Couply Podcast

Summary

In this conversation, Tim Johnson interviews Keeley Rankin, a sex and relationship coach, about male performance issues. They discuss the three main male performance struggles: premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and erectile dysfunction.

Reach her here: https://www.keeleyrankin.com/

Keeley explains that early ejaculation is often caused by anxiety and teaches clients how to be present in their bodies and let arousal flow. Delayed orgasm is a complex issue related to trust, fantasy, and touch. Erectile dysfunction can be caused by performance pressure, relationship issues, or medical factors. Keeley also mentions the impact of porn use and the importance of learning what feels pleasurable. In this conversation, Keeley Rankin and Tim Johnson discuss the challenges and experiences of men with erectile dysfunction (ED) and early ejaculation. They explore the importance of communication and understanding in relationships, the impact of societal expectations and pressures, and the need for self-reflection and personal growth. Keeley shares her five-step method for addressing early ejaculation, which includes breathwork, connecting with sensations in the body, and exploring fantasies. They also touch on the role of trust and the potential impact of childhood experiences on sexual struggles. Keeley emphasizes the importance of expanding one's toolkit and finding pleasure in the entire body.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Stories

00:51 Exploring Sexuality and Overcoming Intimacy Issues

02:38 The Impact of Sex Events and Workshops

04:48 The Importance of Open Conversations about Sex

07:43 Society's Views on Sex and the Need for Education

09:11 The Desire for More Adventure in the Bedroom

10:49 Exploring Sexual Fantasies

13:59 Understanding Male Performance Issues

16:25 Causes and Solutions for Erectile Dysfunction

23:27 Causes and Solutions for Premature Ejaculation

25:47 Causes and Solutions for Delayed Ejaculation

33:33 Tips for Men and Partners Dealing with Erectile Dysfunction

35:32 Opening up the conversation about attraction and desire

36:30 The implications of not getting an erection

39:24 The five-step method for addressing early ejaculation

46:47 Sensation categories and connecting with the body

50:08 The need for new tools in sexual relationships

55:51 Trust issues and delayed ejaculation

56:47 Upcoming course and conclusion

58:27 Couply Outro - SD 480p.mp4

Keywords

male performance issues, premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, anxiety, trust, fantasy, touch, porn use, pleasure, erectile dysfunction, early ejaculation, communication, relationships, societal expectations, pressures, self-reflection, personal growth, breathwork, sensations, fantasies, trust, childhood experiences, pleasure.

In this webinar, the guest is... me!

I'm Tim Johnson, the founder of Couply. In this episode you get to listen in on a Couply webinar.

What Will You Learn

• How trust and commitment serve as the foundation of a thriving relationship.
• The importance of understanding and admiration for your partner in forging a strong connection.
• Techniques for effective communication, including active listening and how to respond to bids of connection.
• The process of building love maps and the significance of understanding your partner's needs and desires for a fulfilling relationship.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Purpose of Couply

01:31 Relationship as a Crafted Ship

04:53 Understanding and Admiring Your Partner

06:35 Communication and Setting Boundaries

07:35 Positive Perspective and Managing Conflict

08:35 Making Life Dreams Come True

09:29 Building Rituals of Connection

10:56 Understanding Differences Between Men and Women

12:52 Communication Styles of Men and Women

15:20 The Importance of Love Maps

22:18 The A.R.E. Theory and Understanding Your Partner

23:46 The Four Horsemen of the Relationship Apocalypse

28:10 Building Love Maps and Effective Communication

35:11 Conclusion and Call to Action

In this episode, Tim Johnson interviews Kristina Virro, a couples therapist, about the top relationship issues seen in couples therapy.

The conversation covers topics such as the lack of listening in relationships, going to therapy too late, the importance of we-thinking, lacking relationship skills, the significance of micro moments of connection, the fallacy of 'this is just who I am,' overregulating emotions, different communication styles, and the shift from unresponsiveness to responsiveness.

The episode emphasizes the importance of small moments in a relationship and the need for intentionality and mindfulness in nurturing a healthy partnership. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and Background 03:34 Issue 1. Lack of Listening 07:53 Issue 2. Going to Couples Therapy Too Late 08:53 Issue 3. Lacking We-Thinking 11:10 Issue 4. Lacking Relationship Skills 16:19 Issue 5. The Importance of Micro Moments of Connection 20:47 Issue 6. The Fallacy of 'This is Just Who I Am' 29:02 Issue 7. Different Communication Styles 38:25 Issue 8. The Power of Small Moments in a Relationship

Learn how to make your second marriage last.

Amber is a psychologist, couples therapist, podcast host and speaker. 

She is the Founder of Ember Relationship Psychology and inspired hundreds of thousands of people through her instagram, @emberrelationshippsychology and her podcast Relationship Psych.

In this episode we dive into second marriages, and how you can make sure your marriage lasts forever.

Connect with Amber:

https://www.emberrelationshippsychology.com/

http://instagram.com/emberrelationshippsychology

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/relationship-psych-love-marriage-conflict-psychology/id1412479463

Download Couply: The App for Couples:

Featuring questions, relationship quizzes that help you understand attachment, communication as well as tech for relationship check-ins and sexy couples games,

https://couply.page.link/podcast

Learn more and read reviews:

https://www.couply.io

Charlie Kieswetter is an attachment theory expert, and TikTok content creator – famous for helping millions navigate No Contact and begin rebuilding after a major relationship ends. In this podcast Tim and Charlie dive into Attachment Theory, learning to love again, managing conflict and so much more! 0:00:00 Intros. 0:00:44 Charlie’s Background Story. 0:05:09 Recommendations about Breakups. 00:07:30 Attachment Styles. 00:08:33 How to heal your Attachment Style? 00:10:54 Keys to dropping the Ego 00:13:21 How to focus on what we can control 00:14:25 How to manage emotions? Recognizing Attachment Styles 00:18:37 Anxious Attachment Style 00:20:13 Avoidance Attachment Style 00:25:20 How to create constructive connection? 00:30:55 About “Fighting” vs Constructive Conversations 00:35:24 Learn how to argue - Metaconversations 00:41:44 How curiosity can help us

Azia is an author, public speaker, and thought leader on vaginismus and vulvodynia. With +6 years of living with these conditions, Azia brings a honest and authentic perspective to Instagram and TikTok through awareness, online support groups and e-guides. She also navigated her way through a long distance relationship that lasted for 1.5 years of not seeing each other in person, due to the pandemic. The Couply app community will recognize Azia from our Long Distance Relationship mode! Azia's mission is to make pleasure exploration more innovative and accessible with the help of sex tech and fitness. Think of her as the Captain Kirk of exploring your own galaxy (eyyyyooo). Azia is also a proud member of the queer community, identifying as Filipino/Chinese, and currently residing in the digital nomad paradise of Spain with her long-term boyfriend.

Estève is a TEDx speaker and human connection expert. He is co-founder of Green Elephant that helps the world’s business leaders and leading teams transform the way they communicate. Estève has dedicated more than two decades to decoding the chemistry of human connection. Listen to learn about the eight types of love: philia, pragma, storge, eros, ludus, mania, philautia and finally agape. And we’re so excited to have him on the show. Hosted by Tim Johnson, CEO and co-founder of Couply: The App for Couples which helps couples build an incredible relationship that will last forever.

Amanda is an advocate, writer and coach. 

She leads a community of over 176,000 people with Borderline Personality Disorder. BPD has impacted Amanda's life and relationships. Everything turned around for her when she was finally diagnosed and got the support that she needed.

However... it was a journey. We cover some sensitive topics such as: chronic pain, surgeries, suicide and mental illness.

I met Amanda through Couply, and hearing more about her story and journey… it’s just one that needs to be shared. 

Listen to learn: how to create a loving relationship with someone who has BPD, what the symptoms of BDP are and Amanda's recommendations for the best experts and courses to attend.

It's an incredibly powerful episode.

Dr. Marisa T. Cohen is a relationship scientist, professor, author, speaker and licensed marriage and family therapist. She is a sought after consultant for relationship technology companies. Marisa is the author of First-kiss-to-forever: A scientific approach to love. You will have seen her words from everywhere from Cosmopolitan to the BBC to discuss the science behind modern love. She is the co-founder of SABLE - the Self-Awareness and Bonding Lab, that examines love from a scientific perspective. She is the founder of Embracing Change Marriage and Family Therapy which provides therapeutic services to individuals, couples, and families. Expect to learn: Disasters in dating an AI boyfriend, how to stop technology from ruining your relationship and so much more. Follow Marisa on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marisatcohen/?hl=en Contact Marisa via her website: https://www.marisatcohen.com/ Marisa’s business: https://embracingchangemft.com/

Download Couply here: https://couply.page.link/podcast

Diana Garcia is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in Florida.
She has her BA and Masters in Psychology and is the founder of the Nurturing Minds Counseling. This is where Diana helps people feel more calm, confident, kickass and helps couples build their bond. 

Diana is  a proud first-generation hispanic and is also a soon-to-be published author! Her book: Negative Thoughts Happen: How to Find Your Inner Ally When Your Inner Critic Shows Up will be published in December. 

You can reach Diana on:

Instagram: @nurturingmindscounseling YouTube: @nurturingmindscounseling TikTok: @nurturingmindscounseling Facebook: @nurturingmindscounseling

0:00 Introductions 

5:14 Diana growing up between two cultures

6:14 How do you choose which cultural values you keep and what do you let go of?

8:00 Different expectations from cultures for relationships

11:52 Assumptions and where couples can get stuck 

17:11 Wanting to be right vs. Your individual needs vs. The relationship 

20:58 Creating boundaries with your family can be uncomfortable

24:57 Dealing with guilt trips from immigrant parents

31:53 How to deal with bad behavior when it’s repetitive and reinforce boundaries 

34:44 Why your partner won’t change their relationship with their parents    

36:40 What to do you when your family brushes everything under the rug

41:00 Weddings = culture x family stuff + stress – how to deal with it!

43:50 Open conversations in cross cultural relationships 

52:00 What’s Diana has happening this year 

53:00 How you can connect with Diana 

Dr. Shemena is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist providing therapy to individuals and couples based out of Los Angeles, California. Dr. Shemena practice psychodynamic psychotherapy with a focus on understanding each individual's uniqueness. She works to build self-awareness and help clients meet life's challenges towards fulfillment. Her specialties include anxiety, depression, interpersonal conflicts, life transitions, and difficulties relating in relationships. Expect to learn: how trauma can impact in your relationship; how couples can set healthy boundaries and expectations; how to have an important conversation with your partner without it going off the rails; how to spot a narcissist and what the level of healthy narcissism is for an individual; and so much more... Connect with Dr. Shemena Johnson: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drshemenajohnson/?hl=en Website: https://shemenajohnson.com/ Podcast: https://shemenajohnson.com/dark-matters-with-dr-shemena/ Dr. Shemena Johnson is featured in the Enhancing Communication course in Couply: https://couply.page.link/podcast 0:00:00 Intros 03:46 How does trauma impact our relationships? 08:02 Repetition compulsion: Why do people try and resolve unresolved issues from their past in their current relationships? 10:25 How to manage expectations in a new relationship. 17:25 Understanding your internal blueprints and how they impact your behavior in a relationship. 22:25 Dating a narcissist and the definitions of narcissism. 27:18 How it feels to be in a relationship with someone who is narcissistic. 29:30 In a relationship with a narcissist: why these relationships can be intoxicating and disorientating, understanding warning flags, and what you can do to escape. 33:29 What you should do if you’re in a relationship with a narcissist. 35:20 How do you set a boundary in a relationship? 40:25 What’s more important: liked vs being respected in a relationship? 42:50 How to have an important conversation with your partner. 46:30 How to use communication make a relationship that hums and makes it amazing 49:40 How to get over defensiveness to help your relationship grow 53:10 The importance of having one conversation at a time. 55:24 How to put your issues to the side to keep an open mind. 59:11 Dr. Shemena shares a high form of love.

Modern relationships can be a confusing place for men! In this episode with Matt, we get into the the importance of men being able to hold their partner’s emotionality; how to not shut down when your partner gets emotional; the importance of working fully through arguments and leaving nothing under the rug and how to listen in a way that has the other person feel truly heard

Matt is a relationship expert and men’s group leader. After spending years invested in a fantasy of what a relationship should be - easy, comfortable and sexy all the time, right? - and a reality that was quite the opposite, he got serious training and experience in how to really listen, feel, how to deal with conflict, and how to understand what’s actually happening in relationships.

He helps men wake up to better relationships every day, through coaching and his men’s group AWAKE.

He’s appeared on various podcasts and his writing has been published on Elephant Journal, The Men’s List and The Good Men Project.

He's also a parent of two teenagers, and is in the best relationship of his life!

Get in touch with Matt here: 

http://www.mattcoach.com/easy

https://www.facebook.com/matt.hilliar...

https://www.instagram.com/relationshi...

Download Couply: The App for Couples: https://couply.page.link/podcast

0:00:00 - Introductions 

02:27 - How did Matt get into the relationship space?

09:26 - Why it’s shameful to say your relationship isn’t okay

11:17 - The fantasy of “The One” and “Happily Ever After” 

12:16 - Disassemble the Myth that it’s supposed to be easy

14:13 - What are some things we can do to stop our relationships from failing?

18:00 - What are examples of “Leaning In” to the relationship? 

22:00 - Listening is a gift. 

24:30 - How can I communicate like this when it doesn’t feel authentic?

27:20 - How can moving through a conflict help couples?

34:21 - How men can move through their emotions

36:55 - What does “Holding Emotional Space” mean? 

38:45 - How a man's most powerful skillset can actually play against him.

41:20 - How emotional presence can make you a better father.

43:20 - Matt’s experience with emotions.

47:20 - The emotional power of connection.

52:00 - How emotional connection equals better sex.

54:20 - Holding space is very sexy.

55:00 - The benefits of being emotionally powerful.

56:00 - Learn more about Matt.