finalized before the end of the year, do you file jointly or separately? If you have kids, how do you determine who claims them? We go through all the important basics so you're set up for success! (Guest: Donna Stern, CPA and Financial Expert)

FYI - Divorce and Taxes Part 1 is S2, Ep 26 with Michele Spence

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to ⁠⁠www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com⁠⁠


Feb 12, 202433:01
Harmonious Coparenting | S4, Ep. 6

Harmonious Coparenting | S4, Ep. 6

Have you ever heard of harmonious coparenting? Does the expression make you cringe or smile? If you want to know ways you can actually make peace and harmony with your coparent, then this is the episode for you. It is filled with such great, actionable tips and Jessica even used one with her own ex/coparent after we recorded it with great success! The advice here is priceless and could legit change the relationship you currently have with your ex! (Guest: Luke Entrup, Teacher and Coach)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com

Feb 05, 202441:46
Recovering From a Narcissist | S4, Ep 5

Recovering From a Narcissist | S4, Ep 5

We have heard from so many people that need help recovering from marriages to narcissists, and this episode is a great primer on how to start your recovery and move on. There are specific coping skills that are important to understand, because these relationships are very different, often involving emotional abuse which can leave you feeling both scared and scarred. In this episode you'll learn the top tips for recovering from a narcissistic relationship - as well as what all of that even means. (Kimberly Weeks, Narcissistic Abuse Coach)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Kimberly Nelson at Coastal Bridge Advisors. Kimberly helps divorcees learn to focus on the life they want to live, and how your money can work for you to get there. Kimberly has been a financial advisor to high-net worth divorcees across the country for nearly 20 years and she understands what we go through during divorce. With offices on both coasts, if you’re ready to speak to someone to help you get your finances and all the money stuff in order, go to www.coastalbridgeadvisors.com

Jan 29, 202429:31
What Can Go Wrong in Divorce Mediation | S4, Ep. 4
Jan 22, 202432:37
How Did I Even Marry My Ex? | S4, Ep. 3
Jan 15, 202435:39
Reintroducing Yourself to You After Divorce | S4, Ep. 2
Jan 08, 202436:34
Rediscovering Yourself After Divorce | S4, Ep. 1
Jan 01, 202431:26
Divorced AF - Jess and Her Ex Tell All | S3, Ep. 52

Divorced AF - Jess and Her Ex Tell All | S3, Ep. 52

In this special episode, we invite Jessica's ex to come on and face the music...we mean share his feelings and opinions about their marriage and divorce. Hear from both of them on what worked, what didn't, and what they think of each other as exes today. (Guest: Daren Herzberg, Jessica's ex husband)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠SOBERLINK⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠: If you're co-parenting with an ex-partner who abuses alcohol, Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system can provide evidence that they aren't drinking during parenting time. The system's real-time alerts, facial recognition and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. For more information and to get $50 off your device, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠soberlink.com/etc⁠⁠

Dec 25, 202338:11
Warning Signs of Mate Poaching | S3, Ep. 51

Warning Signs of Mate Poaching | S3, Ep. 51

There's a new trend we're hearing about when it comes to dating after divorce - mate poaching. This isn't cheating, exactly, but it's when someone sets up a situation with the ultimate goal of stealing someone's partner. The crazy part is that the one being poached has no idea...and it has real consequences and ruins relationships. One of our favorite relationship and dating coaches explains all the details, how to know if you're being poached and what you can (and should!) do to stop it. (Guest: ⁠Jennifer Hurvitz, Doing Relationships Right⁠)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠⁠SOBERLINK⁠⁠⁠⁠: If you're co-parenting with an ex-partner who abuses alcohol, Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system can provide evidence that they aren't drinking during parenting time. The system's real-time alerts, facial recognition and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. For more information and to get $50 off your device, go to ⁠⁠⁠⁠soberlink.com/etc

Dec 18, 202326:60
Divorcing an Addict | S3, Ep. 50

Divorcing an Addict | S3, Ep. 50

Have you ever been worried that your ex drinks too much or struggles with addiction? This is a very difficult issue to deal with, especially around the holidays, when experts say the problem can increase significantly. How do you keep yourself and your children safe? This episode will help you identify the patterns to watch out for, how to determine if there is truly a problem, and how you can deal with it. The tips and advice you'll hear can help anyone you know that is struggling with a partner who is an addict. (Guest: ⁠Kim Kassnove, Life & Relationship Coach⁠)

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SPONSORED BY ⁠⁠⁠SOBERLINK⁠⁠⁠: If you're co-parenting with an ex-partner who abuses alcohol, Soberlink's alcohol monitoring system can provide evidence that they aren't drinking during parenting time. The system's real-time alerts, facial recognition and tamper detection ensure the integrity of each test so you can be confident your kids are with a sober parent. For more information and to get $50 off your device, go to ⁠⁠⁠soberlink.com/etc

Dec 11, 202334:51
Dealing with Emotional Abuse | S3, Ep. 49
Dec 04, 202330:40
Getting Your Shit Together After Divorce | S3, Ep.48
Nov 27, 202330:57
How to Survive the Holidays During Divorce - Just Us | S3, Ep.47

How to Survive the Holidays During Divorce - Just Us | S3, Ep.47

Are you excited about or dreading the holidays? Either way, it's natural to have feelings around the holiday season, and we've learned a LOT over the years after our divorces. We've compiled some of our best tips to help you survive the holidays, including what to do about holiday cards, gifts, budgeting and what if you are solo - you can still enjoy the holidays, just make a plan. (T.H. & Jess)


Nov 20, 202334:24
Dating an Old Flame After Divorce | S3, Ep.46
Nov 13, 202326:48
Should I Take My Ex Back to Court? | S3, Ep. 45
Nov 07, 202331:45
Insider Tips to Dating After Divorce | S3, Ep. 44
Oct 30, 202329:51
Divorce as a Source of Empowerment | S3, Ep. 43
Oct 24, 202329:42
Protecting Yourself from AI in Divorce | S3, Ep. 42
Oct 16, 202333:41
What You Need to Know About Finances in Divorce | S3, Ep. 41
Oct 09, 202328:36
Getting Through Divorce with exEXPERTS | S3, Ep. 40
Oct 02, 202334:49
Empower Kids with a Co-Parenting Calendar During Separation + Divorce | S3, Ep. 39
Sep 25, 202326:17
Are You Ready to Win? | S3, Ep. 38
Sep 18, 202325:22
Feeling Like You're in Control of Your Divorce | S3, Ep. 37
Sep 11, 202330:31
Looking for a Job After Divorce? | S3, Ep. 36
Sep 04, 202333:01
What is Legal Abuse in Divorce? | S3, Ep. 35
Aug 28, 202330:07
Are You Coparenting with An Asshole? | S3, Ep. 34
Aug 21, 202334:35
Divorce Tips for Moms and Dads | S3, Ep. 33
Aug 14, 202330:09
How Do You Deal with a Smear Campaign? | S3, Ep. 32
Aug 07, 202333:20
What Can You Say During Divorce (To Not Get in Trouble)? | S3, Ep. 31
Aug 01, 202341:49
Have You Lost Your Identity? | S3, Ep.30
Jul 24, 202336:38
Common Financial Pitfalls in Divorce | S3, Ep. 29
Jul 17, 202326:28
Advanced Adulting with Bradley Richardson | S3, Ep. 28
Jul 10, 202338:25
Divorce Do's and Don'ts with Dennis Vetrano | S3, Ep. 27
Jul 03, 202331:12
A Personal Story of Divorcing a Narcissist | S3, Ep. 26
Jun 26, 202330:58
Parenting Apps for Divorced Parents | S3, Ep. 25
Jun 19, 202327:01
Divorced Dads Father's Day | S3, Ep. 24
Jun 11, 202328:38
Out of Court Options for Divorce | S3, Ep. 23
Jun 05, 202328:53
SPLIT UP - A Movie From Kids of Divorce | S3, Ep. 22
May 29, 202347:56
Concerns About Money During Divorce | S3, Ep. 21
May 22, 202327:22
Handling the Stress of Divorce | S3, Ep. 20
May 15, 202327:59
Grow the F*ck Up with Sarah Knight | S3, Ep. 19
May 08, 202326:19
How to Recover From Divorce | S3, Ep. 18
May 01, 202323:39
Moving Forward Through the Divorce Process | S3, Ep. 17

Moving Forward Through the Divorce Process | S3, Ep. 17

You can get stuck in any phase of the divorce process - even deciding "should you or shouldn't you" is a monumental decision. And once you do choose the divorce path, moving forward through the process can be very tricky in many ways. There are some things you can control while you're going through it, and that's what you'll learn in this episode. We talk about owning your outcome, being a creator versus a victim and the LEAN Framework, and how you can apply it to your situation. Everyone can learn something from this podcast! (Guest: Jennifer Warren Medwin, FL Supreme Court Family Mediator & Divorce Coach)

Email hello@exexperts.com if you would like to set up a private session with Jessica and T.H. to help with your process!

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Apr 24, 202330:53
Protecting Your Kids When Divorcing a Narcissist | S3, Ep. 16

Protecting Your Kids When Divorcing a Narcissist | S3, Ep. 16

It's hard to see our kids be disappointed, especially when it stems from their other parent letting them down. It's instinct to want to protect them from that hurt, which often comes in the form of covering for that other parent. It could be as simple as getting the birthday gift for the party they're invited to on your ex's weekend, or as big as making excuses when your ex doesn't show up when they're supposed to. But shielding them from the inevitable disappointment from a difficult person isn't always the best thing for your kids. Parenting expert Christina McGhee explains how to deal with this kind of situation in divorce, and what's actually the better way to handle things. (Guest: Christina McGhee, MSW, Parenting Expert, Author "Parenting Apart: How Separated and Divorced Parents Can Raise Happy and Secure Kids")

Email hello@exexperts.com if you would like to set up a private session with Jessica and T.H. to help with your process!

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Apr 17, 202336:42